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post #201 of 431
Count us back in for this cycle! I am on CD1 and will take Femara CD 4-8, ultrsound and trigger on CD 13, and the IUI on CD 15 (June 28).
post #202 of 431
2happymamas Welcome back and good luck! Sounds like you have a solid plan in place--hope it works the first time.

AMom How are your temps today? How are you feeling about nearing the end of the tww? Hanging in there?

Wehrli We've been trying since February, including four insemination cycles. Right now, on the Q&P board, there are several healthily and happily pregnant folks who were trying for a year or more. I know it must seem like forever, but you *did* get pregnant, and you will again....hopefully on your next try in July. Hang in there. s And thanks for your encouragement, too.

Library True Blood--I know! Between the "lesbian weirdness" comment and that (hot!) dream scene between Bill and Sam, the show is getting queerer by the episode. Funny that you and I are both huge fans both of Glee and of TB--they are SO different! I have to turn down TB so that my DD (in bed) can't hear it; it is intense!

Thanks, Burg.

Amy. Best, best wishes for a successful insemination/conception! Fingers crossed for you!

Gelly Glad you enjoyed pride. We'll go to Chicago Pride on the 27th (which is also my bday--fun way to celebrate)! Is anyone else coming to Chicago for pride? If so, let's meet up!

Seraf You must be excited for your camping trip. Hope the tww flies by.

AFM Feeling discouraged today, but still a bit hopeful. My temp tomorrow am will probably give me the info I need. I'll probably break down tomorrow (at 10dpo--I *think*) and test, but I'm not exactly optimistic. I'm trying to keep my chin up, though. We'll see.
post #203 of 431
Just a quickie - I'm swamped at work today...

AmyPDX - We have a blood test scheduled on Wednesday 6/23. I'll probably test that morning, just so I can have an idea of what to expect. That will be 13DPO... I don't think I'll test before that. I've given up on testing on pee sticks because I'm sick of seeing negative results. However, I'm on progesterone this cycle, so AF won't come until I stop progesterone, and I can't stop progesterone unless I have a negative blood test. Oy.

I'm jealous of everyone who has never had HCG side effects! My boobs are KILLING ME! I'm only 4DPO, so I know it's the HCG and not something else.

Okay, more later....!
post #204 of 431
Seraf- Sounds like a great plan to go camping! It really helps to have your mind on other things during that 2WW! Have fun, !

Wherli-
I know how you feel, I have been getting discouraged these days too. Everytime AF shows up I feel depressed for a couple of days. Stick with it though! My gay sister got pregnant on her 7th try, and a straight friend tried for over a year then on the second cycle of Clomid got pregnant. It will happen!

$- I think we have spent over $10,000.

QOTD-
We have been trying since September 2009, but we don't count our first two cycles because it was a KD with low motility. We should not have even tried with it. We have had 4 cycles since with better sperm, doing 2 DIY IUIs at home per cycle.

AFM- I see my new RE tomorrow, then I have to go to a Clomid training. I probably won't be able to start Clomid till next cycle since I'm meeting my new RE at the beginning of this cycle already. Also, this month my perceived O time is at the beginning of our summer vacation. I don't know if I should have the sperm sent to our home or to our in-law's house. We might just have to sit this one out.
post #205 of 431
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AmandaHope, I'm going to be driving through Illinois on the 27th on my way home from camping. Chicago is only a few hours out of the way, we went there last year on the way home. I want to come!

2happymamas, welcome!

Wehrli, 3 months, 2 tries. Both have been double lucky for me in the past, that's why I couldn't miss it.

