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post #21 of 107
I'm just getting someone now, one week postpartum after having baby #4.
I homeschool as well so my house is crazy busy all the time.

I HATE cleaning, too.

If my kids were in school, I'd have 8 hours of kid-free time, and since we'd only choose private school, the money I'm saving, I'm using to give myself a break in other ways.
post #22 of 107
Not usually. For this year, we are living with my parents, and they have a cleaner in twice a week. I feel completetly spoiled.

When dh gets back and we move back home, no housekeeper. Fortunately, this year happened to also be a 'turning point' year with my kids reaching ages of more independance and helpfulness, so it won't be too bad.
post #23 of 107
Now that I live in Mexico, I do. It's just so, so cheap here that it's easy to justify. She comes once a week and I love it.
post #24 of 107
No, but I would LOVE one!

Although for Mother's Day my DH told me my gift was to have this cleaning service come to the house once. They send out 4 women and in 4 hours they clean your house from floor to ceiling (even the blinds! woo hoo!). I decided to have them come out when I'm about 37-38 weeks pregnant.
post #25 of 107
We don't have one but I'm considering it. We'd definitely have had one for years if it was a free service.
But with our fourth LO, it's climbing the priority list pretty quickly!
post #26 of 107
No, but I probably should have one!
post #27 of 107
I used one once, but had a hard time justifying the expense to myself so I didn't repeat it. There are just other ways I'd rather spend that money, y/k? Really, I'd rather pay a babysitter to come and clean myself while the kids were occupied--it'd be much cheaper.

Does everyone leave when the cleaners arrive? I felt we had to leave our house, and that was a major PIA with the baby--messed up his nap. Our house is less than 2000' so there's no way he wouldn't hear them, and I don't know how we'd keep out of the way.
post #28 of 107
I don't leave when my housekeeper is here, unless I happen to be going somewhere anyway. I'm sure it would be easier for her if we weren't here, but we stay out of her way - we stay in the livingroom while she cleans the rest of the downstairs and then move to the den when she cleans the living room. Then I just keep the kids downstairs while she cleans upstairs.
post #29 of 107
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Originally Posted by newbymom05 View Post
I used one once, but had a hard time justifying the expense to myself so I didn't repeat it. There are just other ways I'd rather spend that money, y/k? Really, I'd rather pay a babysitter to come and clean myself while the kids were occupied--it'd be much cheaper.

Does everyone leave when the cleaners arrive? I felt we had to leave our house, and that was a major PIA with the baby--messed up his nap. Our house is less than 2000' so there's no way he wouldn't hear them, and I don't know how we'd keep out of the way.
You don't have to leave. I don't ask my clients to. I just work around them, and have worked around napping children and WAHM parents, too.
post #30 of 107
I don't have one but could really use one. Even if it was once or twice a month.
post #31 of 107
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I do, and it's critical to my sanity. .
That's really the case for me. A house cleaner was one of the suggestions of my therapist when I was struggling with depression.

For me, when I am down I cannot keep up with the house, and when the house is a mess, I feel more down, so it is nasty little spiral. I've been doing great emotionally for a long time now, but we can easily afford the cleaner, my DH doesn't mind spending the money, and it really is a depression preventative for me.

Part of what is helpful is the structure of having the whole house completely picked up at one time, and the other part is that then they clean! I only have them come every other week. There's PLENTY to do the rest of the time. It just makes it easier to stay on top of things.

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Does everyone leave when the cleaners arrive? .
sometimes yes, sometimes no.

My cleaners have been doing my house for quite awhile and now they feel like friends. When they first came the house was completely out of control and I stayed and worked on things (like finding the top of my desk), but now I usually go out after they get here. They know that it is mental health issue for me.

Most of the houses they clean don't have anyone at home during the day, so if you want to have a specific time (esp if you are willing to be the first house of the day) most cleaners can accommodate that.

I really feel good about spending the money this way. It is VERY helpful for me, and because I like the people who clean my house, I feel good about paying them for what they do.
post #32 of 107
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Does everyone leave when the cleaners arrive?
We don't normally. My parents housecleaner is like a family member at this point (10 years with us). She cleans around us. However, I do often take the boys out in the back yard so that she can get the downstairs done in peace, before we come in to do our homeschooling.
post #33 of 107
Heck yeah I do! They come every other week. I first hired my current housekeepers' auntie when my boys were babies (they are seven now), and she sold the business to her nieces when she moved last year (we still keep in touch via email!). I do clean my house too, but it is nice to have some help. My first housekeeper (their aunt) taught me everything I know about cleaning a house. (my parents are total literally OCD clean freaks, so while I was screamed at about my room and stuff growing up, they couldn't fathom teaching anyone how to clean anything since it was just "something every normal person knows". So I was winging it, inefficiently, until she taught me).

