Dry at night

[Bellabaz]

Dd1 has been potty trained for 1.5 years-during the day. But she still wears a diaper at night. She turned 3 in March. Some mornings her diaper is dry some not. My question is, will she just start being dry when her bladder is mature enough to go all night? Or should we be doing something to help her reach that goal?

She pees (or at least tries) before going ot bed and we take the diaper off first thing in the morning. We have had her go to bed without it (also asked her if she wanted to first) but she pees anyway but does not wake up. I don't think I like the idea of waking her up at night to go to the bathroom. I am sleep deprived enough with dd2 still waking 2-3 times a night.

[columbusmomma]

Yes, she will be dry at night when her bladder is "mature". My DD is almost 3 and I am still using a cloth dipe at night. She is usually dry when she wakes up but sometimes not. I know some people do wake their child up to use the toilet at night. I don't choose to do this b/c as you were wondering, when her bladder is mature enough she will be dry all the time(like we are!) and I understand this concept. Plus I don't want to wake up either and I don't blame you for feeling the same way

[AllyRae]

It definitely depends on the child. DS was daytime trained at 2 1/2 years old...he's now 6 1/2 and still wears GoodNights to bed because he wets daily. His bladder just isn't mature enough. We've tried cutting off liquids after 6 PM and making him use the bathroom several times between 6 PM and 10 PM, but he still wets.

DD1 has been potty trained since 2 1/2 during the day and night.

Every kid is different and daytime training doesn't necessarily correlate with nighttime dryness. It definitely is a maturity issue.

[Alyantavid]

My youngest was potty trained at 2 and will be 4 next week. He now stays dry at night, but we have to wake him up at 10:15 (and not a minute later) and have him go. If we don't, he pees.

My older son was potty trained at 2 and was dry at night from then on. He's wet the bed a handful of times and he's 8 now. So it totally depends on the kid.

[EVC]

You for our dd the nighttime diaper turned out to be nothing more than a crutch.

I waited a LONG time to stop using them, but I was a bedwetter well into kindergarten and I remember the shame and embarrassment of that. I didn't want to put dd through that, so I kept on using the nighttime diaper well after she was otherwise fully potty trained. Sometimes she would wake up dry, but often she would wake up wet (sometimes very wet), so I just kept on using it.

And then one day we ran out of diapers and I was too tired to go to the store. I had a long talk with dd about getting up at night if she needs to pee. She said she would try.

And that was it. She had two or three accidents in the first few weeks, but otherwise was fine with it. Now, several months later, she's great. Gets up when she needs to without problem or prompting.

I think I could have stopped the nighttime diaper sooner. It was my own fears that were holding me back even after dd was probably perfectly "ready."

I think when she was wearing the nighttime diaper she would wake up wet only because she knew she didn't have to get up. Why get up if you don't have to? She had no real reason to try, even though it turned out that she was already capable of it.

Just something else to consider....

[cappuccinosmom]

My middle kid didn't even start waking up dry some nights until around 4.5. He's 5 now, and still in night pullups because I don't trust his bladder. Some nights dry, some not. His pedi told me that he's still in the range of normal development in this area, and not to worry.

[lnitti]

Originally Posted by EVC

You for our dd the nighttime diaper turned out to be nothing more than a crutch.

I waited a LONG time to stop using them, but I was a bedwetter well into kindergarten and I remember the shame and embarrassment of that. I didn't want to put dd through that, so I kept on using the nighttime diaper well after she was otherwise fully potty trained. Sometimes she would wake up dry, but often she would wake up wet (sometimes very wet), so I just kept on using it.

And then one day we ran out of diapers and I was too tired to go to the store. I had a long talk with dd about getting up at night if she needs to pee. She said she would try.

And that was it. She had two or three accidents in the first few weeks, but otherwise was fine with it. Now, several months later, she's great. Gets up when she needs to without problem or prompting.

I think I could have stopped the nighttime diaper sooner. It was my own fears that were holding me back even after dd was probably perfectly "ready."

