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[AntoninBeGonin]

Might as well update this thread.  When I posted earlier my son was six and had never had a problem with his foreskin.  He is now eight and has still never had a single problem.  He knows what circumcision is and thinks it is horrendous.  He is very happy that he wasn't put through that. 
 

[~Bug~]

I have 3 intact boys and none have ever had a problem. When my oldest was 4 the pediatrician tried to check to see if he was retractable. I asked her not to do that. She got all upset with me and told me she had a 10 year old patient "who had to be circumcised" because he couldn't retract. We switched doctors. As far as I know, he still can't retract. But since 10 years old is the average ago of retractibility, I'm not the slightest bit worried.

[CrunchyChristianMama]

No problems here 6 months in.  :D
 

[EchoSoul]

21 months in. No problems.

[dayiscoming2006]

4 year old boy with no problems. Just need to make sure to wash it with soap at every bath. Taught him to do that.

[Mitchell756]

It is not necessary to clean them or to teach them how to clean unlike what many individuals would have you believe. Please read through this thread here for mor on this subject http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1367332/when-should-they-learn-how-to-clean. I would like to say that it is safe to use soap to clean the foreskin but going overboard with it can cause problems. Also, forcibly retracting the foreskin before it is naturally able to retract can cause problems with phimosis later in life. The equivalent of this in females would be breaking a girls hymen to clean the inside of her vagina. The only person that should be cleaning it is him once he discovers that his foreskin is naturally able to retract on its own. The obsession with hygene is a myth that was created by physicians to scare parents into having their sons circumcised in order to benefit themselves monetarily. If he is naturally retractable then it is safe for him to continue doing it, but there is no reason for you to be overtly concerned about the cleanliness aspect of this.

[dayiscoming2006]

I just meant making sure he washes with soap and water down there at bath time. No moving any foreskin or anything. Just thought I should clarify.

At one point I wasn't making sure he did that and he was getting baths so I didn't think anything, but his wee wee got a little red and irritated looking. As soon as I made sure he used soap, it cleared up and looked healthy again. I have his circed older brother wash with soap and water there too now, but he has never had any irritation like that. I don't know if it's because of circed or not. I still wouldn't consider that a good enough reason to circ.

[incorrigible]

Ds only got red and irritated if he did use soap. I think that changed with puberty though. I can't imagine how careful he'd have to be with all the scented products he uses in the shower now, if it was still an issue! lol

[dayiscoming2006]

I use burt bees baby wash on my kids or sometimes castor soap. And he doesn't use any more than what he'd use on the rest of his body. Guess each kid is different.

[3sacharm]

my ds is 3 and no issues at all.  my next door neighbor has 4 sons and a dh that are all intact and no issues from any of them.  i personally don't have issues with circ vs. non-circ it was just what we chose for our ds.  hopefully our ds will continue to be trouble free.

[fjuyftriujn]

At what ages should my boy foreskin retract cause he is 13 now and it still haven't happen?

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by fjuyftriujn 

At what ages should my boy foreskin retract cause he is 13 now and it still haven't happen?

It could be years yet or it could happen sometime in the near future. As long as he is able to urinate I wouldnt worry.

[mama24-7]

Originally Posted by fjuyftriujn 

At what ages should my boy foreskin retract cause he is 13 now and it still haven't happen?

Welcome!

Much like a girl's body matures at it's own rate, so too will a boys.  Unfortunately, many doctors in the US are completely ignorant of normal male development.  If you're being told there's a problem, as long as your son is urinating, then he's likely fine.  When the male starts to mature, that's when the hormones start working on the body to finish the development of the sex organs.  Because most doctors in this country do not have a fulling functioning body, they do not know how one matures.  Most males will be retractable by the time they're an adult.  I've read here about a father who did not retract & had a sex life, obviously, or he wouldn't be a father. 

If this is bothersome to the child, once he's past puberty, if it still hasn't changed, a knowledgeable, intact friendly doctor can discuss options w/ him.  I would not suggest he see a random, run of the mill doctor though, for the reasons I stated above.  He'd have to see one that knows how to do more than just cut it off.

Best wishes,

Sus

[hakunangovi]

Much like a girl's body matures at it's own rate, so too will a boys.  Unfortunately, many doctors in the US are completely ignorant of normal male development.  If you're being told there's a problem, as long as your son is urinating, then he's likely fine.  When the male starts to mature, that's when the hormones start working on the body to finish the development of the sex organs.  Because most doctors in this country do not have a fulling functioning body, they do not know how one matures.  Most males will be retractable by the time they're an adult.  I've read here about a father who did not retract & had a sex life, obviously, or he wouldn't be a father. 

If this is bothersome to the child, once he's past puberty, if it still hasn't changed, a knowledgeable, intact friendly doctor can discuss options w/ him.  I would not suggest he see a random, run of the mill doctor though, for the reasons I stated above.  He'd have to see one that knows how to do more than just cut it off.

I agree.  I have a nephew who was not retractable until about 15, then almost overnight it happened. Also, there are men who never achieve retractability and lead perfectly normal lives with no issues whatsoever.  They are in a much better place that a man who had his foreskin amputated.

If, as Sus stated above, it becomes an issue fo him after puberty, there are many options which do not involve amputation.  For your own peace of mind, you might wish to read the following:

www.cirp.org/library/treatment/phimosis

www.biomedcentral.com/1471-2490/8/6

[Sunflower223]

Husband is circed. But baby boys (3 and 5) have never had the slightest issue. =)

[moving toward]

without revealing too much - none of my previous partners had a problem - I live in a culture where it is normal to be intact  - I have NEVER heard of an issue mot once, not ever., my son at 9 weeks is intact and circumcision was never mention by any of the medical staff I dealt with. I didn't even have a passing thought of whether to cut his penis or not - no one else needs to either

[bankamundi]

never had a problem.  Never even heard of a problem in "real life."

[*GreenMama*]

Two boys, ages 6 and 5. Not a single problem.

[bmcneal]

DS is four, and never had a problem.

[sarafi]

My two intact DS's have had not problems at all. 7 years, and 4 years running.

Our almost 10 year old DD has had so.many.adhesions, multiple UTI's and kidney infections. And two surgeries to correct reflux. Oddly enough, no one suggested circumcision as a cure for her Funny how that works.