As mentioned before, STBX told me recently that he's moving next Sunday. I made note of it as he told me he wouldn't be seeing DD that week-end.
Yesterday when I went to drop her off at his place, my old superintendant caught up with me and asked to speak with me. Though this man isn't the most skilled handyman, he's very nice and was always helpful to me when I lived in that building. He also was quite supportive of my leaving STBX because he really dislikes him.
Anyhow, the super proceeded to tell me that there had been an altercation between him and STBX, which resulted in the police being called. From what I understand, STBX hasn't paid his rent (in how long, I don't know), and the super went to see him to ask for another rent cheque. Somehow, there was an argument, and STBX called the cops on the super. A few days later, STBX physically pushed the super who then called the cops on him. SO, things are not going well over there.
I tried to be sollicitous and told the super that he'd be happy since STBX was leaving...he had no idea what I was talking about! That's when it dawned on me that STBX plans on disappearing quietly next week without paying rent. Of course he wouldn't be moving "the regular way", with moving vans and boxes, and forwarding addresses...just as he used to when we were together, he is going to do it "the illegal way". I don't know why I was shocked...I guess I had forgotten what kind of person STBX is.
Realizing that I'd just put my food deep in my mouth, I backpeddled and told the super that I wasn't sure about what I'd heard and that it might all be a lie...He seemed satisfied and proceeded to tell me that my former DSS is looking very ill and depressed, and that he wishes the boy's mother would come and take him back to Ontario. He also suggested that STBX isn't working anymore since he's been home all week and harassing him during the daytime.
Obviously, this last portion may be hearsay and is based on the impressions of a third party, but seeing as I just had STBX's employer served with a subpoena, I'm feeling like I have a part to play in all this.
In any case, I felt very out of sorts hearing how poorly things are going in STBX and DSS' life. Also, I had forgotten that this is how STBX proceeds (not paying rent, getting evicted and skipping out a few months later, moving someplace new). Obviously, I'm feeling super guilty about my former DSS, and feeling terrible that there's nothing I can do to help him get away from such a toxic situation. What really worries me is that DD is now going to be exposed to this kind of chaos when visiting her father.
I don't really know if there's anything I can or should do...
Yesterday when I went to drop her off at his place, my old superintendant caught up with me and asked to speak with me. Though this man isn't the most skilled handyman, he's very nice and was always helpful to me when I lived in that building. He also was quite supportive of my leaving STBX because he really dislikes him.
Anyhow, the super proceeded to tell me that there had been an altercation between him and STBX, which resulted in the police being called. From what I understand, STBX hasn't paid his rent (in how long, I don't know), and the super went to see him to ask for another rent cheque. Somehow, there was an argument, and STBX called the cops on the super. A few days later, STBX physically pushed the super who then called the cops on him. SO, things are not going well over there.
I tried to be sollicitous and told the super that he'd be happy since STBX was leaving...he had no idea what I was talking about! That's when it dawned on me that STBX plans on disappearing quietly next week without paying rent. Of course he wouldn't be moving "the regular way", with moving vans and boxes, and forwarding addresses...just as he used to when we were together, he is going to do it "the illegal way". I don't know why I was shocked...I guess I had forgotten what kind of person STBX is.
Realizing that I'd just put my food deep in my mouth, I backpeddled and told the super that I wasn't sure about what I'd heard and that it might all be a lie...He seemed satisfied and proceeded to tell me that my former DSS is looking very ill and depressed, and that he wishes the boy's mother would come and take him back to Ontario. He also suggested that STBX isn't working anymore since he's been home all week and harassing him during the daytime.
Obviously, this last portion may be hearsay and is based on the impressions of a third party, but seeing as I just had STBX's employer served with a subpoena, I'm feeling like I have a part to play in all this.
In any case, I felt very out of sorts hearing how poorly things are going in STBX and DSS' life. Also, I had forgotten that this is how STBX proceeds (not paying rent, getting evicted and skipping out a few months later, moving someplace new). Obviously, I'm feeling super guilty about my former DSS, and feeling terrible that there's nothing I can do to help him get away from such a toxic situation. What really worries me is that DD is now going to be exposed to this kind of chaos when visiting her father.
I don't really know if there's anything I can or should do...
