for me, when it comes to birth, there is what we can control or have influence over and what we cannot. birth has curve balls! birth just is what it is.
there is no 'success/failure' at birth. even injury or death is not a success/failure at birth. c-section, any medical intervention, or an accidental solo UC are not failures or successes. they are just births. that's it. that's what they are.
so, when we are preparing for and planning for birth, we have to focus on what we can influence. we can influence the mind. we can influence a certain measure of our physical fitness (diet, exercise)--but we even still might developed GD or pre-E or what have you. we can influence a certain measure f our structural situation with chiropractic care, or massage, or acupuncture or osteopathy or any number of other modalities.
so, we do a lot of things that help us prepare to have a good experience at birth--perhaps even one that is pleasurable or orgasmic. and maybe it happens and maybe it doesn't--but we created the opportunity for that to happen through certain habits.
it is not a guarentee that if you exercise and eat right, you'll not get GD. it's not a guarantee that if you think positive about your birth, that youll have the birth you imagine. it is not a guarantee that if you do spinning babies exercises, get chiropractic care, etc etc, that your body and your baby will be positioned in the "optimal" way. but, it can help, and that can *influence* outcomes, but it's no guarantee.
it can help outcomes, but it might not *create* outcomes.
for my own part, i had a posterior baby. i cannot diagnose much else about myself--i believe my pelvis was normal and healthy and properly aligned (i didn't have any sciatic pain, for example, or SPD or related).
i also know that i have an extremely high tolerance for pain (something that most people cannot control or influence--it's usually just a matter of neurology, though there is some "mind over matter" training that exists though i never used it, so whether or not it works i cannot say).
i also know that i did everything that i could--mind body and spirit--to prepare for birth. i was prepared for pain, but also open to pleasure.
and i had a pleasurable birth with my son. no pain. just orgasm (8 hrs); peace/hugging (12 hrs; slept through a bit); then candlelight bath and resting (2 hrs); then ecstatic movement and sounding (2 hrs).
while it was pleasurable, it still had a *lot* of curve balls--a lot of things that i didn't expect, that awed me, perhaps even scared me (scared isn't the right word, but it's somewhere around the experience of the sublime).
so, it was what it was. not at all what i imagined or visualized, but a lot of what i had. it was interesting in that.
there is no 'success/failure' at birth. even injury or death is not a success/failure at birth. c-section, any medical intervention, or an accidental solo UC are not failures or successes. they are just births. that's it. that's what they are.
so, when we are preparing for and planning for birth, we have to focus on what we can influence. we can influence the mind. we can influence a certain measure of our physical fitness (diet, exercise)--but we even still might developed GD or pre-E or what have you. we can influence a certain measure f our structural situation with chiropractic care, or massage, or acupuncture or osteopathy or any number of other modalities.
so, we do a lot of things that help us prepare to have a good experience at birth--perhaps even one that is pleasurable or orgasmic. and maybe it happens and maybe it doesn't--but we created the opportunity for that to happen through certain habits.
it is not a guarentee that if you exercise and eat right, you'll not get GD. it's not a guarantee that if you think positive about your birth, that youll have the birth you imagine. it is not a guarantee that if you do spinning babies exercises, get chiropractic care, etc etc, that your body and your baby will be positioned in the "optimal" way. but, it can help, and that can *influence* outcomes, but it's no guarantee.
it can help outcomes, but it might not *create* outcomes.
for my own part, i had a posterior baby. i cannot diagnose much else about myself--i believe my pelvis was normal and healthy and properly aligned (i didn't have any sciatic pain, for example, or SPD or related).
i also know that i have an extremely high tolerance for pain (something that most people cannot control or influence--it's usually just a matter of neurology, though there is some "mind over matter" training that exists though i never used it, so whether or not it works i cannot say).
i also know that i did everything that i could--mind body and spirit--to prepare for birth. i was prepared for pain, but also open to pleasure.
and i had a pleasurable birth with my son. no pain. just orgasm (8 hrs); peace/hugging (12 hrs; slept through a bit); then candlelight bath and resting (2 hrs); then ecstatic movement and sounding (2 hrs).
while it was pleasurable, it still had a *lot* of curve balls--a lot of things that i didn't expect, that awed me, perhaps even scared me (scared isn't the right word, but it's somewhere around the experience of the sublime).
so, it was what it was. not at all what i imagined or visualized, but a lot of what i had. it was interesting in that.
Well, I wound up with a transfer and emergency c/s and a permantely disabled child after days of agonizing labor, so nuts to visualization. I didn't do any of that stuff with dd3 and had an awesome vba2c, anyway.
