And this is the best forum, I think.
I had to leave my three cats behind when I left my husband. He was going to kill me eventually if i stayed and it broke my heart to leave them, but my parent's cat is really aggressive and they were afraid he would hurt them
Also I can not financially support three cats right now, seeing as my STBX made twice the income as me, etc. And I don't feel that I left them in a bad situation. Our marriage counselor told me he loved the cats way more than he loved me, so I am convinced that they were better with him than in a new home. If I thought he would not love them and take care of them I would have rehomed them.
And yes, it has been almost 10 months. I don't believe I ever properly mourned for them because I left him, and my life changed so drastically and I spent so much time on myself and learning who I am, etc, that I just did not think about the cats much. I am sad that they probably felt like I abandoned them. I know that when I went back a month later to pick up something they did not remember me, which made me feel better, ironically. I am glad they seemed to forget so fast.
But I watched this MTV show tonight and this man took his girlfriend's dog and I just started bawling. My parent's cat doesn't like me that much so I don't really have anyone to love right now. I think that is the key here- that my cats actually loved me and I wasn't getting that anywhere else. So now I am kind of feeling unloved.
Yikes, sorry to write so much! I just needed to let it out. Even to strangers, I think it helps.
I had to leave my three cats behind when I left my husband. He was going to kill me eventually if i stayed and it broke my heart to leave them, but my parent's cat is really aggressive and they were afraid he would hurt them
Also I can not financially support three cats right now, seeing as my STBX made twice the income as me, etc. And I don't feel that I left them in a bad situation. Our marriage counselor told me he loved the cats way more than he loved me, so I am convinced that they were better with him than in a new home. If I thought he would not love them and take care of them I would have rehomed them.And yes, it has been almost 10 months. I don't believe I ever properly mourned for them because I left him, and my life changed so drastically and I spent so much time on myself and learning who I am, etc, that I just did not think about the cats much. I am sad that they probably felt like I abandoned them. I know that when I went back a month later to pick up something they did not remember me, which made me feel better, ironically. I am glad they seemed to forget so fast.
But I watched this MTV show tonight and this man took his girlfriend's dog and I just started bawling. My parent's cat doesn't like me that much so I don't really have anyone to love right now. I think that is the key here- that my cats actually loved me and I wasn't getting that anywhere else. So now I am kind of feeling unloved.
Yikes, sorry to write so much! I just needed to let it out. Even to strangers, I think it helps.
I am trying not to think about them but they have been on my mind all day. I wish there was some way to get my parent's cat to like me. Ironically I am the one who gave him to them. He needed a home when I worked as a Nanny and he used to cuddle up with me all the time when I worked there, but as soon as I gave him to my parents he has not wanted much to do with me. I am craving that unconditional love that a pet can give.
