"Stop talking!!" - Page 2

[MommaMoo]

OP, I would be just as annoyed as you if my ds acted that way. Heck, what am I saying "if" for! My ds is *extremely* bossy and demanding. He doesn't even "allow" me to sing. I detest this behavior and I agree with you that it is not OK, I would not put up with it. I really like the pp's suggestions. It might be a PITA for a while, but if it works it's worth it.

[proudmamanow]

We live out in the 'burbs so dd age 5, who sounds like your dd, has to put up with a lot of long car rides. She used to do exactly what you are describing. We have done two things:

-books on tape! We all love them & have a set of 5-6 on rotation that she enjoys...that we all enjoy. Our next plan is to get her headphones (we used them on a plane trip and it was great).

-zero tolerance for screaming in the car. If you scream you get a warning. Do it again, and we pull over--no discussion. (we do not have a ton of hard & fast rules, but this is one). We consider this to be a safety issue because the driver can't concentrate.


Of course dd2 (age 2) is starting to scream and roar in the car and none of this is working, lol!

[loraxc]

My dd used to tell us to stop talking but what she actually meant was include me in your conversation.

I was wondering about this, too. My extremely talkative and outgoing DD never wants quiet (ever!) but she does hate to be excluded, and after a while she has been known to get frustrated by adult conversation that does ot include her. I think it would be good to know if the need is silence or inclusion or what before proceeding with the good ideas here. And btw, ITA that her behavior is annoying and not okay (albeit pretty normal).

[JL83]

We had a breakthrough after I read Playful Parenting... I think alot of that book goes WAY overboard. But there was 1 thing that stuck out to me.

He talks about how grown ups "play" by talking while little kids play by playing.

Explaining that to my kids has made a really big positive change in the "Stop talking" phase. I've been through that phase twice now and I expect to go through it again. We simply remind them that mommy and daddy are playing with each other by talking and they should play with their book/doll/truck that we've brought along for them.

It takes awhile to get through their thick little heads, but they eventually get it.

We also make it very clear that they can join in the conversation. And if they choose to do that we do bend over backwards to talk about something they like and include them.

[bluebirdiemama]

I agree with heartmama, this is the kind of approach I would take. I would start with pulling over though. My view would be that her actions need to stop, and we need to run an errand. Neither will be compromised... (of course, I also wouldn't be surprised to have to eat my words! )
If my kid started to have fun with the pulling over thing, I might suggest that my dh and I get out of the car, have our conversation out there, and when dd was done yelling we would get back in and resume our outing.

I just want to add that I would not let her get scared or start crying or anythng,that is not what I am suggesting. I don't think I am coming across that way but I don't want anyone to misread what I said