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Edited by rainbow_mandala - 11/16/12 at 4:17pm
I can't imagine regrets for not circ'ing, considering it is still an option for any one who wasn't and they are free to make that decision. When people are adults, they might not like any number of things about their bodies, and if they choose, they can alter it any way they so choose (circ, penile implants, labiaplasty, butt implants, breast implants, nose jobs, chest implants, etc. etc.) That is why it is the only right decision..... to give that decision to the individual who wants the altering. However many people do regret not having the money to do any of those things, but that is no one else's fault.
I usually feel uncomfortable discussing my son's privates but - yes. He never had a problem. He is almost 16. Not the slightest issue.
When he was young, I didn't have a lot of information around me about intact boys, as he was one of the only ones I'd ever seen, and I used to worry about infections and retract and clean him *winces from the memory*. After he cried so much from that, after a time I stopped, feeling that couldn't be the right thing to do with him being so upset about it. Later I found that is correct. But even retracting it a bit didn't do more than irritate him slightly as I was doing it.
He never went to daycare.
Hah, sounds about right!
My son is 7 and has never had a problem. He doesn't fully retract yet, but his pediatrician (who won't touch anything, just asks him how things are going down there) is not concerned in the least and says that he's progressing normally.
My son's father is 35 and has never had a problem
His grandfather is....jeez, 60? And never had a problem and openly discusses it as much as we don't want to hear it.
My brother - at least in his childhood years (he wouldn't DARE discuss it with me now) has never had a problem.
DH is 26 and never had a problem. DS is 12mo and no problems so far.
DH is from a country that doesn't routinely circumcised and he's never heard of anyone having problems b/c they weren't circed. You'd think that if being intact routinely led to serious problems it would be more widely known in such countries.
DH is also from a country that doesn't circumcise, and he said the same. Problems are not the norm!
I dont know any man or boy who has been circumsized (perhaps because i am in the UK). I have only ever heard of one problem which was n a boyfriend who had tenderness retracting foreskin at the age of 16 he was told by his doctor that they didnt worry until he was closer to 20 and that it would resolve itself - and it did. Other than that I have never heard of any issues at all.
I also have never heard of any special care instructions, I just put my son in the bath the same as my daughters it has never occured to me to do any special care of his penis at all not has he ever been seen by a doctor.
My (almost) 6 year old has never had a problem with his foreskin. It does balloon up when he pees but that is normal and does not cause any issues for him. He had a UTI once when he was 3 yo but that could happen to a circumcised boy or a girl so I don't consider that to have anything to do with his foreskin. I think it mainly had to do with him holding in his pee because he didn't want to stop playing and go to the bathroom haha. My partner is circumcised and was really concerned about leaving DS intact at first but now he agrees it's the right thing to do since there have been no actual problems. I would never circumcise without a valid medical reason.
I think I might have posted in this thread somewhere, but I'm not willing to dig through and see. lol Ds is 14 now. We've never had problems, but we've had a little excitement a couple times.
The first was when he was a toddler and xh used dishsoap as bubble bath. Ds's foreskin was inflamed, but even the pro-circ pediatrician didn't claim circ would have changed anything. lol
The second was when he was 8 and said ped was feeling particularly frustrated that there hadn't been any issues with ds's genitals. We went in for a camp check up, and he forcibly retracted ds's not entirely retractable foreskin so hard and fast that he tore ds's frenulum!!! Then tried to claim it wouldn't have happened if he was circ'd. >=/ Ds made a full recovery, though, not to worry.
Now, he's homeschooled but taking classes part time at the high school, including PE. He plays sports, camps out with boy scouts, goes on leadership excursions with 4H where he shares hotel rooms with other boys, etc. etc. etc.. No one has ever had anything negative to say (some curiosity, some jealousy, some harmless "boy" antics, mostly disinterest), and he's never had any infections or issues with his genitals...unlike his feet!!!! (Good thing we don't see that ped anymore. He'd have had them amputated by now, for sure!!! lol)