so right now we have 50/50 not that my ex has her his allotted time but i dont mind. i provide 100% for dd as he hasn't been working much and can't pay for half of her after school care...
anyway, a new issue has come up and i'm not sure how to deal with it. my ex has been dating this woman for over 2 yrs. she has two boys, 8 and 14. ex just told me last week that they decided to move in together to save money and are looking for a 3 bedroom place. he hardly works and she's in school full time so not sure how they can afford a bigger place but whatever.
But yesterday he told me that needs to move out by 6/3 and that dd will share the bedroom with his gf until they can find a 3 bedroom to rent. first i was upset that he didn't give me more notice or ask me how i felt about all of them living together. now i'm freaked out about all of them living in a 2 bedroom! dd is only 6 yrs old, and she doesn't really get along with the 8 yr old. dd has been begging to stay with me. i keep trying to reassure her and tell her to work it out. i feel like dd's dad is forcing this family down dd's throat and she has no choice in the matter. the woman is great, the older son seems to have his stuff together but the 8 yr old torments dd. my ex leaves dd to play with the 8 yr old so they can hang out.
when i bring this up so always tells me that they get along and she just says stuff to get attention.
i'm so torn as i really don't want her living there in a 2 bedroom! i rather not go the court route but do i have a choice? i'm freaked out about her lack of privacy, of being neglected, etc but i had a horrible experience with the courts and i feel like I'm just wasting time and money, neither that i have..
advice?
anyway, a new issue has come up and i'm not sure how to deal with it. my ex has been dating this woman for over 2 yrs. she has two boys, 8 and 14. ex just told me last week that they decided to move in together to save money and are looking for a 3 bedroom place. he hardly works and she's in school full time so not sure how they can afford a bigger place but whatever.
But yesterday he told me that needs to move out by 6/3 and that dd will share the bedroom with his gf until they can find a 3 bedroom to rent. first i was upset that he didn't give me more notice or ask me how i felt about all of them living together. now i'm freaked out about all of them living in a 2 bedroom! dd is only 6 yrs old, and she doesn't really get along with the 8 yr old. dd has been begging to stay with me. i keep trying to reassure her and tell her to work it out. i feel like dd's dad is forcing this family down dd's throat and she has no choice in the matter. the woman is great, the older son seems to have his stuff together but the 8 yr old torments dd. my ex leaves dd to play with the 8 yr old so they can hang out.
when i bring this up so always tells me that they get along and she just says stuff to get attention.i'm so torn as i really don't want her living there in a 2 bedroom! i rather not go the court route but do i have a choice? i'm freaked out about her lack of privacy, of being neglected, etc but i had a horrible experience with the courts and i feel like I'm just wasting time and money, neither that i have..
advice?
