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post #21 of 68
37 weeks tomorrow. Starting to swell a bit for the first time. Took y'alls advice and ate some watermelon and poof! Gone! Today's gorgeous-no-humidity weather in New Jersey doesn't hurt either, I'm certain.

Feeling like my little june bug will be born right around her scheduled time.

Need to wash the baby clothes, blankets, cribbing, and diapers. Birth kit ordered. Last of the diapering needs in UPS transit from cloth babies. Must think about food prep and freezing meals. Gah! The count down has really begun! I swear I'll get the rest of the garden in today and be done with it.

There is one thing that is truly weighing heavily on my mind and heart:

I received an email from my mother this morning, which narrates a recent birth account of her friend's grandson. He was born, cord wrapped around his neck, no interventions needed but oxygen, passed his tests, mama and baby fine, etc.

I know my mom would rather me birth in the hospital. When I revealed the complete placenta previa to her she went as far to say that she'd find relief in a c-section over home birth. On the flip side, for having such a strong preference and she's basically kept her opinion to herself, and even protected me from relative's well meant, but anti-home birth, opinions. I've equally appreciated her not using me as a sounding board for her own fears.

She will be my son's primary care taker at this home birth. I'm not saying that her recent email made me not want her around. But, I suppose I feel a definite disconnect. I certainly am opposed to my daughter's birth to being shrouded in fear, anxiety, & worry, and I can't help but feel ticked when common birth occurrences are skewed toward hyperbole. I don't really know what I'm saying, I just know its not a fight I care to take on right now, and I'm feeling a little befluxed that she'd pass along some stupid narrative of a common birth occurrence with zero dire outcome as a reason to reconsider birthing at home.
post #22 of 68
amberdcm-I'm sorry you are having to deal with these conflicting feelings at this point in your pregnancy. Hang in there!

So, I'll be 40 wks tomorrow. I've been trying to clean/do laundry this morning, hoping to get things exciting. DS seems pretty much over his cold, and I feel like I'm starting to get better, finally. Based on how I feel now, I'm guessing I have another day or two of the cold crud. So, hopefully, I'll be over it soon and can get on to much more exciting and important things!

The phone calls/messages have started coming. I guess people think I've already had the baby and just forgot to call/text/post on facebook anything about it. I try to remind everyone this could go on for another couple of weeks, hoping that calms their anxiety and keeps them occupied for awhile. Probably not, but I can hope, right?

Got to go get something to eat...maybe some cherries? And, it's time to switch the laundry load. Oh, what exciting things I've thought of to occupy my time, waiting for one of the most exciting things ever to happen! :-)
post #23 of 68
Thanks, azdaisy. I appreciate the calming vibes.

There's a "have you had the baby yet" thread on our DDC about a funny website to check out.

Just post that link on yer facebook page. =)
post #24 of 68
Thread Starter 
amberdcm, I don't know if your mom is like mine at all, but she was concerned before I had DS at home. She is very "I love the medical model" and had an epidural with all 5 of her kids (or would have but my sister came too fast). She's also much more high anxiety than many of us.

However, I thought a lot of her fears/questions/criticisms in this instance were due to lack of knowledge. We've done a LOT of research and reading and have friends who birthed at home. My mom knew nothing. So when she asked a question or something, I felt better about it if I took the time to talk her through what would happen at home in that situation - she may not know that midwives check for the cord and carry oxygen, etc.

But obviously I don't know your mom and you will have to be the one to ascertain whether she can be a calm, positive influence. FWIW, my mom ROCKED at both mine and my sister's births. I think she'll always prefer the hospital, but she was able to be calm, helpful and supportive.
post #25 of 68
My mom is so anti-homebirth it's unbelievable. I don't really understand as a patronizing OB is pretty much the reason her first child died and she absolutely despises 99% of doctors and hospitals. She is quite open about her relief that I am 'not so crazy to have a homebirth'...and that she would 'come take me to a hospital herself if I tried to have a homebirth'....she knows I support homebirth but is quite open in her relief that I do not feel that I am a safe candidate for one given my history and home location.
She gets herself crazy over the fact that I delay and selectively vaccinate.
UGH.
post #26 of 68
Thank you all for the kind thoughts on the last thread. I'm doing fine, just worried about my mom being ok from now on. I'm hoping she finds stuff to keep her busy and happy.
It was a very bad accident and there's a police investigation with the District Attorney involved already.
post #27 of 68
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Kathryn, keep us posted!

