Positive comments about your parenting! - Page 2

[Surfacing]

I've had positive BW comments in public too, and congratulations for extended nursing my 2.5 y.o.

[busymama77]

Originally Posted by AFWife

A lot of elderly people compliment me on BWing. I had one lady say, "Snuggled against Mama's chest...exactly where he should be."

Awww..that's awesome!! I was wearing DS#2 the other day and while I didn't receive any comments on wearing him, I sure did get a lot smiles and "awwww's".

[LittleBattleAxe]

What a fabulous idea for a thread! I love reading these comments, they really are heart-warming.

The biggest compliment I got was from my mother, who parented quite differently than I do. She was an excellent mother, very patient and wise -- but very traditional. Last summer she came for an extended visit and told me before she left how joyful it is to see me as a mother -- she said how wonderful it was to see that I really enjoyed my children's company, and vice versa. She added that if she could go back, she would care less about other people though, and more about what her values were as a parent.

[Super~Single~Mama]

My best friend told me that I'm her version of superwoman and that she doesn't know anyone who could do what I do

(I'm a single mom law student living 3,000 miles away from my family, and my ex is trying to get custody of ds)

[rightkindofme]

I'm really lucky because basically all of my extended friends-network tell me regularly that I am a poster child for good parenting. (Really I think it is just that my kid is a poster child for breeding.)

The one that made me happiest was when my daughter and I were on a 750 mile road trip by ourselves. We stopped to use the restroom at one of those big pit stop places with random tourist stores. I maintained my normal conversation with my daughter who was like 22 months at that point (she is a really advanced talker and at that point people thought she was a really short 4 year old). When we were finishing up a woman came out of a stall and asked me how old my daughter was. She did it in a fairly aggressive tone of voice so I was prepared to apologize for my daughter getting into things (she had to wash her hands because she wouldn't leave the plunger alone... ew...). Then the woman said, "I think you have the brightest child I have ever heard. You are an incredibly good mother and I wish that every child got to have a mother who cared and interacts as much as you do." Tears instantly sprang to my eyes. It was so wonderfully sweet. She then bustled off as if she hadn't said anything.

[Biscuits & Gravy]

What a nice idea for a thread!

We were at a festival last weekend filled with tons of older people. As we were walking back to camp one couple stopped us and said that is was so refreshing and a joy to see parents interacting so positively with their children and they could not stop watching us. Then a man followed us in his golf cart so that he could tell us he had overheard DS talking and was very impressed by how smart he was, and that we were doing a great job with him. Then he said we had "wonderful control" over our children, which made us both laugh when he left. I think it was meant to be a complement but it sounded so opposite of what we'd normally think of one! I think he was trying to say that they are well behaved. I got tons of comments from men about DS riding on mama's back, and a lot of questions from women about how comfortable it is or how heavy he is. Nothing negative though. And no negative responses to me nursing him. Lack of negative response to nursing a toddler (or nursing in general) equals a positive response if you ask me!

[BunnySlippers]

Originally Posted by thyra

My best friend told me that I'm her version of superwoman and that she doesn't know anyone who could do what I do

(I'm a single mom law student living 3,000 miles away from my family, and my ex is trying to get custody of ds)

You are a super-woman

[delightedbutterfly]

One from a total stranger and a couple from my mom stand out.

The stranger told me that my older DD has "Big Beautiful wide sparkly eyes" and that if I wasn't a good mom they wouldn't sparkle so brightly. That one really stays with me!

And my mom has been really fighting me along the way on many of our parenting choices. She mentioned many times about how we needed to start formula and DH once did stand up to her on that but for the most part I just ignored her. Well DD1 nursed until she was 2.5+ and after a couple years and still to this point my mom has changed her tune drastically. DD had many many allergies and mom swears that nursing was what helped her grow and thrive despite her allergies.

The seoncd with my mom was when I said we were planning a homebirth with our second. There was lots of tension. I bought TBOBB and watched it with her and dad and tried to tell her about WHY my first birth was so "horrible" and such and she tried to be supportive but neither her nor my dad were. I called her about a half hour after I had our second DD and she has said many times that she has never heard me SOOOO HAPPY! For months after having her everywhere we would go she would exclaim as happy and loudly as she could to anyone who was admiring the baby that I had her at home, in a fishy pool! : she scared off a few and a few were polite but it really was funny and refreshing to see her so excited.

[physmom]

Wonderful thread idea!

The one that comes to mind the most is that at the playground a father came up to me once and said I was the only mom he ever saw that seemed to actually be having fun with her child while pushing her on the swing (we play a lot, sing, etc. ).

I also get a lot of comments/questions about babywearing because I wear DD on my back (it´s really common to see baby bjorns around here but rarely to people wear older children on their backs). I´ve recommended so many folks to go to the local babywearing store here for help that I`m pretty sure they should give me a commision.

Also, and this one means the most to me. My dad doesn´t always agree/understand some of the things we do with DD but he always tells me, "Clearly she´s thriving.. actually much more than thriving, she´s one of the happiest, brightest kids I´ve ever seen so even if I might not have done things the same way it´s definitely working!".

We also get a lot of questions about signing because dd signs a lot (as in full sentences with fingerspelling sometime). I just try to educate and answer any questions people have but most of them are really positive.

[mumm]

This thread is great, but makes me sad because since my last two were born I haven't been getting the positive comments like I used too.

But I did get a general stranger comment that was positive this week. The cashier at the grocery store (older teenage boy, kinda chunky, huge "diamond" earring, tats, etc.) said "Wow. You got a lot of food for $46. Most people only get, like, 3 items. And you got bags and bags of healthy stuff."

Originally Posted by velochic

MusicianDad - you should have said something. Sometimes people need reminded that the old mold of "normal" has been broken and that anyone, not just traditional families, can raise great kids.

I think that sometimes non-traditional families get tired of "representing" and just want to be, kwim?

[wondertwins]

While adjusting to the idea of adding another very unplanned baby to our family, I expressed my concerns to my friends and family. The responses I received weren't the empathy that I expected, but more along the lines of "well, it couldn't have happened to two better parents". The one comment that I will probably hold close to me forever was made by a friend who said something along the lines of 'why shouldn't one more child have you for a mama, you're the best mom I know" (I remember the "best mom I know" verbatum ).

These comments were especially meaningful to me because my friends and family have seen us parenting at our best and at our worst.

[Joyster]

I just got progress reports from school for both my boys. Both went on to say (in addition to how stunningly brilliant they are ) that they were both very gentle and kind boys who share and show concern for their classmates and teachers.