In 2007, my dh had two options for job transfer. One was 9+ hours away from our family, the other was 4 hours and still in the same state. We did a pro/con list and moved to the town closest to our families.
I know that this was the right thing to do. It was the right thing for dh's career and the right thing to keep us as close as possible to family since we have young children.
However, now that we've been here 2 years, I really hate it. I am like the lone liberal stuck in conservative-ville. It is a huge retirement area (we are near 2 lakes and 2 rivers), so there are few young families. Most of the young people who live here have lived here since they were kids, so everyone knows everyone and it is very cliquish.
Blah, blah, blah. Dh loves it so I keep most of that to myself and put on a happy face.
The biggest thing that is starting to make me feel resentful is that, now that I'm needing to go back to work (I'm a secondary social studies teacher), there are no jobs.
It is so rural that many of the schools have 1 social studies teacher for grades 7-12 (who has been there since 1955 and will probably die while teaching
). The town I live in is bigger, but you either have to A) apparently know someone to even be granted an interview or B) be a coach (they have attached coaching positions to every.single. social studies job they've posted).
I've looked in an hour's drive in every direction for a job and found 2 openings. It really makes me miss the metro area we were living in before where there were tons of big schools within an easy driving distance.
With 2 in day care, I have to be making at least $30K to make more than I make now (working part time at a mother's day out program, which is not steady work) after taxes.
I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and it sucks!
I know that this was the right thing to do. It was the right thing for dh's career and the right thing to keep us as close as possible to family since we have young children.
However, now that we've been here 2 years, I really hate it. I am like the lone liberal stuck in conservative-ville. It is a huge retirement area (we are near 2 lakes and 2 rivers), so there are few young families. Most of the young people who live here have lived here since they were kids, so everyone knows everyone and it is very cliquish.
Blah, blah, blah. Dh loves it so I keep most of that to myself and put on a happy face.
The biggest thing that is starting to make me feel resentful is that, now that I'm needing to go back to work (I'm a secondary social studies teacher), there are no jobs.
It is so rural that many of the schools have 1 social studies teacher for grades 7-12 (who has been there since 1955 and will probably die while teaching
). The town I live in is bigger, but you either have to A) apparently know someone to even be granted an interview or B) be a coach (they have attached coaching positions to every.single. social studies job they've posted).I've looked in an hour's drive in every direction for a job and found 2 openings. It really makes me miss the metro area we were living in before where there were tons of big schools within an easy driving distance.
With 2 in day care, I have to be making at least $30K to make more than I make now (working part time at a mother's day out program, which is not steady work) after taxes.
I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and it sucks!
not sure how I can help, but sending some good vibes your way 
