Court, I hate it.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Rant coming. I just know it.

So we went to court again yesterday. Ugh. Ex's lawyer is really mean, and quite frankly very controversial - she doesn't want to come to an agreement over ANYTHING!

So we finish up, and my lawyer tells me to go wait for the orders where they get distributed (ex got decent visitation, he's in bar prep this summer so I doubt he really cared about what it was until he's done with the bar anyway), and tells me that the hearing in September is for custody and not the order of protection. UGH. So, lots of money is about to be purged by me and my family to prep for that.

And, my lawyer tells me that ex's lawyer said that they will PROVE that ex's MOTHER is ds's primary caregiver! Ummm.....I thought he'd been living with ME for the last 6 MONTHS!!! Does he have a twin that I didn't know about that isn't my ex's child? Is there another kid living my ex?? Is he delusional? B/c really, I don't think he can prove that. Double Ugh.

[Phoenix~Mama]

Oh honey. I'm sorry. I know how you feel about ex's Mother.

I really hope this all works out for you!

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

Originally Posted by thyra

And, my lawyer tells me that ex's lawyer said that they will PROVE that ex's MOTHER is ds's primary caregiver! Ummm.....I thought he'd been living with ME for the last 6 MONTHS!!! Does he have a twin that I didn't know about that isn't my ex's child? Is there another kid living my ex?? Is he delusional? B/c really, I don't think he can prove that. Double Ugh.

<SNORT>. REALLY? Thats the most ridiculous thing I might have ever read here at MDC. HOnestly, your x might be clinically delusional.

[Halfasianmomma]

I work for lawyers. I hear this kind of b.s. all day long. It's a "puff up your chest" scare tactic. You could document the number of hours your child spends with you, along with all the caregiving related tasks you accomplish for him, if you like, but I'm betting your lawyer is going to be all over that anyhow.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Halfasianmomma

I work for lawyers. I hear this kind of b.s. all day long. It's a "puff up your chest" scare tactic. You could document the number of hours your child spends with you, along with all the caregiving related tasks you accomplish for him, if you like, but I'm betting your lawyer is going to be all over that anyhow.

I don't think I need to document it. My son lives with me, as per the court order. The court already knows how much I care for him, and for how long, since they ordered it!

It's just stupid that I have to pay good money to listen to this BS.

[Halfasianmomma]

Agreed. It's ridiculous.

[Ceinwen]

Gah. You are living my worst nightmare.

Alone - I wasn't worried about my ex. Throw in my narcissistic, delusional ex-mil and things get a little scary.

The woman so badly wanted another crack at raising children, she was willing to do anything to get her hands on mine.

Thankfully my ex is not interested in parenting any more than EOW, and our divorce papers were signed before we even told his parents we were separating.

s to you mama. I hope your lawyer gets to rip them a new one when your day in court comes.

[Latte Mama]

Uh, WTH does your ex's mother have to do with anything? Don't they know that "grandparent's rights" don't really mean squat? Does your ex really want sole custody or is the mother the one that wants it?

Ugh, sorry mama.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Latte Mama

Uh, WTH does your ex's mother have to do with anything? Don't they know that "grandparent's rights" don't really mean squat? Does your ex really want sole custody or is the mother the one that wants it?

Ugh, sorry mama.

It's confusing, really. My ex wants sole custody - legal and physical I think. He thinks that its perfectly reasonable for him to have full custody and have his mother raise our son. Except its not perfectly reasonable, and he's the only one who doesn't get it. To top it all off, his mother told me a thousand times that SHE DOESN'T WANT TO RAISE ANOTHER BABY!!!! But, she could never, never, ever tell her son that b/c she has never told him no in his ENTIRE life. Maybe thats why he's a 28 year old acting like a 2 year old??