Feb 2010 DDC May chat thread!

[HappiLeigh]

Ok, gals, time to sub to our new thread since our DDC is closing. Everybody here?

[NicoleS]

[jul511riv]

hi. thanks for setting this up.

Well, my friend Not a close friend but a friend was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and my mom killed(euthanized) our dog of 16 years. That was this weeks news.

I found out about the latter and the former via facebook.

At any rate, Still asking for prayers for us to be able to build our home here ASAP. Thanks.

Hope Chessa is feeling better.

[NicoleS]

Aww sorry Jul. Sounds like you've had a rough week.

[Snapdragon]

hello!

[aramat]

Hi, y'all!

I can't STAND the thought of sex lately, and even kissing on tv is grossing me out. I have trouble switching off mommy-mode, and we haven't worked out a satisfactory method of birth control. We worked out a compromise bc my husband is as happy with a massage as with sex--whew! I still enjoy giving massages; I guess bc I can stay in mommy-mode for that.

[Nicole730]

Hi Everyone!

I can't believe we our DDC is closing! The time went so fast.

Baby news, twice this evening DD (11 weeks) has tried to sit up. She is obviously nowhere near it, but I put her a boppy in our bed so I could get DS into bed. We went in so DS could say good night to her and she has both arms out in front of her and it using her stomach muscles to pull her head and back off the boppy! She looked at us, smiled and layed back down once we got in there. Then, just now, I put her leaning on a pillow next to me on the couch and she did it again...weird.

Sex: We still haven't DTD. I feel kinda bad, but DH doesn't seem to mind too much. Our wedding anniversary is this week, maybe we'll bust out a condom and celebrate.

[NicoleS]

Hmmm...we've DTD maybe 4 time since baby was born? More for DH's sake than anything else - takes me a long time to switch off mommy mode and half the times we've tried we've gotten interrupted...DH keeps asking how the Duggar's manage to find time to make 19! LOL

[Ambystoma]

Yay for the new thread!

We've DTD about once a week since 4 weeks PP. To tell the truth, I am interested daily, but DH's work schedule makes it near impossible. Although, I forgot to ask-for those who had small tears, does it irritate you for the first few minutes of DTD and then go away? I've been having that experience with the one little tear I had at my perineum. How long before it goes away?

[SunRise]

Joining in!
Thanks HappiLeigh for taking the initiative
postpartum dtd - nada

[flavorfull1]

I can't believe our DDC is closing It feels like that was so fast! DH and I have DTD and we waited a long time because it took a long time for my tailbone to heal. I am not too interested since I am so tired but I do get the urge every now and then.
Ambystoma- I did have a 2nd degree tear on my perineum and labia and I do feel a little ache at first that goes away pretty fast. I am hoping this isn't for too long b/c it randomly gives me a small flashback to pushing....not really a mood enhancer
Malachi isn't really trying to roll over. He will try for a little bit and then just be content to talk and laugh or grab things. He does try to sit up too but he is no where close. He will just resist lying flat and loves when we help him stand up. I love him so much!

[Snapdragon]

[HappiLeigh]

Jul, that's terrible!

My little guy is entering the Big Cheeks stage. They are huge! I just want to pinch them.

Re: the deed. I've been getting fertile-quality cervical fluid, which makes me think my cycles are returning , and the desire to DTD kind of comes along w/ that. But we've only managed to get both kids asleep at the same time and in their own beds once.

[NicoleS]

Argh, there are some days where I feel like I don't fit in anywhere.

I'm sure you all have heard about the BHG article. I joined the "boycott" page, and some of my less-crunchy friends were like why, what's so bad about it? Well, besides the extremely offensive suggestion that I should BF my child in the restroom, I thought the whole tone of the article was derogatory towards parents - to me it made it seem like parents had no common sense. Ugh.

But then I had to politely bow out of a conversation with some crunchier friends today because they started on how evil and poisonous chocolate toddler formula was - I actually just bought a can of it for my 3 yearold. At this point she is so underweight I'll feed her just about anything to get her to eat, so it hurts me for people to insinuate that I'm causing her lifelong harm. It's not really any worse than the Pediasure we've been giving and works out to a lot cheaper per ounce.

