Argh, there are some days where I feel like I don't fit in anywhere.
I'm sure you all have heard about the BHG article. I joined the "boycott" page, and some of my less-crunchy friends were like why, what's so bad about it? Well, besides the extremely offensive suggestion that I should BF my child in the restroom, I thought the whole tone of the article was derogatory towards parents - to me it made it seem like parents had no common sense. Ugh.
But then I had to politely bow out of a conversation with some crunchier friends today because they started on how evil and poisonous chocolate toddler formula was - I actually just bought a can of it for my 3 yearold. At this point she is so underweight I'll feed her just about anything to get her to eat, so it hurts me for people to insinuate that I'm causing her lifelong harm. It's not really any worse than the Pediasure we've been giving and works out to a lot cheaper per ounce.
I just do the best I can, but I swear some days I can't make ANYONE happy!
I don't think I know anyone IRL or online who is all "crunchy", everyone just has different issues that are important to them.
My first thought about chocolate formula was "ugh, what's next?" but then I talked with some people, who use it like you do, and realized that it does serve a purpose for certain kids. I still think it might be abused by some parents, but most just want to get nutrition into their child anyway they can. I encourage you to tell naysayers why you are not against using it and open some minds.
Same for the other side when your non-crunchy friends wonder why you care about certain things. I got some toothpaste for DS before I realized it had parabens in it. After I read about about the 'evils' of parabens, I decided not to use that toothpaste on my son. So I asked a friend if she wanted it, after she asked why I didn't want it, I told her it had stuff in there I didn't want on his teeth. Then she asked more, so I told her about parabens. I hope she doesn't think I was being pushy on her, but I don't think there is anything wrong with informing people, especially parents, about what they might not know about.