X-post: Guess we are for sure UCing now!

[BirthNut]

We've toyed around with it and just planned to stay at home as long as possible, I've been seeing a great midwife supportive of my VBA2C & I even saw the OB she works under earlier in my pregnancy, things have been great & they were supportive, until today...

I went in for the "reg" midway appt with the OB & she totally drops the bomb on me that I am "not a good candidate for VBAC" and that she will not support my decision to do so. Well so what am I to do, I could continue to go there and act like I'm just goin' along with the cesarean plan, then just not show up for it, but why be put through hell at my appts? They aren't letting me continue care with my midwife at all and the OB really just turned down right rude. The midwife I had a good relationship with even talked with her outside of the office, but now I've been trying to get a hold of her to talk to her about this, and she won't respond. Sooo we decided that we will just be in the mind set that we will not need the hospital, unless it is an emergency of course.

Oh & to mention, the ONLY reason she gave me for this was that my previous baby was over 10lbs! (Well he was a month over due!)

I dunno what else to say I'm full of emotions, anger, sadness, you name it.

[shenanegans]

Wow, what a stress! How many weeks are you now? Sorry that your midwife did that, maybe you can still talk to her. Maybe she will change her mind. Good Luck!

[mamalade]

Wow, that is unbelievable. It never ceases to amaze me how people whose job it is to take care of us and our families could do such an incredibly bad job. Aren't they in the doctor business because they supposedly care?
Are there any other midwives around, someone you could call who might come to your house if you wanted them? I hope you get the experience you want, it sure sounds like your head is in the right place for that to happen. Way to stick to your guns, Mama! Good luck!

[MNHall]

Oh no! That's so sad coming from a midwife especially! So sad to hear that a large baby was the reason, but a midwife, arg!!!! I'm so angry for you!

Way to go with sticking with the VBAC plan...but, just curious too, was she the only midwife option around? ARG, I hate that a midwife seems so closed minded!!!! And won't even take your calls to discuss it!?!?!! Gosh, I hope there's a good reason for it...like, has it been long? Maybe she's been with a patient??

Good luck!

[regina1979]

I feel your pain! My midwife dropped me at 37 weeks. My husband and I have continued to see the OBGYN I was using for shadow care but we are planning a UC. I have been doing tons of research, purchased a tub and supplies. We are ready.

Read up on everything good and bad that can happen so you are ready for anything.
You can do it! Have faith in your body!!!!

I am at 40 weeks this Sat and my shadow OBGYN wants to schedual an induction or c-section. Uhgggg new battle, not gonna happen unless the baby's or my health is an issue.

I swear my OB's true colors have come out the closer I get to term! She keeps mentionening c-section!!! I feel like the previous VBAC I had with her and this whole 9 months never happened. Have my husband and I been the only two in the room all these months? Ughhhhh = )

I hope all goes well Mama. You can do it!