So had pink CM! That is a pretty good chance of being bloody show and not just the dang spotting this time right?! Combined with low back ache for the past few hrs plus feeling the kid all IN my cervix, I'm getting uncomfortable, nervous, and on high alert!

I texted my mom about the pink mucus and my brother checked her phone. Ha ha, serves him right for reading other people's texts. Whatever, he reads my blog that kid has learned a lot about placentas! He's 20 btw.
post #28 of 68
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Thank you all for the kind thoughts on the last thread. I'm doing fine, just worried about my mom being ok from now on. I'm hoping she finds stuff to keep her busy and happy.
It was a very bad accident and there's a police investigation with the District Attorney involved already.
Hope your mom will be okay. That's awful about the accident. Hope they figure things out quickly and that it doesn't add a lot of stress to your family, esp your poor mom.

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Kathryn, keep us posted!

So had pink CM! That is a pretty good chance of being bloody show and not just the dang spotting this time right?! Combined with low back ache for the past few hrs plus feeling the kid all IN my cervix, I'm getting uncomfortable, nervous, and on high alert!

I texted my mom about the pink mucus and my brother checked her phone. Ha ha, serves him right for reading other people's texts. Whatever, he reads my blog that kid has learned a lot about placentas! He's 20 btw.
Good luck, Burnindinner!!!


As for bloody show, I just woke up at 4:30am and had some blood...quite a bit of it, but not a scary lot or anything. I've never done this before...it was just bright red clotless blood. I've been having quite a bit more discharge lately. This morning I feel kinda crampy, like I'm about to start my period. So! I wonder how long it will be now! I have an OB appt this morning at 9:40am, and I guess I will let her try to check my cervix.

Question for you: DH is working this morning from 8am till noon. Should I let him go? Chances are, since this is my first, that I won't pop the baby out before then. Once I have the baby, he gets 10 days off of uncharged leave (freebie leave he didn't have to earn).

Ooo I am feeling a ton of pressure on my oww oww pelvis. Okay, it's coming in waves. No contractions so far. Hmm.

Well, I'm feeling sleepy again, so I guess I'll sleep for a couple more hours. Can't wait to see what my OB says! I'm so excited I'm going to be a mommy soon!!!

ETA: Oww Oww Oww. Okay, that pressure is coming in quick waves too much to sleep through. Never mind about going back to bed. What should I do? Hmm! Oww oww!! Wake up DH? He'll be getting up at 6:30am, so I guess I'll just let him sleep unless it gets real bad. Guess I should finish packing my bag now.

ETA #2: Okay, maybe those waves ARE contractions! Coming ever few minutes. OWW OWW I've never done this before. So exciting!!
post #29 of 68
Kathryn You and your family are in my thoughts, I am sorry about your father. Please do keep us updated!

Burnindinner & bananabee WOOHOOO for things moving along! Hoping you both are on a easy path to delivering right now!

Lotsa babies being born 'round here! A lot of fast labors; those babies want OUT! Mine never wanna come out

crampy,cranky, coughing up a lung STILL enuff said!

Thursday is the last day of school, soooo looking forward to not arguing with kids to get dressed,hair brushed etc!

I scheduled myself for massive hours over the course of the next 5 days..figured if I am not gonna go into labor may as well make money.
post #30 of 68
yay BananaBee & Burnindinner!!! Go mamas go!!
And then send the labor vibes my way PLEASE

41 weeks today, I want to hide under a rock or something. This is my longest pregnancy. My zen is pretty much gone at this point. blah.

Kathryn I'm so sorry about your dad My mom was killed in a motorcycle accident when I was 5 and I still worry a lot about my dad when he's out riding I hope you and your family can find peace and healing soon, and that it's not too hard on your mom.
post #31 of 68
*mama moose* Heres some more ZEN!

Really since I have convinced myself this baby aint coming til July (which is well overdue actualy) I have much more peace with just being still pregnant! Though finding ways to occupy my time, without cleaning *YUCK* is becoming increasingly difficult.
post #32 of 68
Okay, so I've been mostly lurking here, but thought I would jump into this week's chat - I love hearing about how all of you other June mamas are doing! I am sending good thoughts and love out to each of you!

I have 2 WEEKS to go till my dd and I'm feeling really good overall - the only bummers are some swelling in my feet & fingers with the heat we've been having (maybe I'll go buy a watermelon today!) & achy joints, especially after waking up in the morning. I know I look really big (esp. because I am petite, my belly looks really big on me!) but what is UP with random people on the street feeling it is okay to yell things like "You're ready to pop!!" or "Do you have twins in there??" and then looking shocked and horrified when I say no...these kind of comments are REALLY starting to get on my nerves!!

