8 wk old baby screams in DH's arms!

[Lovumms333238]

We are EBF so I understand she is with me most of the time but I feel awful. Its only been this way for 3-4 days but everytime he takes her she loses her mind until she's back with me again. He does everything he can think of and everything he see's me do with her that calms her down and he listens to my suggestions-nothing works for him. Yesterday I tried to give her more time with him to see if that would help and poor DH almost had a breakdown. He is just so hurt by this. Now I've read all the information I can online and I understand that this is a normal phase but has any one else been through this? Can anyone give me some times to get them to be "friends" again? I need all the help I can get since I feel like I can't even shower because I hear her screaming at the top of her lungs and I can see the sadness in my dh's eyes, its just killing me!

[candelaria80]

We went through this in the beginning as well. DD had a couple of phases of only wanting to be with me, and it killed DH. In our case is subsided a bit when I pumped and DH got to feed her and I think we started that around 8-10 weeks.
It will pass. Now at 9.5 months she is the biggest daddy's girl.

[Cersha]

maybe babywearing? I wear my Ds2, and that is also something that DH can do to calm him.

[penguintattoo]

My DD was the same way, it started right around 8 weeks and no one could touch her or me. She would scream and scream until I took her back it was awful and I thought it was my fault but after talking to different people I realized it was just a stage. She started to outgrow it around 3.5 to 4 months, and now at 6 she loves her daddy more than anything! Every night when he gets home she smiles and gets all excited, so it will pass just hang in there!

[Lovumms333238]

i had dh put on our moby and it works but only if he's moving. its the same when I wear her too, she has to be moving in it or shes hating every second! I definitely think I will try the pumping and letting him feed her. I understand that it is a phase but I want to minimize the length of the phase for DHs sake. Any other tips?
I'll let you all know how the pumping goes, any recommendations on bottles that wont cause nipple confusion?

[candelaria80]

Originally Posted by Lovumms333238

i had dh put on our moby and it works but only if he's moving. its the same when I wear her too, she has to be moving in it or shes hating every second! I definitely think I will try the pumping and letting him feed her. I understand that it is a phase but I want to minimize the length of the phase for DHs sake. Any other tips?
I'll let you all know how the pumping goes, any recommendations on bottles that wont cause nipple confusion?

Ha! DD was the same way until about 4 months, it got better when she learned to crawl around that time. She would never let us hold her "like a baby" you know, a cradle hold! If the constant movement gets too tiring standing up and bouncing try a yoga ball. You can then sit and bounce. There are also some great ways to alleviate infant gas with the ball.
As for the bottles, we always used Born Free, we never had any issues with nipple confusion.

I hope it gets better for you and your DH soon.

[tzs]

we liked the breastflow bottle when she was tiny and wouldn't take from anything else.
good luck. sounds like you have some great ideas here and are on the right track.