Hey mama's
While firmly believing in the tenets of gentle discipline as we do most of attachment parenting I have not yet done a whole lot of reading on it as we have just now reached a stage where its becoming an issue and I am looking for some thoughts on how to solve an issue (a minor one) that we are currently having.
G is 13 months old and very precocious. She has always been a highly emotional/expressive/intense baby and that is continuing into toddlerhood. The tantrums started around 10 months of age and progressed to foot stomping at a year. Now she is throwing herself down on the ground and doing this sort of "stage" cry that progresses into real tears. She also hits when mad. I generally try to pick her up and hold her and talk about how it's ok to be mad but often she will hit me so then I put her down saying "don't hit mama, that hurts. be nice/gentle etc". Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't for a few turns, that's fine. However, I am not sure how to handle tantrums that result from possessiveness of objects/toys/furniture.
Example: for her birthday she got a child sized armchair from her Nana and Papa. It's awesome and she LOVES it. Nobody else but Nana is allowed to sit in it and that's fine, it's her chair. However, Nana and Papa just got another, slightly larger, one for J (who is an adult with severe developmental disabilities who lives with us full time) because he wanted one for his birthday. Both chairs are in our living room as the bedrooms are too small for added furniture. Now nobody is allowed to sit in either chair most of the time without major tantrums. I need some ideas on how to deal with this because, quite frankly, she has to share the chairs. This extends to all sorts of objects around the house.
While firmly believing in the tenets of gentle discipline as we do most of attachment parenting I have not yet done a whole lot of reading on it as we have just now reached a stage where its becoming an issue and I am looking for some thoughts on how to solve an issue (a minor one) that we are currently having.
G is 13 months old and very precocious. She has always been a highly emotional/expressive/intense baby and that is continuing into toddlerhood. The tantrums started around 10 months of age and progressed to foot stomping at a year. Now she is throwing herself down on the ground and doing this sort of "stage" cry that progresses into real tears. She also hits when mad. I generally try to pick her up and hold her and talk about how it's ok to be mad but often she will hit me so then I put her down saying "don't hit mama, that hurts. be nice/gentle etc". Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't for a few turns, that's fine. However, I am not sure how to handle tantrums that result from possessiveness of objects/toys/furniture.
Example: for her birthday she got a child sized armchair from her Nana and Papa. It's awesome and she LOVES it. Nobody else but Nana is allowed to sit in it and that's fine, it's her chair. However, Nana and Papa just got another, slightly larger, one for J (who is an adult with severe developmental disabilities who lives with us full time) because he wanted one for his birthday. Both chairs are in our living room as the bedrooms are too small for added furniture. Now nobody is allowed to sit in either chair most of the time without major tantrums. I need some ideas on how to deal with this because, quite frankly, she has to share the chairs. This extends to all sorts of objects around the house.
