All this over not taking a bath? sheesh. I don't see what a treat has to do with being clean, and it wouldn't have killed anyone to go to the store dirty. Even if it meant she was itchy or got a rash or something. THAT would have been the natural consequence. And hey, I might not want to sit or stand real close to her, or hold her hand if she stunk.
no, but seriously, I have a 9 yo DD that for whatever reason fights me on the shower issue. I don't mean I fight her and physically make her bathe, or punish her if she doesn't want to get in the shower... but that she will often go days without gettin clean, and I remind her (okay, sometimes even bug her about it), and she always seems to have something more important to do at the time, and says she'll take a shower later. Sometimes she does, and sometimes she doesn't (ie goes to bed w/o ever taking one, for yet another day).
Here's the thing - it's not something I feel the need to control and manipulate her with. This too shall pass. I have a feeling, that by, say, middle school - if not sooner - she is going to WANT to be clean and smell lovely. She already cares about her looks, and will change her outfit several times a day, spend forever curling and styling her hair, will even put on purple eye shadow while at home. She just happens to not care about being the most hygenic person, at the time.
. You know, if she were to decide she smelled funky, or god-forbid some kid on the bus said something (really, she's not that gross, I'm just saying IF it came down to this), then that would he the natural consequence, and maybe then she would decide showering daily (or heck, even every other day would make me happy - but it's not about me!) is important to her. I guess I just can't see getting into a power struggle over another person (especially a child at that age where they are becoming so independant) over when they want to take a bath. I certainly wouldn't be holding something like a treat over their head.