Unplanned and lots of questions...where to start>?

[momtoS]

Okay...so I thought that prehaps I was starting pre menopause, I am 36 and thought..it is possible right>? I have had some irregular cycles lately...ranging in length. So...when af didn't show when I guess it should. ( I guess I should have wrote down when the last one was...sometime I think in April.). So I thought it was just a crazy cycle.

Then.....my pants started to get snugger. And snugger. I started to feel really really bloated.

So...I thought what the heck...bought a test to *rule out* being pregnant.

IT TURNED A VERY BRIGHT POSITIVE as soon as the pee hit the line. So...I thought the test must be defective.

I did another one and the same thing happened.

So here I am......pregnant with number three (we planned on two). I told EVERYONE that I was DONE DONE DONE DONE.

EVERYONE.

I am kind of embrassed that I have to eat my words. I know a few people will tease me. Definitely my sister.

How do I tell people? I would really like to wait a while.....but I am so unbelieveable bloated I am having a hard time with clothes. I am hoping the bloating goes down soon.

BUT.....if it is my third.....is it possible to start showing at 6 or 7 ish weeks?

Also....I have been offered the ISP screening and turned it down. Should I get it?

I have a dating ultrasound in two weeks.

I have a midwife appointment in July...they don't see clients until after 12 weeks.

I have to figure out a carseat....will three fit in my car? What if it doesn't?

I had a quick surprise labour and birth with my last.....I am scared that this one will be quick....what if I am home all alone and no one makes it in time?

I have had hyperemesis with the past two.....how am I going to care for two children.....with this?

I just feel like the world is spinning.....spinning. WOW. This is a surprise.

[lilmiss'mama]

Most of your questions I can't answer, but as far as clothes...this is my 3rd too & at 7 weeks I cleaned out my closet of everything I couldn't wear. This basically included every pair of pants I own. My bloating went away somewhat but my belly bump has not. At nine weeks it is getting more pronounced.

Everything will work out! I know it sounds trite...but you will get what you need, believe it!

[umsami]

This little guy was a surprise for us too. (#4) I tried to arrange for a dating u/s, but with insurance changes, couldn't in time--so was just told a few weeks ago that my due date was moved up 2 weeks. Arrrgh!

I wouldn't tell anybody until you're ready to. And heck, you really don't have to say anything if you don't want to. It's up to you. I got some surprising reactions from a few people--and sort of wish I had held off. I also got some wonderful responses which were very appreciated.

I don't know what ISP screening is. I had the nuchal translucency done with #3, but with this guy, we declined all screening.

Most cars can handle three car seats in the back. For your older kids, look into the Radian carseats, if space is an issue. They're supposed to be great. There are Moms in the Safety forum who can help you figure everything out--just post ages, car seats, and your make/model.

As for your hyperemesis, perhaps you can get some meds for that when you go for your dating u/s. Have them on hand just in case.

As for quick labor, I've had one quick labor (middle kid) and too long ones. So it can vary. If you're really nervous, you could talk to your midwife about it--including what should you have on hand, just in case. Perhaps hiring a doula or arranging to have somebody come to your house as soon as you think you're in labor would be a good idea.

Don't worry. Take a big breath. You don't have to figure everything out yet.

[Galatea]

I was in maternity pants at 7 weeks with number 3. You don't have to tell right away - just wear baggy shirts. And you can get 3 car seats in almost any car if you get the Sunshine Kids Radian.

Just let your feelings flow - forcing acceptance never works!