AFM, my cycle has been wacky. I'm on day 4 of OPK+ and EWCM(tho, only half the day, for some reason. I guess because I don't sleep) it usually only lasts 2 or 3. My temp spiked yesterday, I expected the spike today. I don't get it, but I'll be really happy the day after chicago pride, or really sad.
post #206 of 431
qotd - ok i will prephrase this by saying we are very lucky.

for me - we started tracking my cycles and had our initial clinic visit in june 2006. we had our first try in august 2006. bfp cycle in november 2006.

for dp - we started tracking her cycles in june 2008 and had our consult with the same clinic in september 2008. we had our first try in december 2008. switched to a new doc in jan 2009. bfp cycle in may 2009.

we had no "trying" cycles. no cycles at home. we had all the testing done up front. even given the relatively minor fertility issues we had, it would have been a miracle for either of us to bfp w/o some intervention. so i am a firm believer in that.

hang in there wehrli. your body knows how to get pregnant, it can do that again.

g

edited to add: for me, sept and oct were break months. for dp, jan and feb were break months.
post #207 of 431
i think we don't have plans for june 27th... i'm gonna ask dp if she is up for it... i wanna go to chicago pride and meet you all!
post #208 of 431
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Originally Posted by indigoscot View Post
qotd - ok i will prephrase this by saying we are very lucky.

for me - we started tracking my cycles and had our initial clinic visit in june 2006. we had our first try in august 2006. bfp cycle in november 2006.

for dp - we started tracking her cycles in june 2008 and had our consult with the same clinic in september 2008. we had our first try in december 2008. switched to a new doc in jan 2009. bfp cycle in may 2009.

we had no "trying" cycles. no cycles at home. we had all the testing done up front. even given the relatively minor fertility issues we had, it would have been a miracle for either of us to bfp w/o some intervention. so i am a firm believer in that.

hang in there wehrli. your body knows how to get pregnant, it can do that again.

g
thanks. i need to remember that i DID get pregnant... i just hope it doesn't take as long to achieve that again, ykwim?
post #209 of 431
QOD- How long have you been TTC? How many of those cycles were "trying" cycles?


We have been trying since 10/09... Got pregnant in OCT, M/C in January.
Got the green light from OB/GYN to try again in March, got pregnant, M/C in May. We just got the okay from the Family Dr today to try again but will be waiting probably until July, due to DP preferance of astrological signs . It has been a long year. It looks like we will be trying to get pregnant when Baby#1 would have been due. Hopefully that keeps me busy.
post #210 of 431
Wehrli, I had to drop by over here to tell you a bit of our story. We tried for very nearly 3 years! Over those three years were 13 cycles attempting to get H pregnant, and a few thrown in there of trying to get me pg. We toured an IVF clinic in early Nov and they told us they could get us pregnant by Christmas... we thought about it more and more and just weren't ready for all of that yet.. So we kept trying at home IUIs. Over all of that time we probably tried just about every trick there is. We did a couple of clomid cycles, a couple of prog supplement cycles, some geritol, some pineapple, some vitex, some of this, some of that... And at times in there we took long breaks (and I started the "waiting 3+mos thread)....
And then, miraculously, on Thanksgiving night H got riotously drunk, we did a one-shot IUI for that month and we got ourselves pregnant by Christmas!!
It was a really, really, really long road. We knew that we couldn't quit, but we tried to be sure we were taking care of ourselves and each other along the way. And now, we know it has all been worth it!
Keep your chin up, it will happen!

Oh, and also, I noticed that you're at the one-year mark of ttc. One year anniversary of trying is really hard. Unbelievably hard. probably harder than the two year mark for us, actually. the illusions are gone and you're just stuck trucking along. It will get better, I promise! I don't know in what way it will get better... but it WILL get better!
post #211 of 431
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QOD- How long have you been TTC? How many of those cycles were "trying" cycles?


We have been trying since 10/09... Got pregnant in OCT, M/C in January.
Got the green light from OB/GYN to try again in March, got pregnant, M/C in May. We just got the okay from the Family Dr today to try again but will be waiting probably until July, due to DP preferance of astrological signs . It has been a long year. It looks like we will be trying to get pregnant when Baby#1 would have been due. Hopefully that keeps me busy.
Painefaria--I hadn't realized that you'd suffered *two* miscarriages. I'm so very sorry. s Has your OB given you any idea about what might be causing them? I know that often, there is no explanation. At the same time, two tries and two pregnancies is fantastic. Would you mind sharing your insemination methods with the rest of us? Sending you many wishes for another quick conception and a VERY STICKY bean.
post #212 of 431
How long did we try?

