Originally Posted by Storm Bride
No, I haven't. I don't think I'd do it. I've seen parents, and even grandparents, give an older sibling a little something at a baby's party, and I can get that. Expecting the guests to bring something for the sibling just seems weird. And, just off the cuff...it sounds counterproductive. I really don't think it's going to help the older dd adjust if she's being given the notion that the baby can't have her own "special day", yk?
It makes sense for parents and grandparents (assuming the youngest also gets something on the older kid's b-day), but not for anyone else.
I do think it's nice that my parents always got a gift for the older kids when they went to a baby shower. But that's less about jealousy and more about "hey, we remember that YOU are getting a new family member too."