Positive comments about your parenting!

[AFWife]

We're into 5 cycles of the "worst/dumbest" thread. I thought it would be nice to have a positive one.


We had a stranger (woman at drive-in) say, "Oh, good for you for having a rear-facer!" (DS is 13mo and looks older) DH smiled and said, "It's the safest way." And she said, "It sure is!"

So it's two fold...yay for the comment and YAY that she knows!

[ollyoxenfree]

DS came home with a Mohawk last week. He's wanted one for awhile and asked permission first. After months of avoiding the issue, I finally told him that I didn't like the idea, but he's 17, it's his head, and I wasn't going to say he could not do it. We talked about the problems he could confront because of the image. I left it to him to make his own decisions.

Our friends, neighbours etc. have been pretty supportive and all have said they admire the way I've handled it. His grandmothers haven't seen him yet though!

[gcgirl]

I remember one woman who loudly and exaggeratedly praised me for wearing DS1 in a sling while grocery shopping. It was actually kind of embarrassing because it really sounded like she was trying to make a point to all the other shoppers. I was like, jeez lady, enough already!

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by gcgirl

I remember one woman who loudly and exaggeratedly praised me for wearing DS1 in a sling while grocery shopping. It was actually kind of embarrassing because it really sounded like she was trying to make a point to all the other shoppers. I was like, jeez lady, enough already!

A lot of elderly people compliment me on BWing. I had one lady say, "Snuggled against Mama's chest...exactly where he should be."

[gypsymama2008]

I got a comment from a woman when I was walking outside with DD in her ergo (she was about 8 months at the time). She told me that her middle son had always wanted to be carried and near mama as a baby and toddler and she had nursed, worn, co-slept with him for a long time and he was now in his 30s and had turned out wonderfully. She told me to keep doing what I was doing and I would raise a loving, well-adjusted person. It was so sweet and made me feel so good

[limabean]

The one that comes to mind right now is when my aunt said, "Watching the way you are with your kids makes me wish I could have a do-over with my own."

[dogretro]

When dd1 was a newborn, so many people said that I did not act like a first time mom I'm v laid back, lol!

[leighi123]

Random older lady at a thrift store saw me answering ds's 5 million questions, and explaining everything he wanted to know (he was asking very random stuff).

She told me that it was great the way I talked to him and explained stuff to him, and that ds must be very smart (he is!), and she thought his vocabulary was really good. She said she talked to her son the same way when he was a toddler and he turned out super smart too!


Also, when ds was around 9months old there was a long line at the fabric store, he wanted to nurse so I stood in line nursing him, and when it was my turn I paid with one hand and held him with the other still nursing (and not covering as usual), and the checkout lady was a former LLL leader and said (loudly) how wonderful it was for me to NIP.

[Nicole730]

At the store the other day a mom told me how patient I was. Nice to hear since I don't always feel that way.

In the hospital just after DS was born, a midwife I hadn't met came in to talk to us and see how everything was going. She said, "He's not your first, is he?" and I said, "Yes, why?" and she said I just looked so comfortable and relaxed for a first time mom. I will always remember that one, I felt awesome hearing that!

[MusicianDad]

Well, I think the biggest complements I get for my parenting are the wonderful comments I get about my kids. I've gotten a few on here. And it's not uncommon for someone to tell me how creative, independent, and caring DD is or how sweet and gentle DS is. I love that because it means I'm doing something right.

Then there was that time a strange woman complemented me by saying what a wonderful father I was for taking to kids and giving my wife a break. She was so pleased to see me out with the kids I didn't have the heart to tell her that I'm the primary care giver in a two dad household.

[velochic]

For the last two years at school, dd's teachers have said, "Whatever you are doing at home with your dd, keep up the good work. If I could, I'd have a whole classroom of your dd. She is a dream to have as a student." She also always gets comments about her table manners (yes, we put a lot of emphasis on this at home) and her manners, in general. It's nice to get confirmation that our efforts and her efforts are recognized.

MusicianDad - you should have said something. Sometimes people need reminded that the old mold of "normal" has been broken and that anyone, not just traditional families, can raise great kids.

[MusicianDad]

Originally Posted by velochic

MusicianDad - you should have said something. Sometimes people need reminded that the old mold of "normal" has been broken and that anyone, not just traditional families, can raise great kids.

Yeah I know, but she was so happy and nice and I didn't know her at all so I didn't want to risk ruining it for her. The whole thing seemed to make her day.

[Artichokie]

At her two year wbv, my unvaxed, breastfeeding, cosleeping, AP'd daughter's pediatrician said, "Your daughter is amazing. What an incredible child. What ever you are doing as her parents is just right - keep doing it."

[mommy212]

Originally Posted by AFWife

A lot of elderly people compliment me on BWing. I had one lady say, "Snuggled against Mama's chest...exactly where he should be."

I get these a lot too from older women. There are a couple workers at my local kroger who adore him, and always comment and talk to him. The couple of times I bring him in in a stroller, they say they almost don't recognize us! I have also had a lot more good baby-wearing comments around the stores and such. it's surprises me because this is a very conservative area (or maybe I am just stereotyping and it's really not)

Also while at my mom's friends house with a couple of other 50-ish ladies, I plopped on the couch and starting BF my sweetheart and one of the ladies just started talking about how she had BF'd, and her son had turned out wonderful with no allergies or asthma despite both his parents having them. She said, "He still thanks me for BFing him ever spring when he sees us miserable from allergies!" I also got a good comment from a nutritionist at church when she found out I was still BFing my 7mo and made all his food from fresh fruits and veggies

[northcountrymamma]

My favourite was a compliment from a close friend who told me I was her "mamma mentor" and when she had kids she couldn't imagine anyone else to learn from. It has always inspired me...

I also remember a moment where my grandma said, before she passed away, "everything you are doing just seems so intuitive, so right for dd, you are one amazing mother".

I don't get too many compliments from strangers...but I'm ok with that, my friends and family bring me plenty of joy

[verde]

I've had several people comment that DD looks happy and secure. That's been nice.

[ms.shell]

years ago, a lady at church told me my son was blessed to have me as his mother. recently my mom said something about how my sisters use her so much for babysitting but that i never ask her to....she said "you take care of your kids." and then she said that i am a good mama. she's not one to hand out compliments, so i was surprised. but it was nice to hear.

[Megan73]

Honestly, I find most people really encouraging.
Whenever I think my mom will find something weird, she says "mothers know so much more now than we did."
I got so many positive BW comments - I had to laugh at the burly construction worker who joked that he'd like to be carried in a sling like DS.
And a neighbour - a nurse - said "what a lucky boy" when I said DS nursed until 21 months - although it seems too short a time to me.

[SamiPolizzi]

Recently a close friend told me that her and her boyfriend decided that if they ever had a kid they would want to raise him/her the way I'm raising my DS.

[FishBounce]

At the family's Easter party, dh's grandmother (who has never really liked me) told us that our boys were turning out to be such good young gentlemen, and to keep doing what we're doing. She then said we should have a few more kids. When dh told her #3 is on the way, she about fell off the couch in shock, but her comment was still nice.