Oh wow, I wish I would've come across this sooner!!! I was a 36D pre-pregnancy. Now with a 1.5 year old nursling I'm something like a 36J (I haven't been measured recently, so I'm just guessing). It's sooo hard to find anything because most places answers are just to make the band bigger instead of the cup size, which leaves me sagging, and gives me HUGE backaches.
I just have one bra right now that I HATE but there's nowhere locally that sells bras in my size except for that shop that I bought my current one at. It's a great shop for breastfeeding moms but, ugh, I hate this bra! I really want one with underwire because without is just nowhere near enough support for me and I feel like they are hanging down to my ankles!
Oh, and I so had family members constantly worrying that DD would suffocate when she was a newborn.
I also HATE all nursing wear because there's just nothing that fits well. I end up having to get gigantic sizes that just never look good. I know I'm carrying some extra baby weight but I have a feelling a good portion is in my breasts.
BTW, how do you guys exercise? I have one sports bra that is way too small that has to be coupled with another bra of mine (that doesn't fit right by at least has a lot of support), it's the only way I get through an exercise routine (and I normally end up with the 4 boob look by the end