Anyone's family not happy with you being a SAHP? (vent) - Page 2

[Purple Sage]

Originally Posted by kittywitty

My family is pro-SAH, my in-laws are not. I get the "when will she finally get a job" thing a lot.

I can so relate to this.

Originally Posted by Grace and Granola

why is it ok for it to be someone else's job to watch your kids, but it's not ok for that to be YOUR job? If someone told me that it wasn't a job because I didn't get paid, I would calculate the cost of daycare and tell them THAT's how much you do get paid, because really, it is. And that has to be at least as much as a job at walmart.

I have a part time job from home now and make way more than if I worked full time out of the house if you factor in how much it would cost for childcare for my three younger kids (and then have a teen at home by herself for a couple of hours a day which is not a great idea, either, imo).

[SaraC]

Both my mother and my MIL WOH and are both very supportive of me being a SAHM. I think they both are ok with their choices as parents and ok with mine. I do plan to WOH when my youngest goes to school but that might change.

[Tigerchild]

Hmmm, what's your family dynamic like, honestly?

Do you typically have a competative relationsip with your sister, or does she typically tend to undermine/examine you?

Sometimes I think people blame critique by family members on SAHMing...when to put it bluntly, no one cares really about SAHing or not, if it wasn't that it'd be something else.

And then, it's easy to get sucked into the whole mommy war crap.

If people in your family tend to express concern or worry by fussing, or if you have a bossy dynamic with a sibling, or if your parents/ILs need to have you be a clone otherwise they get snarly about respect...then if it wasn't this it would be something else.

I really think that is why a policy of non-argumentative shrug off (pass the bean dip) works the best. If you engage, then you're feeding the dynamic. And it's sooo easy to slip into a bad dynamic without eve realizing it!