-We did one cycle at home (and used three vials) and it was a BFN. Found out I had PCOS and my follicles probably never matured on their own. That probably explained why I never got pregnant with my ex, after having (very sporatic and infrequent) unprotected sex for three years. Well, I highly suspect I got pregnant one time and had a miscarriage, but it was never confirmed.

-Second try was an IUI with Clomid and a trigger. Got pregnant and lost the baby. We lost the baby on Thanksgiving Day 2007 and the next cycle was in January 2008.

-Third cycle was a bust, as I did not stimulate while on Clomid. Obviously, no IUI.

-Fourth cycle was an IUI with Femara and trigger. BFN, but I suspect it may have had something to do with the flipping nurse failing to wash the sperm before doing the IUI.

-Fifth cycle was an IUI with Femara and a trigger. Resulted in our beautiful 17 month old DD!

Today is CD 1 for baby number two! I am doing an IUI with Femara and a trigger.

All in all, I kinda only count two cycles (the two in which we had an IUI without incompetance from the RE office). If I look at it that way, we got pregnant both times.
post #213 of 431
The more the merrier for Chicago pride! Come on out! I'll coordinate. If you are in, pm me with your email and cell phone numbers, and I'll circulate a list. I'm so excited to meet Seraf, Wehrli, and anyone else can come. Seraf, our kids can hang out. So nice. Seraf, we live an hour west of Chicago. If west is the right direction and you want to come crash at our place Sunday night, you are most welcome. We have a big, finished basement with a queen bed and room on the floor for air mattresses. Can't wait!
post #214 of 431
Hello there ladies!

My sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl this morning! Jeanetta Mark, 7.3 lbs 19 inches long. Everyone is doing very well. I am both excited and a little sad...we were planning on being pregnant together. This cycle will be the one for us!!! Just keep on thinking...bfp, bfp, bfp, bfp.

On another note...I was offered a temporary assignment this morning for my job. I work for the state...what I do now is just basically take claims for people and help them fill out paperwork correctly in order to get unemployment benefits. The Temoprary Assignment would be me taking over for a co-worker (who is on vacation) who makes decisions regarding if peopel are allowed or denied unemployment benefits. I'm a little reluctant in taking it because of the level of stress that it could potentially add to my day...but my not taking it could close the door on ANY future of promotion there.

I just don't want to do anything that jepordizes my chances of getting pregnant...at the same time I have to protect my job. Maybe I am making a bigger deal out of this than I should.

AmandaHope~ I'm not sure if we are going to Chicago or the Twin cities. We met a great couple in Milwaukee from Minnesota and they invited us up for their Pride celebration.

Library~ I have not seen True Blood, but I do watch Glee...and I love it!!!
post #215 of 431
gelly, good luck with the job decision... that's a hard one!

osker, thanks for dropping in... your story helped. and also the validation of the one year mark. i keep remembering that when we started we just knew that we'd either have a little babe or at the very least be PG by now. and i guess we would be w/o the loss we had... it's hard to think of that, too. i keep feeling like it's a clean slate, like we are starting our odds all over again... if i've gotten PG, then it could take another 7 tries to be PG again... we know we can quit either (at least not for quite some time) so i guess the best thing to do is to keep our chins up and try, try again. thanks again for your thoughts.

RE: Chicago Pride
my dp reminded me that our 2nd annual pride march is that day and we missed it last year. we don't want to miss it again... we live in a smaller city and the fact that they are having pride at all is wonderful. we'd hate to miss it because we want to make sure it sticks, ya know?! i'm torn, though... i really want to meet you all...
post #216 of 431
Wehrli I understand about your local pride celebration. Sometimes it can be so important to support those, though the big city numbers are also really fun. We'll come up to the RenFaire to say hello, even if Pride doesn't work out. I can understand how the one year mark would be discouraging. No one expects to be ttc that long, especially not with the intensity and resources that it takes to do it without a guy in the house. But I wouldn't assume that it will take another 7 months this time. You got pg when you changed your method, and it worked right away, so if you stick with that method, your odds are really good, imho.

