i do clean as i go.
i'll just start with an example--such as tonight--so you can see how it goes.
spicy beans and rice, romanian sausage (for DH and DS), and salad.
1. we soaked beans today, so those were in a jar nice and soaked. i drained the water and rinsed them in the jar.
2. put on the rice in the water.
3. chopped vegetables--onion for salad and rice; peppers for salad and rice; cucumber for salad; lettuce.
4. salad things went straight from chopping board to bowl; onions, peppers, and beans went into the rice half-way through.
5. washed chopping board, knives, and bean jar.
6. started sausage in the pan; continued to stir rice/beans as necessary;
7. sausage done, removed from the pan to rest, washed the sausage pan;
8. beans and rice nearly finished, added spice mix.
9. rice and beans finished, divide into one container for left overs, put the for the evening meal on the serving plate, wash the rice pot.
10. set salad, dish with rice/beans, and dish with sausages out, and eat dinner.
11. after dinner, wash bowl, serving plates, forks and dinner plates (6 items total), wipe down counter tops and stove top. Put away any dry dishes from washing while cooking.
12. place left overs (now cooled) into the fridge.
here's an example of how i do breakfast:
bacon and eggs with steamed vegetables
1. put bacon in a pan to begin cooking;
2. put eggs in a mixing bowl with milk and whisk until smooth;
3. chop up veggies and put them directly into the pot to steam, then wash cutting board and knife;
4. flip bacon and put them on the "hotter" side of the pan, add eggs to the pan (for the record, i typically have yogurt and steamed vegetables and toast with peanut butter and honey for breakfast). scramble eggs and flip bacon as needed.
5. strain and turn out steamed vegetables into a bowl, wash veggie pot;
6. remove bacon from pan to rest, then when eggs are finished, place eggs on plate to rest. wash pan.
7. set out eggs, what not, make my own breakfast, wiping down cutting board, knives, etc as i go.
8, finish with breakfast and wash 3 dishes (egg/bacon plate, veggie bowl, and yogurt bowl) plus silver ware. wipe down countertops and stove top.
For me, the whole thing is just totally habit. as soon as i am finished using something, i wash it right away. i have enough time to wash the pot before i ahve to finish the rice or the bacon. so, i do it then.
thus, most dinners from start to service take about 40-5 minutes (at most; usually 20-30), and then after dinner, final clean up takes about 10-15 minutes. so the total kitchen time is 1 hr for cooking and clean up.
breakfast usually takes more because DH sometimes has a late snack and doesn't do his dishes, so i start with dishes, then cook and clean as i go, and then do dishes after--so there's an added 15 minutes, but it's usually no more than na hour then, either, because breakfast takes no time at all to make.
and, sometimes i make polenta, or oatmeal or muesli--all one pot meals. even more simple.

so, that's how i do it.