I just do the best I can, but I swear some days I can't make ANYONE happy!

[aramat]

Originally Posted by NicoleS

But then I had to politely bow out of a conversation with some crunchier friends today because they started on how evil and poisonous chocolate toddler formula was - I actually just bought a can of it for my 3 yearold. At this point she is so underweight I'll feed her just about anything to get her to eat, so it hurts me for people to insinuate that I'm causing her lifelong harm. It's not really any worse than the Pediasure we've been giving and works out to a lot cheaper per ounce.

I just do the best I can, but I swear some days I can't make ANYONE happy!

If it makes you feel any better, my 3-yr-old drinks boxed chocolate milk EVERY EVERY EVERY morning and often other times a day as well. (I have an excuse -- my husband got her addicted against my advice, and my in-laws insist we not take away something that makes her so happy! :P) It's embarrassing for me, but she's such an amazing kid and so healthy; how wrong can it really be? I'm still super-crunchy in other ways so not feeling too bad about it. (Although I don't recommend it and do plan to avoid it with poor Juju!)

[hapersmion]

Hi, I'm here!

I have a giant baby. He turned three months old yesterday. He's about 14.5 pounds, and just looks so big! There's a little baby at church who's smaller than he is, and she's seven and a half months old.

This week he's been making great strides in getting his fingers in his mouth.

[jul511riv]

nak. luv me baby!

[flavorfull1]

I saw the BHG article and was really offended. I usually try to "see the other side" or whatever but I really think they could have said what they meant without being so derogatory. I really HATE when the bathroom is the place that is suggested to nurse. REALLY? People poop and pee in there. Would you take your meal in to the bathroom and sit on the toilet to eat? or even just make it in there? We have all of these rules and procedures to make sure that we do not have fecal matter in our food or people fixing our food with dirty hands and yet we push moms into the bathroom to feed their babies who have an immature immune system. sigh, sorry to rant.
re: chocolate milk critics...I think parenting is such a weird world to navigate. People are so quick to offer up criticism and slow to offer praise. I hate that that is the dynamic of the parenting community. I try to keep in mind that a) I don't know the whole story about anyone else's life but mine b) I am not that child's parent and c) unless a child is being physically harmed, it is not my business to provide "advice" unless asked.
I am still shocked that people will just come up and give their opinions w/o knowing a person or even being asked. It is really just an interesting social dynamic to me.
my baby is huge too, specifically his cheeks love to pinch them and I love how they scrunch up when he smiles! 4mo sleep regression hitting hard here. Last night and night before we were up nursing every 1-1.5hrs. I am about to fall over asleep! He just has so much to say and do! silly boy. Oh, and my hair is falling out everywhere!
fertile quality cervical fluid here too. think I have had my second AF but it was kind of a pseudo AF b/c it was really short. I have been getting it though after all of the normal signs etc. oh well.

[OlyR]

i totally missed the BHG article. ...off to google.

2nd week back at work for me. if anything this Monday was harder. I had spent weeks mentally prepared myself for my "first" day back but neglected to get the thought process for each additional week going. But I'm ok now.

my wrist is still really bothering me. I had numb fingers in one hand and my wrist hurt on my other hand/arm. I chalked it all up to PG induced carpal tunnel, but now the wrist pain lingers. I guess I need to figure out what to do about it. I wear a brace at night and that seems to help but I still don't have a full range of (pain free) motion, especially when I move my thumb. At least it's on my left (non-dominant) hand.

Thanks for the blanket wedge tip I got on an older thread, I built a better system and DS seems to be waking up less, if anything he will get to his side (which he is ok with) and then stop because of the rolled blanket by his legs. He sleeps next to me so I'm not worried about them being in his co-sleeper and it's nice that he doesn't get stuck on his belly.

[OlyR]

Originally Posted by flavorfull1

Oh, and my hair is falling out everywhere!

yep. me too. I treated myself to a hair cut before returning back to work, but now that my hair has started to fall out I wear it in a ponytail every day or else I would be picking hair off myself all day long.

But the hormonal shift is also a good thing because my dark skin patches (mostly under my arms) has decreased. And the hair growth in places hair should not be has stopped, and maybe started to fall out.