AFM BFN at (what I think) is 10dpo No big surprise. I expect AF by Thursday morning, assuming I Od on cd17. I'm in a gray zone, now, because I'm not positive when I Od, so I'll test again tomorrow am. Sigh.
post #217 of 431
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Painefaria--I hadn't realized that you'd suffered *two* miscarriages. I'm so very sorry. s Has your OB given you any idea about what might be causing them? I know that often, there is no explanation. At the same time, two tries and two pregnancies is fantastic. Would you mind sharing your insemination methods with the rest of us? Sending you many wishes for another quick conception and a VERY STICKY bean.
I could not get an OB appointment until 8/16/10 , which was a cancelation the regular appointments were not until September. I am so glad that I am important to them. I will be finding a new OB. We went to the family dr because we respect his opnions and he respects ours. We went through the list of things that could cause M/C and really it could be a few things, all of those unpreventable so not much that we can do. I have had some good days and some bad days but overall we are moving forward. This last M/C was not as hard as the first because I never really got attached because of all of the issues with the bleeding early in the pregnancy. Thankfully my family has been really supportive and that has really helped.
post #218 of 431
Good morning ladies~
Feeling much better today. It rained all night and I slept like a log, so I'm not so much of a zombie. And it didn't flood, at least not in Norman, so I just enjoyed the cooler weather.

2 mamas~ Welcome and sorry I didn't say so yesterday (I didn't do much yesterday, at least not where my brain was involved)

Gelly~ Congrats on your new niece, but super big hugs as well. That can be so tough, welcoming someone else's new baby when you want wan so much yourself. And Yay for Glee!! I do recommend True Blood, though. It's not Glee, but pretty fun on its own.

AmandaH~ How's it going? I know you're feeling discouraged, but you're 10 dpo. I really wouldn't worry about a bfn at this point. You've got days and days to worry and obsess! Re-watch True Blood! I agree, it's pretty hot, be it boys or girls. I also like the way the show's made the men the sex objects rather than the women. Refreshing!

5G~ Progesterone is so tough! You feel completely pregnant even if you're not, then you have to decide if this bfn is REALLY a bfn or is it just one of those things where it's not showing up yet, and should you stop or not, etc. Ugh. Good luck and big hugs to you.

Max~ How'd it go with the new doc? And what the heck is 'Clomid training'?


Wehrli~ Big hugs to you. You're right to keep in mind that you DID get pregnant and you will again for sure xoxo

Paineferia~ Sounds like you have a good plan. Fingers are crossed for you.

AFM~ Went for my pre-femara ultrasound later (driving through the flood). All looks fine and I'll start the pills this evening. Also started my pre-HSG antibiotic this morning, ready for my test on Thursday. I got an info sheet about the test and it doesn't seem too terrible. I'm sure it'll cramp, etc, but nothing I can't handle !! I'm excited~ let's go!!!

And speaking of going~ I want to come to Chicago Pride!! I'm jealous now. Next summer for sure, and we can show off our bumps/bring our babies!
post #219 of 431
Trying to catch up...

painefaria Welcome back to the TTC whirlwind. I'm so sorry to hear of your M/Cs. Sending fertile, sticky wishes your way.

AmandaHope Re: post IUI cramping being a good thing - hey, I'll take anything! It was really bizarre that it happened. Even when my IUI hasn't been pleasant, I've never felt cramping. This time I did. Here's hoping.

kkearney Welcome to the TWW. It stinks!!

LibraryLady Good luck with your HSG on Thursday!

gellybeangirl Congrats on your niece! And it's better to be preggers at a different time than your sis - so now all of the attention will be focused on YOU! Besides, it'll be nice for your kid to have a "big cousin" to look up to.

$$ I have a very rough tally going, and I think the latest is about $8500, over the past year or so. I'm fairly certain it's more than that... but that's my running total.