During seasonal changes, they help me with some big jobs too. Most of the time we're not working together though--they normally come in when I'm heading out the door to volunteer at the kids' school.

ETA: Until my kids hit school age, we never left. When my boys were babies, my housekeeper used to love to have one in the wrap while she vaccuumed. It never seemed to bug her when we were around, but I did contain the kids out of the way (once they were mobile) so that they wouldn't get into anythin they shouldn't. I'm not around when my newer housekeepers come, but my DH works from home, so he is (but probably doesn't count, since he's locked in his home office and they don't clean that).
post #34 of 107
No I don't. I wish I could, but really think that if I could really see myself getting one. I hate having people in my house pretty much ever, so a stranger cleaning and going through my stuff would drive me nuts.
post #35 of 107
I'm going to be giving it a trial over the next few months. I have high standards all around and while I don't mind cleaning, I can't find the time to do a few deeper cleaning asks regularly without taking away from other things. Maybe it is my kid's age and stages right now but I'm going to seek help and see if it evens things out.

I don't think a SAHP is supposed to be able to balance childrearing/cooking/cleaning/errands/other aspects of household management with just a bit of assistance from their partner. Either you learn to live with lowered standards, stress and lose sleep trying to do it all, or outsource. I'm not willing to simplify my cooking or find childcare for a few hours a week, but I am willing to hire a housekeeper.
post #36 of 107
I also have someone come in every other week.

In addition to what others have posted, it keeps me on a de-cluttering deadline. Every other week I have one day that ALL the clutter has to be put away. That is the day that the kids must put all toys away and clean up all their other messes. It is also when I wash all the sheets and bath mats and clean out the litter box.

My husband laughs at me for all the mad de-cluttering I do (he calls it "cleaning for the cleaners") but I want them to mop and clean bathrooms, not put stuff away in the wrong place. Also, I know two families whose cleaners have quit on them because their houses were so messy. Egads!

We almost always leave while they are here. Not only do I want to be out of the way, I am still embarrassed about having someone else clean my dirt, YKWIM.

I live in a fairly well-to-do area and having cleaners come bi-weekly is pretty common. The cleaners in my area also all tend to be from Brazil and make little flowers from the ends of the toilet paper rolls, which cracks me up.

Now when I win the lottery, I plan to hire someone to clean every day!
post #37 of 107
I don't. My stbx wouldn't spring for it and my new living situation doesn't call for it. But, I'm hoping to start cleaning a few houses. Shooting for a postpartum market, although now that I gave toddlers I know it is needed at any age!
post #38 of 107
We do. She comes once a week, does the floors, countertops, tabletops, and bathroom.

For us it is a marriage saver. Since hiring her, about the only time we fight is when she is on vacation : Both of us are lousy at housework, but respond well to having a deadline for picking up the place.

We find it pretty easy to justify, too. DH is self employed (and I am too when I'm not SAH with a little one), and we can pretty much set our own hours. We both agree we'd rather put in a few more work hours, and pay her to do the stuff we are so bad at doing. Good for the economy too, I think

We are home typically when she cleans. But she doesn't clean our office or the basement, so we have two places to be out of her way. And if the LO needs to nap, I just get her not to clean the nursery.

We love her, and we give her a bonus every christmas to show our appreciation. She recently told me that she buys something nice for her house with it every year. Good feelings all around!
post #39 of 107
We had a housecleaner when we were DINKS (double income no kids) but it was not great because A. I am a very picky housekeeper and the services never did a good enough job compared to what I would do and B. We have all hardwood floors and they would charge me $$$ to really clean those floors each week, so instead they would just dry mop them and I would have to do the wet mopping myself. It was nice to have the bathrooms cleaned, but otherwise it was a waste of money for us. But we had the money to waste.

Now that I SAHM there's no way I'd prioritize a house cleaner when I can do it myself better.
post #40 of 107
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Originally Posted by ErinBird View Post
I don't think a SAHP is supposed to be able to balance childrearing/cooking/cleaning/errands/other aspects of household management with just a bit of assistance from their partner. Either you learn to live with lowered standards, stress and lose sleep trying to do it all, or outsource. I'm not willing to simplify my cooking or find childcare for a few hours a week, but I am willing to hire a housekeeper.
Come on. This may be so for you, but it's kind of insulting to SAHMs who do all of the things you mention with little to no help to say that they have lower standards or stress and lose sleep trying to do it.
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