Originally Posted by justmama
When did you all start dating?
I have been single for almost 7 years. I attempted to start dating a few months after it was evident that my marriage was 100% over (he found a gf). It was exciting and, ultimately, crazy co-dependent. Oh, and it didn't last too long.
Then, I took a break from dating for a couple of years. When I finally started dipping back into the dating pool, I met someone and we were together for a little over a year. When it ended, I ridiculously (in hindsight, of course) jumped into another relationship. It lasted a little over 18 months.
I have dated a little after him, but found it just wasn't feel right. So, I have since stepped away from dating for awhile and it feels great. I am sure there will be a time when I am ready to dip back in, but that time just isn't now.
It was hard for me when I was in a place of desperation and loneliness. That was a good sign that I wasn't ready. You definitely don't want to be dating when you feel desperate or lonely... you can attract and get involved with some real losers if you are coming from that place.
|Were you excited about the prospect or did you have to force yourself to make the step?
If I had to force myself, then I definitely knew I wasn't ready.
Dating should be fun and exciting. Kind of like an extra-curricular activity that you can take up when it feels right or let go when you're just not feeling it.
Btw: there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with not feeling ready. There is no magical time frame. Everyone is different. Also, it doesn't mean that you will never feel ready, it just means that right now
... you just aren't feeling it.