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post #41 of 53
Oh the let down!

No one told me that it is also in your head, meaning if a baby that is not yours cries in the store, you will get let down.

That was embarrassing.
post #42 of 53
I learned that the symptoms of sleep deprivation can be scary! I got to the point of crying hysterically, feeling like my baby was going to die in my care and feeling like there was NO WAY I could possibly do this whole parenting thing. This all came out during a phone conversation with my sister, to which she replied calmly "you sound sleep deprived". I thought SHE was crazy, but I did finally get some sleep and felt a whole lot better in the next couple of days. I will have much more support this time, so I hope that doesn't happen again, but if it does I will try to identify it before I get so bad. I am so thankful that she identified it for me, though.
post #43 of 53
subbing to come back later and read

I can sooooooooooooooooooo relate!!!!
post #44 of 53
DDCC to say that I never needed a peri bottle. I was cut with my son, 2nd degree and stitched up. I was sore, and I could feel 'pressure' if I was standing up for more than 10 minutes for a few weeks. It was uncomfortable, but not painful. Sex was another story, and that didn't happen for 12 weeks.

With my 2nd I tore a bit, and we (my midwife and I) agreed that it would be more damaging to stitch me, and she would check me in a few days. I never felt pain, I was only sore for about a day afterward, and could then stand for as long as my body and baby let me (usually around 15 minutes, but I could shower for 30 minutes with out that heavy/pressure soreness like I had the first time. And sex was much sooner, I feel because I healed so much better and the scar tissue was so much softer.

That just stood out to me, there are so many things, and this thread is already really long
post #45 of 53
If you already have a kiddo or two be prepared to return from the hospital (no matter how short or long your stay) to find they have aged a good 6 months...or so it will seem.
post #46 of 53
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Can someone say more about these afterpains? Like when after? During placenta delivery? Or later? Why?
The after pains start after baby is born and are caused by your womb contracting back down to pre-pregnancy size. They tend to hurt more with each subsequent baby because your womb takes more work to get back down to it's pre-pregnancy state also breast feeding makes your uterus contract more which is why they become stronger at these times. Mine lasted about a week with all my lo's though some will find that they either last longer or not as long and some people don't even get them at all.
post #47 of 53
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Originally Posted by 2sweetboysmom View Post
If you already have a kiddo or two be prepared to return from the hospital (no matter how short or long your stay) to find they have aged a good 6 months...or so it will seem.
yes, and that they look like they are enormous. it's like how did you get so big overnight?
post #48 of 53
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Only thing I can think of that hasn't been mentioned is that baby boys get erections, too. Yes, it is a bit disturbing the first time you see it, but it's normal.
my ds cameron managed to pee right over his own head on more than one occasion.
post #49 of 53
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Originally Posted by 2sweetboysmom View Post
If you already have a kiddo or two be prepared to return from the hospital (no matter how short or long your stay) to find they have aged a good 6 months...or so it will seem.
my lo's where all born at home but i can still totally relate to this i remember only the day before giving birth to each next lo my then youngest seeming so small and then wow they suddenly seem so big.
post #50 of 53
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Originally Posted by queenofchaos View Post
yes, and that they look like they are enormous. it's like how did you get so big overnight?
post #51 of 53
The best advice I did receive: bring a pillow for the car ride home. Your body will be empty of 7-10 lbs of joy plus the placenta, but your skin will not just automatically tighten up. Placing the pillow against the now empty space makes the car ride home ( if you are not birthing at home ) much more tolerable.
post #52 of 53
These are all good ones, especially that you won't get any sleep- at least not regular sleeping at night. I found I just had to nap with the baby, 'cause he was up so much during the night. Little night owl!!

We found that our son had a "fussy period" of the day- I think it was between 7-8pm, when he would cry no matter what. We tried EVERYTHING- rocking, nursing, daddy, swings, slings, singing, vacuum cleaner... you name it!! We eventually just basically gave up & I'd take him upstairs to his nursery and sit with him and try to nurse him and sing to him until he either calmed down or went to sleep.

Also, although our DS didn't cry at all in the hospital, the first night home with him, he started screaming in the middle of the night and wouldn't be consoled (or nursed). As a first time mom, I would probably have ended up with him at the ER had my mother not been there to tell me he was OK after we checked him over and tried everything. Mom massaged him with plain Vaseline lotion, and he finally went to sleep. I think maybe he had dry skin, since he was 2 weeks "late", a C/S, and they bathed him vigorously right after the birth. Keep Vaseline or some other good unscented, non-medicated lotion on hand, and don't panic!

And, your love for your child grows with each passing day, even though it often seems impossible that it could. He'll get cuter every year, even though you'll swear he can't get any cuter than this moment. And you could easily remain in awe at the things they do and say every day.
post #53 of 53
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Originally Posted by Autumn Breeze View Post
DDCC to say that I never needed a peri bottle. I was cut with my son, 2nd degree and stitched up. I was sore, and I could feel 'pressure' if I was standing up for more than 10 minutes for a few weeks. It was uncomfortable, but not painful. Sex was another story, and that didn't happen for 12 weeks.

With my 2nd I tore a bit, and we (my midwife and I) agreed that it would be more damaging to stitch me, and she would check me in a few days. I never felt pain, I was only sore for about a day afterward, and could then stand for as long as my body and baby let me (usually around 15 minutes, but I could shower for 30 minutes with out that heavy/pressure soreness like I had the first time. And sex was much sooner, I feel because I healed so much better and the scar tissue was so much softer.

That just stood out to me, there are so many things, and this thread is already really long
Oh OWWWW. I tore quite a bit with DD, I'm hoping it doesn't happen again, I'm wondering if I should go the no-stitch route too if it does happen?! It took me months to heal, and even then I can still be sensitive and can feel the scar again as I get further along.

The thing nobody told me (maybe because it doesn't happen unless you tear?)... The SHOCK I felt when going pee the first time, It felt like I had a softball between my legs, no kidding. I almost fell off the toilet. I think it was the swelling from the tearing (she was a forehead/sunny side up -as they say- presentation) and the stitches. I was still numb so I had no idea what was going on and thought I left a pad on. Nope. Scary!!!

Oh and as someone else said, the bleeding!!! My dd was in the NICU and when I would go feed her and get up to leave, no matter how many pads I had I bled all over the floor, it was very embarrassing! I'm over it now though.
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