Originally Posted by emmaegbert
On another note: this thread actually inspired me to look up one of the most classic "nerdy" guys from my elementary and high school (which was a selective school for gifted kids). The one who pops to mind when I think of the "gifted stereotype". The one with the poor social skills, terrible fashion (and with a mom who was very similar), who was a strange and withdrawn all through school, is now a head honcho at, lets just say, an extremely well known internet company (who knows, maybe he has kids and reads this forum, don't want to put too much identifying info in there).
It looked like it all worked out for him. You know I was talking about social skills among the gifted with a friend once and she believed, at least in her personal experience, that there is an inverse relationship between intellectualism and social skills. She said that for her, as her social skills have increased her IQ has decreased somewhat. But she had no regret about this because she was much happier as a more average social being than a lonely gifted being.
The other poster who said that introversion is linked to higher IQs is right and the higher the IQ, the higher the likelihood of introversion. Maybe an effort to become more extroverted could actually change the brain's way of operating and could decrease some gifted traits. I could see how it could be possible.
Does anyone recall the Terman study of highly gifted youths? I remember reading that none of the kids who qualified for the program actually ended up being great intellectuals. They became professionals such as doctors and engineers, but didn't make any ground breaking discoveries. And one of the reasons for this is that they didn't have the creativity aspect and at least some of them hinted that they 'chose' to lead a more regular life, to be socially normal, have a happy family and so forth. And of course, they still had their high IQ, but it seems that in choosing to be more 'socially acceptable' they sacrificed some of their potential.
So with regards to the Terman kids, they had every right to live their lives they way they wanted and needed to, but I think it should give us pause when we make huge attempts to get smart kids to try and fit in. Are we somehow killing some of their giftedness when we do so?