I had my first c/s after the traditional "cascade of interventions" in 2005, when I was 21. I had not done much research, but very much wanted a natural birth. Was pushed into an epi at 14 hours and only 3cm dilated after induction. Was put to sleep for the surgery and didn't meet my daughter for 12 hours following. Worst. Experience. Ever.
My second c/s in 2007, I was determined to have a VBAC. My DO pretended to be onboard until about 35 weeks. He had a conference across the country coming up and was pushing me to just schedule a c/s. Told me the baby was too big (she ended up being 7 pounds, 6 oz), told me she was in distress and made me have NSTs for 5 weeks. Finally I gave in had a routine, scheduled c/s. Went better than the first, but was still... not what I wanted. Something was missing.
My third c/s was actually necessary in 2009 after I fell at 39 weeks and could not walk AT ALL after injuring my hip very badly. We were planning a homebirth.
We want a fourth child, our final child. I am not pregnant at the moment and don't plan to get pregnant for at least another 6 months. There is an organization where I live called CHOICE (Center for Humane Options In Childbirth Experiences) that facilitates homebirths, VBACs, etc. They have a variety of doulas, monitrices, and midwives and are a really amazing organization. My last baby was posterior due to the placenta adhering to the incision scars from the previous two c/s. I know this risk increases with each c/s. I can NOT have another c/s. I desperately NEED the experience of giving birth to my child! It is NOT ENOUGH for me to be told "You have a healthy baby and a healthy mom. You should be happy!". I am NOT happy with it. I agonize over my birth experiences frequently. I want a 100% natural birth at my home. Has anyone on here accomplished this (or even tried?).
My DH is amazingly supportive and we are reading together the Bradley Method book and he is completely onboard for a homebirth. But I wonder about things like letting the incision heal so well that I don't need to worry about rupture, placenta problems like last time, etc. Anyone who has had a VBA3C or attempted one, please let me know your experience with it! Thanks in advance!!!
My second c/s in 2007, I was determined to have a VBAC. My DO pretended to be onboard until about 35 weeks. He had a conference across the country coming up and was pushing me to just schedule a c/s. Told me the baby was too big (she ended up being 7 pounds, 6 oz), told me she was in distress and made me have NSTs for 5 weeks. Finally I gave in had a routine, scheduled c/s. Went better than the first, but was still... not what I wanted. Something was missing.
My third c/s was actually necessary in 2009 after I fell at 39 weeks and could not walk AT ALL after injuring my hip very badly. We were planning a homebirth.
We want a fourth child, our final child. I am not pregnant at the moment and don't plan to get pregnant for at least another 6 months. There is an organization where I live called CHOICE (Center for Humane Options In Childbirth Experiences) that facilitates homebirths, VBACs, etc. They have a variety of doulas, monitrices, and midwives and are a really amazing organization. My last baby was posterior due to the placenta adhering to the incision scars from the previous two c/s. I know this risk increases with each c/s. I can NOT have another c/s. I desperately NEED the experience of giving birth to my child! It is NOT ENOUGH for me to be told "You have a healthy baby and a healthy mom. You should be happy!". I am NOT happy with it. I agonize over my birth experiences frequently. I want a 100% natural birth at my home. Has anyone on here accomplished this (or even tried?).
My DH is amazingly supportive and we are reading together the Bradley Method book and he is completely onboard for a homebirth. But I wonder about things like letting the incision heal so well that I don't need to worry about rupture, placenta problems like last time, etc. Anyone who has had a VBA3C or attempted one, please let me know your experience with it! Thanks in advance!!!
I don't know WHAT I will do if that happens, because it was sooo hard just to find anyone willing to help last time, with only 2 previous c/s under my belt. DH is really comfortable with a homebirth as long as there is a midwife attending. I, myself, wouldn't be opposed to trying unassisted homebirth (maybe with a doula or monitrice), but DH is my worrier, and I'm afraid of how he would handle that situation, even if he tried his absolute hardest to be what I needed him to be. (His only birth experience so far has been me falling and getting taken to the hospital in an ambulance, drugged for 7 hours, x-rayed, then sectioned and drugged again. So ... not exactly a natural experience!)
Honestly though, it's input like yours that helps me keep it very realistic. I would really like to know, if you feel up to it in private message, what went wrong so that I can maybe try to do things differently. If not, no worries and thanks for you input regardless. But I am really open to hearing your story if you don't mind talking about it, even though it's hard.
