I personally do not believe in abstinence in any form, rather: moderation. There is SO much fear-mongering in pregnancy as to what you can and can't do, should and shouldn't eat, etc. It annoys the crap out of me. Now obviously, I'm not going to take up
free climbing and start eating raw sheep's brains for breakfast every day, but I AM going to eat runny eggs when I feel like it, AND a deli meat sandwich if I want, AND indulge in some sushi from time to time, AND enjoy a glass of wine occasionally if the mood takes me. So there! :nana
Personally, I think it's whatever you're comfortable with. I would no more encourage a pregnant woman to behave as I do than I would discourage her from any choice I personally wouldn't make (unless it was obviously hazardous to her or the baby's health, such as drug use or similar). Live and let live, IMHO.