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post #21 of 27
Im the type of person that cant really keep her mouth shut...so Ive told alot of my friends and my immediate family. And my work. (im only filling in for the Massage Therapist that went on Mat leave)

I also told everyone right away with my first. Im just to excited to keep it in!
post #22 of 27
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It's very nice to see that I am not the only one who wants to tell soon! For me, I think that stems from a want for other people to be excited for me... You know, to help me be excited for myself when I feel less than enthusiastic. I think having positive vibes floating around is a good thing. So I think for now I am going to only tell the people that I know will be really happy about it. My mom might give me a well meaning roll of the eyes, but she'll be happy for me... She needs to know, too... We bake on the weekend for the local farmer's market. I don't think I have the energy right now to bake all day. I'll tell my dad, and the in-laws soon. My in laws are baby junkies.

Thanks Maerlyn for the helpful post... I think I'm going to tell my little sister as soon as I can get a ahold of her. We had overlapping pregnancies on our last babies(her first baby, we both had girls) and I gave birth first. It's her turn to go first this time. We were helpful to eachother... In fact, she followed in my footsteps and had a UC. We're both planning another UC, so I think it works out well in the end that we can be there for each other. I think she'll be happy to have another close cousin for her littles. I am going to wait a while on the two sisters that just had losses... While I think my oldest would understand, I don't think she's in a place to be very congratulatory. We're a very empathic family and I just don't want to feel her discomfort right now. My other sister... I just don't know what to do there. She loves my kids, but was always right there chiming in that I shouldn't have more(and I would agree, thought I wasn't, really). We have very different lifestyles. And I know she took her loss very hard... It's going to be rough for her, I think, to know I'm having another. *sigh* I think that is one of the hardest things for me to get past right now, is telling her. I love her so much, and was really excited for her... It just feels weird... I got pregnant just around the time she lost her baby. I'll wrap my head around it eventually, I'm sure. And she will too. But in the meantime I want a lot of frivolously gleeful responses. Stocking up, ya know?
post #23 of 27
With my DD we told our families right away. Our friends we told at 3 months and I told my co-workers/boss at around 4 months.

With this pregnancy we will be telling our families today(!) after my first Dr.'s appointment! I'm really excited this time around (not that I wasn't last time but was just feeling more cautious) and will probably tell everyone else in a few weeks instead of a few months like last time.
post #24 of 27
I'm nervous to tell anyone, but my immediate response is to want to shout it out to the world. I told my mother last night, because we were talking about the possibility of me flying x country to visit in a month, and I was thinking that in a month, if this pg is anything like my last couple, I'll be green faced and hanging around my bed or the toilet. That said, I'm so fearful that this pg will last after my 2nd trimester loss, I'm a little lost as to when it's 'safe' to tell people.
post #25 of 27

Telling!

My family/his are very close. So we told them right away with DS and this one. With every one else we wait til 3 months. With family that you are close to which it sounds like you are. I would tell them gently because they should be happy for you and if some thing happens they should be there for you. Good luck this is a tough situation. We are happy for you and congrats on #2.
post #26 of 27
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Originally Posted by StrongBeliever View Post
In fact, she followed in my footsteps and had a UC. We're both planning another UC, so I think it works out well in the end that we can be there for each other.
i've seen this mentioned a few times, but can't figure out what a UC is...?
post #27 of 27
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UC stands for Unassisted Childbirth. That would be intentionally giving birth without the presence of a "medical professional". So an old-school homebirth, in essence.
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