rice cereal ~ would you - Page 3

[Ks Mama]

Originally Posted by sugarpop

they don't care that the bjorne is evil...why do I think I should tell them?

Whoa, the Baby Bjorn is evil? Pull it back there a bit, sister. Babywearing is good. Sure, a sling or a wrap might be better, but what if a woman doesn't have someone to teach her how to carry upright in a padded ring sling? Or doesn't have the money for a Moby or an Ergo & doesn't know how to sew one?

I'll tell you, when my colicky 1st one was crying (all the time), the Snugli (you know, the Walmart version of Bjorn for those who can't afford a $90 carrier) did the trick at calming her, and me, when my sling wouldn't. So croch-dangling or not, crunchy or not, Snugli is what I wore her in.

I agree rice cereal that young is a no-no, most bugsprays & sunscreens are full of toxins & shouldn't be used, but there are ways to convey opinion or facts that isn't laden with judgement.

If something is really bothering you about a way SOMEONE ELSE is raising their children, the best approach I've found is to start a conversation about the way YOU did things. Not as a "you shouldn't do this" or "that thing you're doing is bad", but rather, "I found this worked well" or "when I had a newborn, we did this & it was helpful".

Calling things evil? Not so good for enticing people to listen.

[Norasmomma]

I have to say that my prior point was that anything can be a choice and while for one person it may be the wrong one, for another it may be the right one.

I'm not perfect, heck I use sposies, but EC for poops. Eat and make much of our food from scratch, yet have frozen pizza too. The list of "questionable" things(at least in the MDC world) goes on-it works for us.

I've been on the receiving end of judgment, I had a very arduous 30 hour labor with my DD which I pushed for 3 hours only to have her become so stuck it required a T incision on my uterus to get her out during our emergency c/s. My drive to have her naturally and willingness to keep trying helped cause that, it also created a scar that was too dangerous to have a natural labor again due to the high chance of rupture. To add insult to injury the local midwife informed me that I only had a c/s due to my being scared. She had NO information of my situation, she didn't know my uterus stopped contracting or my DD suffered from fetal distress, she just made her own judgment.

WE as mothers always are in this world of one-upping each other, I only use cloth, my baby has never had a bottle, my baby only eats organic, yada, yada, yada.......WE all can be a bit preachy at times, but what it comes down to is that we have to make choices for our family and do what's best. I think that's the biggest thing to remember.

[tzs]

Originally Posted by Norasmomma

I have to say that my prior point was that anything can be a choice and while for one person it may be the wrong one, for another it may be the right one.

I'm not perfect, heck I use sposies, but EC for poops. Eat and make much of our food from scratch, yet have frozen pizza too. The list of "questionable" things(at least in the MDC world) goes on-it works for us.

I've been on the receiving end of judgment, I had a very arduous 30 hour labor with my DD which I pushed for 3 hours only to have her become so stuck it required a T incision on my uterus to get her out during our emergency c/s. My drive to have her naturally and willingness to keep trying helped cause that, it also created a scar that was too dangerous to have a natural labor again due to the high chance of rupture. To add insult to injury the local midwife informed me that I only had a c/s due to my being scared. She had NO information of my situation, she didn't know my uterus stopped contracting or my DD suffered from fetal distress, she just made her own judgment.

WE as mothers always are in this world of one-upping each other, I only use cloth, my baby has never had a bottle, my baby only eats organic, yada, yada, yada.......WE all can be a bit preachy at times, but what it comes down to is that we have to make choices for our family and do what's best. I think that's the biggest thing to remember.

amen sister! you've said what i feel a thousand times better than i could.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by NSmomtobe

And even more on topic, I had one of DH's friend's mothers tell me that "Different babies are ready for solid foods at different ages. For example, [DH's friend] was ready for rice cereal in his bottle at 2 weeks. It was the only way to get him to sleep through the night. He just wasn't getting full enough otherwise." While my MIL keeps reminding me that her kids started on rice cereal around 2 or 3 months.
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MIL started each of her boys on rice cereal at 8 weeks because her DOCTOR told her that when a baby wants to eat all the time it means they need something else to fill them up. Her mother (who started her oldest on solids...like, fruits and veggies...at 8 weeks) told her that when babies can make a chewing motion they're ready for solids...
So, a lot of times it's just misinformation from people they trust. You can't REALLY blame the mother at that point IMO.

[sugarpop]

Originally Posted by tzs

i know i know. see that's the problem. because i can tell you that we believe the torah is "Truth" with a capital T and therefore what we are doing is "right" and i do believe that (and trust me, there's a lot of other stuff i do in the name of religion that doesn't make a ton of other "sense" either.)
but on the other hand like a pp said, i'm sure there are tribes out there doing female circ in the name of their "truth" who believe they are equally right and i sit here and judge them as "wrong." ugh. and at the same time even though i know the reasons behind opposing circ and totally get it, it still somehow really stings to hear it voiced.

I just wanted to say that regardless of where I stand on the issue that I do appreciate hearing others views and I am sorry it stings when others talk about it. However, you not backing away from it and instead voicing your thoughts is appreciated. It is good to hear the other side. It is also interesting to hear you talk about how you may feel differently if the "Truth" you believed in didn't support it. Anyhow, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your thoughts on a subject that stings you.

[sugarpop]

Originally Posted by Ks Mama

Calling things evil? Not so good for enticing people to listen.

Ok so I wouldn't tell them it was evil. And the carrier itself isn't evil but the company really bothers me. They know what Dr.s say regarding the positioning of children and the harm it causes them. Yet they continue to produce a product that is harmful. For this same amount you could find a safe alternative...if you knew there was an issue. I didn't mean I would judge them...I just guess sometimes I feel it is my job to educate...but I don't I bite my tongue and rant here.

The mother saving money by supplementing with rice cereal...yeah I judged. Still a best friend and still haven't approached it. Her children are sick all the time and overall don't sound healthy. But I don't feel it is my place...even though I wish I could without overstepping bounds.

I vent and rant, but I also respect boundaries. IT is not my god given right to tell others how to do it. Heck this is my first, who knows what the outcome will be for me. It is hard not to question (maybe a better word than judge, maybe the same thing) parents that don't research anything. They go mainstream, raise their child as the Dr suggests, and never ask questions. They do things because others have and their children survived. I don't want to be a mediocre mom that settles. I want to do my best and if that means someone else says...hey did you know that the bjorne doesn't properly support your child's hips and can lead to developmental problems...then I am willing to listen.

I hate it when I pass judgment on others, I don't like who that makes me. I do it in my head, not out loud. And then I rant, get anothers view and usually take a step back.

Anyhow I hate bjorn, the company and what they sell.

[LorenaAZ]

Originally Posted by ann_of_loxley

This is a really great article on babywearing - and it explains the whole Bjorn thing really well!

http://www.sleepywrap.com/index.php?...r-baby-carrier

Thank you for sharing this! I was not aware such a movement existed!

[jess_paez]

Originally Posted by Blueone

I'm just going to chime in on Formula/rice cereal only.

1. I formula feed. My son started saying his first words at 6 months, tried sitting at 5 months, was sitting unassisted at 6 months, is very very active and according to the ped well ahead on developmental milestones. We tried breastfeeding but I had/have a health condition that cause major complications. Formula IS NOT poison and really, no one has a right to judge a mothers situation and not every mom who bottle feeds is giving them formula, people do pump BM. On top of that, not everyone who buys formula is exclusively formula feeding. I don't mean to attack you or anyone else here. But I am truly tired of those judgments.

thank you for this!