On a positive note, my Mom is coming from CA this Saturday to stay the summer and I am SO relieved we finally found her an apartment - that was a MAJOR relief to cross that off my list of things to do!!!

We're having a homebirth, and I have almost everything ready - my midwife gave me the tub last week, I've got the birth kit, and the nursery is almost all set up. Today I'm washing baby clothes & blankets and tonight we'll do a test-fill of the tub. But. I still haven't told my Dad & Stepmom we're having a HB!! I've been so nervous about how they'll take it, and I just haven't wanted to deal with their anxieties and fears if they don't take it well...but although I know lots of other people are comfortable NOT telling, I wouldn't feel right not telling them about the HB. So I just have to work up the nerve to make that phone call! Gah. Any words of encouragement would be very welcome!

Otherwise, let's see...I still need to clean the house, stock up on good food, hang curtains and art in the nursery, send out thank-you notes for my shower, and I'd really like to set up a mama blog. Trying to be a cool cucumber and appreciate all of the things I have already accomplished and not stress about what still needs to be done!
post #33 of 68
aka mommy, burnindinner,and bananabee I hope this is it for you!!!!!

*mama moose* sending you some ZEN

global mama That is so awesome that your mom is staying for the summer! My mommy was going to come out and stay with us but she can't now. As for your dad and stepmom just tell them. Maybe you can send them to some really good links on HB. In the end it is your choice and they will just have to deal. My parents were all freaky about homebirth. Their main fear was and is for this baby is what if something happens? Well that is why we have our midwife and if we needed to transfer to the hospital she would let us know. Plus the hospital is like 10 min away. Good luck

kathryn I'm so sorry.

Well I am 38wks now, just have to try and keep the house up. With three kids under 10 is not so easy. lol I have a small birth list left. I hope to get to the store this week and cross them all off. Well off to clean.

Hope to read more baby posts soon!!!
post #34 of 68
Wow there are a lot of babies being born right now!!!

I was at the hospital from about 3am-9am but not because baby was coming. I woke up with yet another migraine and after over a week of it I decided that was enough. Mw agreed - go in and try to get relief so I can function again.

So I go to L&D first because generally they send you up there if you don't...all of the computers in the hospital were down?? I peed in a cup, blood pressure, and monitored baby for a good while, and they consulted with the OB who said for them to transfer me downstairs to the ER since baby was fine. Then comes trek number two which took quite some time again because again, no computers until 6am, then shift change, and they lost my chart at least once if not twice, to have it turn up in the discharge pile.

Nice. At that point I was about to run out the door for fear of what they were going to try to give me to stop the migraines! The Dr ended up doing a really great job though...he went very safe and gave me reg tylenol like I usually do, but added in an anti-nausea medication and a steroid (one of the types used to mature's baby's lungs) that was safe for baby. They were hoping this would stop this vicious cycle. It definitely help enough that once I managed to find a clean bathroom to pee in, I dozed off and they were able to send me home.

So Mom has all but my youngest and I've been hanging out with her all day dozing off and on and relaxing. All of the fluids they pushed has left me pretty swollen and I'm soooo flushed from something they gave me. BUT my head for now is acceptable and I'm praying it stays away since I haven't had more than 1 day respite since the Monday previous!
post #35 of 68
I forgot to mention that there was a crazy woman sitting next to me downstairs in the ER telling me about she had to control herself or they would take her away in straightjackets and call the police. Tell me, what does one say in response to that????
post #36 of 68
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Originally Posted by Global Mama View Post
"Do you have twins in there??" and then looking shocked and horrified when I say no...these kind of comments are REALLY starting to get on my nerves!!
Have a little fun:

"Actually I'm only 20 weeks and it's quints."
post #37 of 68
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So, I'll be 40 wks tomorrow.
I haven't been posting but I had to comment because we have the same name and same due date

And I can't believe I am about to be overdue! I don't know how to be patient anymore
post #38 of 68
Bananabee hasn't posted since this morning, I wonder if she's having a baby??
post #39 of 68
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Bananabee hasn't posted since this morning, I wonder if she's having a baby??
Yep. She just posted her birth announcement! Still waiting to hear on aka_mommy and burnindinner!
post #40 of 68
Hi mosquitoswamp...welcome!

Hang in there!! :-)
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