Deciding on a midwife

[allisonrose]

After a hospital birth with a midwife with my first, I really want to have a homebirth this time around. I found one midwife who lives quite close by: 30 minutes. There is two others willing to attend me but they are both around 2 hours drive away.

Hubby and I interviewed with the close midwife and I liked her. Hubby is more about leaving this up to me since I'm the one giving birth and he's nervous about the what if's. Am I doing myself a disservice to not interview anyone else?

[laughymama]

I only interviewed one. I had 3 or 4 who offered services in my area.

For what it's worth though, I just knew after meeting with her that she was it. She fit all my expectations and more and I really connected with her and felt comfortable, safe, cared for..etc. It was a good match.

I think if I didn't feel as connected as I did or if I didn't have that "She's IT." feeling then I would have interviewed the other potential possibilities just to make sure I wasn't missing out on someone who I truly felt comfortable with.

[*MamaJen*]

There are ton of highly qualified midwives in my city. I got recommendations, interviewed one, really clicked with her and hired her on the spot. It worked out great. If I had felt on the fence about her I would have interviewed more, but I knew I liked her.
Two hours is kind of far for a midwife. Not so much worries about missing the birth, but it just turns every prenatal visit into a five-hour event. I would do it if there wasn't anyone closer, but if I like a nearby midwife I would likely stick with her.

[ammiga]

I live in a city with many HBMW to choose from. We really clicked with the first one that I met with and hired her without interviewing anyone else. Why waste the time and energy? I loved her and didn't need to give myself a headache with a bunch of interviews.

[St. Margaret]

With the others so far, I might just go with the first one, since you like her.

Around here there are abundant choices, and everyone had told me to see at least three before choosing one, just to see who I really click with, even though some of these friends went with the one they saw first. That's what always happens to me, but I'm still going to see three.

[turnquia]

Um well I got some recommendations from others. Then I phone and emailed a few. I only interviewed one in person. She was the one I always felt the most comfortable with talking to. Seriously LOVE her. Makes me feel crazy calm and relaxed and I'm usually a pretty high strung person.

So not a disservice if you feel comfortable with her, but maybe asking around wouldn't hurt.