I am not having ANY ultrasounds this time, unless at some point my midwife hears or feels something that concerns her enough to recommend one. Reason being, for one thing, like cell phones, ultrasounds have become seen as some sort of necessity, despite the fact that people got on fine without them just 30 years ago, and like cell phones, they are generally regarded as safe, but the proof is still not there.
Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, if I skip the ultrasound, I opt out of any possible risk that some doctor is going to shave off 2 weeks or more, from my LMP dates, which only matters if in my state, a midwife has no choice but to transfer me back to the medpros if I go past however many weeks the medpros on the licensing board have decided I am allowed to go... I am going to find out if she is bound by such limitations, and what the wrongly inflicted legal cutoff is, and if she is, I intend to pad my LMP date, so that even if I am a 44 week cooker this time, it will still fall within the strictures pressed upon us against our wills.
I happen to know there are plenty of women here who give birth at 44 weeks and later, and have to make sure I don't get tossed to the lions if I go past 42 weeks.
You can always wait to hear the heartbeat the old fashioned way, and I think it will be every bit as wonderful as some ultrasound. Cramps and sharp pains are normal. Even brown spotting is normal. Bright red spotting is the one to watch out for.
I sympathize, because this is my 3rd, and I still get to be a nervous wreck each time, in the first trimester, when I am cramping and having pains daily. I swear, you'd think I would learn to relax, but each time, I cry, and get all doom and gloom thinking something must be wrong. I finally found my old diaries from the last two times, and was astonished at how each time, I didn't remember that it was just like that last time, too.
We all do it!
My DH would like me to have an ultrasound, because he enjoys the picture... but this time, short of some real, midwife-suspected concern, we aren't doing it. Just to be on the safe side of the long arm of the law.