I hear so much about "I did it because my husband wanted it done" or "I don't know how to convince my husband not to do it" or "I brought it up, it turned into a huge fight" and even "my marriage might be over now!"
But did anyone have a husband that really didn't care one way or another?
When we found our our first was a boy, I said "well, now we have to talk about circumcision." His first response was "What do you mean talk about it, isn't it just...done?" I told him that no, it's actually our decision, and I had just started reading about it, and I was surprised at what I found. I started to tell him about how it's purely a cultural or religious thing, not medical at all, then I started to describe HOW it was done. He interrupted me and said "Okay, whatever you want honey, you're the researcher!"
And that was that! We didn't talk about it again until Ian was born. I shared a post partum room with a mom of a baby boy, and the dr came in and said to the other mom "I understand you want him circumcized, do you have any questions?" and my husband said "that poor baby, he has no clue what's about to happen to him!" and he hugged our perfect baby boy tighter to his chest.
So for me, it was very easy. My husband is not an intactivist at all, he thinks that circumcision is a stupid thing to do, but doesn't see it as a major rights violation either. So I guess he's in the camp of "not my kid, but do whatever you want to yours" whereas I'm in the camp of "outlaw this horrific procedure!!" So we're not exactly eye-to-eye, but there was never any tension about the topic.
Anyone else have a husband or partner that was surprisingly easy to convince?
But did anyone have a husband that really didn't care one way or another?
When we found our our first was a boy, I said "well, now we have to talk about circumcision." His first response was "What do you mean talk about it, isn't it just...done?" I told him that no, it's actually our decision, and I had just started reading about it, and I was surprised at what I found. I started to tell him about how it's purely a cultural or religious thing, not medical at all, then I started to describe HOW it was done. He interrupted me and said "Okay, whatever you want honey, you're the researcher!"
And that was that! We didn't talk about it again until Ian was born. I shared a post partum room with a mom of a baby boy, and the dr came in and said to the other mom "I understand you want him circumcized, do you have any questions?" and my husband said "that poor baby, he has no clue what's about to happen to him!" and he hugged our perfect baby boy tighter to his chest.
So for me, it was very easy. My husband is not an intactivist at all, he thinks that circumcision is a stupid thing to do, but doesn't see it as a major rights violation either. So I guess he's in the camp of "not my kid, but do whatever you want to yours" whereas I'm in the camp of "outlaw this horrific procedure!!" So we're not exactly eye-to-eye, but there was never any tension about the topic.
Anyone else have a husband or partner that was surprisingly easy to convince?
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