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feel overwhelmed about decision to HS

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I have 3 children ... 7 yr old who is a special needs , 5 yr old and 3 yr old. I'm expecting #4.

We made the decision to homeschool. I was confident (although a bit nervous) in my decision to homeschool all of them (really the oldest two for now). My oldest was struggling in special ed this year because he is delayed, short attention span, can get aggressive, can be hyper, needs 1-on-1 supervision. He is a very trying child and is autistic. I feel like I can teach him -- that isn't the problem -- he just makes life very difficult to be around. I hate to say that, but I'm really struggling here. He can be rough and aggressive with his siblings (although they are NOT like that with him or to each other). My 5 yr old is very bright, a little shy, but quite artistic and loves learning. I almost feel like I'm doing him an injustice with having his older brother home with us because he is so difficult at times. He doesn't listen to discipline very easily. He almost needs a full time therapist with him at all times, even at home. It is disheartening and hurts our home environment. DH thinks it is a bad idea to have him home all day long because he thinks it would get too crazy. I feel like I'm letting myself down, my family down -- everything. I just feel so resentful about this situation. To make matters worse he was just diagnosed with really severe allergies -- now I'm carrying around epipens and worried sick that he's going to have a reaction at school (he is currently in public schools). I don't know what the right answer is but I'm really struggling. I'm planning on starting our curriculum in June so that I can take a small break after the baby comes.
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It does sound like you have a lot on your plate! Is there anyway to find some regular time away from your intense older child? Will he need any OT? My friend's son goes several times a week and it gives her a little time to decompress. Can you hire someone for a couple hours a day even just a few days a week? Perhaps a college student studying special ed? If it is financially feasible it could give you time with your little ones.

My friend's son has similar issues and he did take so much attention from her at that age. He did get much easier as he got older (he's 13 now). I know it must seem overwhelming now, but I think it will slowly get better as he gets older and your little bitty ones grow. Even just having your husband take him to do something one on one in the evenings and weekends could really help.
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