QOTD Technically, we've been TTC for a year. We got our KD's sperm in May of 2009. He had some weird test results, so we had to get him tested again - he lives in Europe, so we had to wait until he came back to the states in July of '09 to get the tests again. And then we didn't start until September 2009. God, those first four months of having the sperm but being unable to insem seemed to go by SO SLOWLY. Here's how the insems went:

09/09 - IUI #1 - BFN
10/09 - IUI#2 - BFN
11/09 - I asked if we could start drugs, and my NP said she thought we should go one more cycle before trying drugs. She does suggest an ultrasound. We do an ultrasound and find a pretty large "cyst" on one of my ovaries. She suggests we sit out this month, and check the cyst again at the beginning of next month's cycle. We check it in the beginning of 12/09 and the cyst seems to be gone. Woo hoo! But we have to sit out December anyway because we're going to be out of town when I ovulate. BOO.

1/10 - IUI#3 - NP does another ultrasound and the cyst is back. She sends me to an RE for a consult. RE says it's an endometrioma, and asks if I've had an HSG. I say no. He says the endometrioma indicates there could be some blockage in one of the tubes. Asks about my periods... I don't think I have endometriosis... even though my periods are heavy, they're not always super painful and they're fairly regular. So he suggests and HSG before insemming again. Thinking there's nothing wrong, I insist we insem. It's a long story, but I think we insemmed a day early, so I feel like this is a throwaway cycle anyway. Boo again. BFN.

This is where my memory is cloudy. I know we did 2 more insems before this cycle, but I can't quite remember when they happened. One was after my HSG: HSG shows that my tubes might have been blocked, but the dye was able to open them. HOORAY! IUI + BFN.

04/10 - I'm pretty sure this is when my 5th two-week-wait ended. We decide to start drugs. We do the blood work. Everything is fine - FSH is great, but estrogen is kind of on the low side of normal. NP wants to do an ultrasound... finds what she thinks to be a polyp. (Seriously, universe?!) We sit out until we can do a hysteroscopy.

05/10 - Hysteroscopy reveals there was indeed a polyp. Polyp removed. RE suggests we do injectibles and skip clomid. More expensive, but a better success rate. We do that, and only produce one mature follicle. IUI performed on June 11th, 12DPO. Beta test scheduled Tuesday, June 22nd. Eeps.

I have been SO AGAINST testing, but I've decided that I will most likely test on day 11, 12, and 13, even though I'm getting the beta. I want to be prepared for what the results are going to be. So if I see a few negative tests, I'll be braced.

Trigger/Progesterone: My breasts are still really really sore. Feels like they are sunburned AND someone is pinching them! I'm pretty sure this is from the trigger. The progesterone is much easier than I had imagined. The only side effect so far is that I feel really warm most of the time. I've also had some tugging and weird little twinges in my uterus... can only assume that's because of all of the hormones raging through me right now. I hope this cycle takes for a number of reasons, but if it doesn't, AF is going to be AWFUL. My lining will be ridiculously thick by the end of next week. Oy! Today is 5DPO. I. Hate. Waiting.
post #220 of 431
Hi, I hope you don't mind me joining! I'm bi (very, not "curious" lol) and married to an infertile man. We've been trying for a long time but now we are moving on to known donor sperm!

I'm almost afraid to join here because it's been hard over the years watching everyone get their BFP's and move on. But hopefully that was just sperm problems and we'll get our BFP right away now!

I also posted here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1234530

Basically our donor lives a couple states away, and he was going to visit us but now can't make it. So we are scrambling to figure out the right days and right excuse for getting off work (can't say it's for TTC) for us to go there!

I usually O CD 12-15 or so. Our midwife said try every other day starting CD 9, but that's not feasible. I know our donor has great swimmers (got his gf pregnant twice in one year lol) So I'm wondering if every day or every other day is better.

I'm on day 11 now but my clearblue easy fertility monitor says Low and my cervix is lowish, closed and hard. I'm wondering if I should wait till the monitor says Medium? But I need to book a hotel so maybe I should just aim for days 13-16 or so?

Any advice would be tremendously appreciated! We are planning to have him use the Instead cup, then us use a syringe to spray, prop me up and after a while pop the Instead cup in and leave it there as long as possible. Does that sound about right?
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