I think when she was wearing the nighttime diaper she would wake up wet only because she knew she didn't have to get up. Why get up if you don't have to? She had no real reason to try, even though it turned out that she was already capable of it.

Just something else to consider....

This is what I am concerned about. My 6 year old dd still wears GoodNights to bed. She potty trained a little before she turned 3. She is soaked every morning. Quite a while back, we tried a night or two without them. I had planned to take her potty before I went to bed. She already peed the bed before that (and had woken up to change, etc). After I went to bed she wet the bed a few more times. Everything I read said that kids who wet the bed usually just wet 1 or 2 times (so if you caught it by taking her potty, for example before you go to bed, she could stay dry for the rest of the night), but that was not the case for her. So I just took it as a sign that she wasn't ready.

I have no idea when to try again. Everyone says if she is waking up in a soaked diaper she is not ready. Is that true, or is she just using the diaper because she has one? Is it a crutch or is she not ready? For girls, at what age is night time wetting considered a problem?

[mizzoh]

it's not always a bladder maturity thing. some kids are deep sleepers and they just don't wake up ( at least this is what my pedi told me). ds is 4 and sleeps in a pull-up. he is a deep sleeper and doesn't wake during the night ( and we co-sleep, so wetting the bed is not an option!) the pedi said this is normal for some kids up until 6 or so! ( hopefully it will happen sooner than that, though!)

[columbusmomma]

My DS wore goodnights until he was a little over 7. I don't think the child wets a pullup b/c they don't want to get up. I just can't imagine them, being awake(which they would have to be to make a conscious decision to pee or not to pee)and deciding, I will just pee and then fall back to sleep. Maybe I'm wrong and some kids do feel this way, but I honestly think it is a bladder maturity thing. How many adults out there are heavy sleepers(many) and wet the bed? Children, deep sleepers or not, will at some point be able to hold the urine in their bladder all night long.

[Ks Mama]

Originally Posted by Bellabaz

Dd1 has been potty trained for 1.5 years-during the day. But she still wears a diaper at night. She turned 3 in March. Some mornings her diaper is dry some not. My question is, will she just start being dry when her bladder is mature enough to go all night? Or should we be doing something to help her reach that goal?

She pees (or at least tries) before going ot bed and we take the diaper off first thing in the morning. We have had her go to bed without it (also asked her if she wanted to first) but she pees anyway but does not wake up. I don't think I like the idea of waking her up at night to go to the bathroom. I am sleep deprived enough with dd2 still waking 2-3 times a night.

Experiencing EXACTLY THE SAME thing with my son. Just turned three. Will wet at night, doesn't wake up, but doesn't want to wear a pullup/diaper at night, and I certainly don't want to push it since he's been daytime potty trained for a year.

I am trusting simply that his bladder will mature with time. I keep a little potty next to the bed, and we remind him before bed that he can always get up & pee if he needs to. Sometimes he wakes up with his undies off, so I know he's able to get up & do something & get back into bed without fully waking. I just don't think he's fully able to hold all night, and not fully able to remember when waking to get to the potty.

So... just time. My daughter stayed dry through the night sometime during her threes.

[lnitti]

Originally Posted by columbusmomma

My DS wore goodnights until he was a little over 7. I don't think the child wets a pullup b/c they don't want to get up. I just can't imagine them, being awake(which they would have to be to make a conscious decision to pee or not to pee)and deciding, I will just pee and then fall back to sleep. Maybe I'm wrong and some kids do feel this way, but I honestly think it is a bladder maturity thing.

I know my dd has peed in her good night pull up when she was awake - just because she could. We were getting ready for bed, and I smelled something and discovered she decided to pee in it instead of using the toilet. Has happened a few times. This from a 6 year old for goodness sakes!

[LynnS6]

If she's not just going in the diaper out of convenience instead of getting out of bed, she'll be dry when she's ready. Ds was probably ready to move out of nighttime protection about 6 months before we made the move. He saw the Goodnights as a license to pee and couldn't be bothered to go to the bathroom once he had them on. Once I figured that out, we ditched the Goodnights.

But his body wasn't ready until about 6 1/2 or 7. Dd was dry just before 3.