Vasectomies?

[GutInstinct]

Does anyone know if this topic has been covered anywhere on these message boards?

[RedOakMomma]

Look up above your post. Click on Pregnancy and Birth. Then click on "Family Planning" in the fertility category. Should be lots of info/threads there.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

You can use search and there should be a bunch of V threads.

[wombatclay]

Moving to family planning.

[GutInstinct]

Anyone have any feedback or advice?

[KatWozBlue]

My husband has his vasectomy last week, I literally dropped him off, went to the mall and 1 1/2 hours later he called and said "come pick me up", very little swelling, took some tylenol and on Monday he went back to work after spending the weekend a litttle more low key than usual, but not laying around in major pain (he did this on a Friday).

We did research, it is a safe procedure with very few side effects or problems, the recovery is super fast, and my husband was totally non stressed about it.

[LVale]

Well my hubby had the Big V , 26 years ago. Absolutely no problems. He is now 53 and our love life is great! It was a quick easy procedure. Hope this helps to ease your minds!

[belovedofbast]

My DH just had his vasovasostomy (aka vasectomy reversal) a week ago. I've been with him for 7 years, and am childless (hence the reversal, hehe) Our love life was fine, and the initial procedure was (as I understand it, we weren't together at the time) fine.

A word of caution, if your DH (or you) even has a smidgeon of a doubt about being done with kids, the reversal is way more invasive and painful.

[mama to 2 girls]

Originally Posted by KatWozBlue

My husband has his vasectomy last week, I literally dropped him off, went to the mall and 1 1/2 hours later he called and said "come pick me up", very little swelling, took some tylenol and on Monday he went back to work after spending the weekend a litttle more low key than usual, but not laying around in major pain (he did this on a Friday).

We did research, it is a safe procedure with very few side effects or problems, the recovery is super fast, and my husband was totally non stressed about it.

Although my dh had his done almost 2 yrs. ago and he drove himself there and back home again.

[34me]

I was absolutely done having kids so I drove and chatted with the urologist while he was doing it and my dh was in his "happy place" ignoring us both. My dh did have an unusual complication. Even though I had told the office and the doc that he is allergic to latex, latex sutures were used. And man can those puppies swell! Dh had it done on a Monday and Christmas was on Wednesday, so I couldn't call the office until Thursday. They said I could pull out the sutures and all was well. His were cut, a piece removed and a metal clip put on both sides. We were DONE.

[sunniecooks]

We have 7 children. During this last pregnancy all I could say was he was going for a vas. Now that my son is out, I just felt terrible about the idea of never being able to even have a choice to have another baby. He is done but he knows how bad I feel about this perm. decision. We canceled the appt the day before the first consultation. We decided to go back to charting and using condoms. I don't like the condoms but it is better than the perm part. As someone else said, if you aren't 110% sure don't do it. A friend had her tubes tied because people forced her into it and she has regretted it ever since. She even went to Mexico to have it reversed and still no baby.

If you are 110% sure than it is a good option. Several of my husband's friends have had it done and no problems. Hope that helps!

[GutInstinct]

Thanks, everyone!

Anyone else have feedback?

[Teenytoona]

It's been almost 2 years since DH's V. No problems to report. With my irregular cycle, I very much enjoy not having to worry about what day are we in the cycle, how close ovulation might be, if we need to use some method or not. DH seems right fine with it, and recovery took very little time and effort - just a few bags of ice.

I've only given birth once - but have 4 stepkids, so our family is certainly big enough. We decided that our youngest would be the last well before she was born. We were both very certain that there are enough kids in our family, and were certainly ready to do so.

[momto4plus4]

GutInstinct: I have no advice, just reading because dh has his first appt with the urologist on July 8.

[Aquitane]

DH had his about 5 years ago.

His urologist allowed him to listen to headphones, which DH said made a big difference.

He used ice packs the first day. After that, nothing. He was really okay the next day, we went to a BBQ. He didn't really want to walk or stand too much, but that was all.

Make sure that you have his semen checked as recommended. We had to use another BC method for two months after the V. Then DH made a deposit, we took it to the lab, and they analyzed it for sperm. If you don't get the green light, you have to go back. Everything was okay with DH's. But I hear that this is the reason a lot of women get PG after their partner has a V, they don't check to make sure it worked.

I agree with other posters, however. Please be sure you are 110% confident you do not want more kids. We were sure 5 years ago, and DH is still sure, but personally, I don't know. Now that my kids are older, it would be great to have a little one. But, it just isn't in the cards for us, so it is what it is.

[Purple Sage]

DH has his appointment in two weeks, and we are thrilled. We have four children ranging in age from teen to toddler, and we are without a doubt DONE.

I'll come back to post how the procedure and recovery went in a few weeks.

[littlest birds]

We thought we were done and we thought it was "right" and we got a vasectomy in 2003. We have four children now getting older and desperately are TTC after a reversal.

The vasectomy was not difficult, nor recovery, dh didn't use any of the prescription pain meds that they insisted he would desperately need. It made for very stress-free sex. But obviously we later went for a reversal. (Six years later, a length of time during which quite a lot can change.) If we had it to do over we would never have gotten the V even though it would have been harder in some ways. Our TTC chances are not so great now and I will tell you we HAD NO IDEA our intentions would change as they have. We were sure when we got it and now we are a rather heartbroken that we put put ourselves in this particular limiting position.

The V is great if you're sure. But I wish we'd just gone for FAM. (That said DH is at first consideration up for getting another V later on after we feel done again if we even get that far, but I don't think it will play out that way.)

Best wishes!

[voicegrrl]

My ex had it done after our twins were 1. He did get an infection but it was fine after he went on abx. I longed for more children but I knew that he and I could not have more children if we were going to make our marriage work, plus he only wanted 2 children and we wound up with 3 so it all made sense at the time. We separated a year later and he is now married to a childless woman so I have a feeling he regrets the surgery.

My 2nd DH and I have a toddler together and most of the custody of my other 3. We just lost a surprise baby at 11 weeks and I almost bled to death. We'd been sitting on the fence about having another child or getting the V when we found out I was pregnant. We were excited but also so stressed. It just doesn't work for our family for me to be pregnant. After the traumatic M/C he has decided that he doesn't want me to be pregnant again and he's totally fine with having just 1 biological child. He doesn't want to risk losing me again. I am also relieved because I am definitely worn out from being pregnant, homebirthing, and breastfeeding non-stop over the last 9 years and cannot imagine another experience like what I just went through.

I won't take anything with hormones so that's not a birth control option, I had a bad experience with an IUD, and I have endometriosis so a tubal is out of the question. We've gotten pregnant two times in a row with condoms along with charting, I lost both of those babies and it's just too much on my body so he will be getting surgery soon and I am so looking forward to not dealing with birth control! I'm excited to enjoy the children I have and be thankful for them and know that we get to move forward with our lives without any (hopefully) surprises or miscarriages.