June 7th- June 13th~ Weekly thread - Page 3

[Stitches]

Madis81-hope your LO makes a speedy recovery. Broken bones are no fun

Well, I was thinking I hadn't gained much weight yet but I think I solved that in the past couple of days with a gorge on greasy Chinese food and Turtle ice cream cake for my birthday. It was gooooood, and I wish I had more.

[my kidlets and me]

I'm fine, but I really feel surrounded by baby negativity lately. A friend of mine (who had a m/c around the same time I had mine) just found out her pregnancy is a molar pregnancy and had a D+C yesterday. She is totally devastated.

Another friend of mine was pregnant, due in September, just had her baby yesterday (by c/s) - he was about half the size he should have been, and I guess at this point, it was better for him to be out than in. He is extremely premature (I don't know exactly how many weeks, but less than 30), and was 1 lb 2 oz at birth. This was her first pregnancy. I just want to cry, thinking about his chances of survival when he's that little.

Lots of heaviness in my life right now. I'm trying really hard not to internalize any of it.

[MamaFern]

Originally Posted by my kidlets and me

I'm fine, but I really feel surrounded by baby negativity lately. A friend of mine (who had a m/c around the same time I had mine) just found out her pregnancy is a molar pregnancy and had a D+C yesterday. She is totally devastated.

Another friend of mine was pregnant, due in September, just had her baby yesterday (by c/s) - he was about half the size he should have been, and I guess at this point, it was better for him to be out than in. He is extremely premature (I don't know exactly how many weeks, but less than 30), and was 1 lb 2 oz at birth. This was her first pregnancy. I just want to cry, thinking about his chances of survival when he's that little.

Lots of heaviness in my life right now. I'm trying really hard not to internalize any of it.

that;s so hard im so sorry for your friends loss, and for the mama with the tiny wee baby. medical technology is pretty amazing, but i cringe to think of how much medical intervention wuch a small person faces..

there was a woman up the lake from us due a few weeks ago. she finally had her baby last wednesday and he died. he has aspirated meconium and wasnt breathing on arrival..and they were hours from the hospital. i didnt know the woman at all, but my midwife & friend was supposed to be doing her care/birth, but the woman switched to an unregistered midwife a few months ago. im sure the mama and papa are really grieving right now
but i know lots of people are supporting them.. im trying to think of something i could do. the hardest thing in a situation like that is that it was their first baby, so they dont even have any other little ones to love on. my heart breaks for them.

it made me think on my birth choices, but then I feel like as far as I can assure the health of my baby I do.. some people may think its not enough, to risk a home birth, to pass up ultrasounds ect. but I think that intuition is powerful too. Its still scary. pregnancy and birth are a really unknown time..I try to think of it as a happy, blessed thing but when you hear stories like this it is still hard to not worry a bit.

[karen1968]

s Bobbi it's so hard to have losses and scary outcomes surrounding us. Survival prior to 30 weeks IS possible, hard as it is to believe; my cousin's twins were "born" at 25 weeks and are now 13-year-olds! I hope that gives you some hope for your friend's little one.

AFM: 16 weeks today. I had only gained a pound in the first trimester, but I've gained two pounds since! I hope that doesn't continue! A pound a week for the rest of the pregnancy seems like a lot. Guess I need to start watching what I eat, now that the nausea is mostly gone. and I just scheduled our anatomy scan for June 30th. And all of a sudden I'm eager to get a peek at the baby. I realized the other day that I still think of the pregnancy as theoretical sometimes. I hope that changes now that I'm starting to show and am more able to recognize kicks.

Raining again today, but we're supposed to get a taste of summer this weekend. Finally!

[HeatherB]

Having losses around while pg is so very hard, for so many reasons.

I have been worrying on and off about not feeling a lot of movement, even to the point of wondering if I have an anterior placenta. I'm 17 weeks tomorrow, so, really, I should be feeling movement. I do feel some, but it's not even that I can pinpoint it everyday. I *so* want it to be regular, strong, and obvious!

So last night I fell asleep thinking about it, and I ended up dreaming that I felt some big movements from the baby. Who knows, I might've really felt them while sleeping. But the cool/weird part is that in the dream, baby stuck his/her foot up, and kept it there, so I could feel this teeny, tiny foot, and even where the toes were. Now, even in the dream, I'm plenty fluffy so it's highly unlikely to feel that much detail! But it was really cool, anyway.

Fighting a headache that's from my eye to my shoulder and back of my head. I think I need to move up my chiro appointment and go in tomorrow. Sigh. I can't get anything done. It's almost like a migraine, but not quite.

I get to go out with my best friend tonight! I hardly ever see her, so we're going just the two of us to catch up.

[~Demeter~]

Heather, I'm 18w4d and I only just now started to feel lots of movement. I'd say in the past few days. It's still not really, really strong movements but it's noticeable that that is what it is. I keep thinking about my oldest and how I think I felt him around 22 weeks... and his movements were very strong, noticeable. I must have been oblivious to the flutters, lol.

[Stitches]

I'm 18 weeks 5 days, and I've only been feeling regular movement for the past week or so too. Before that I had the odd knock here and there but there would be sometimes days in between.

[birthdancedoula]

I wasn't feeling tons of movement either. I've felt all my babes early so it was quite distressing. I started to suspect I have an anterior placenta because I was feeling only little flutters very low down and on the sides. Sure enough, during my u/s last week I saw a very anteriorly implanted placenta. I feel much better now that I know that for sure, but it doesn't make want to feel those strong kicks any less.

[HeatherB]

That's very reassuring! I have felt a few little movements today, which also makes me feel much better. I know for sure that I was feeling *something* by 16 weeks and a lot by 18 weeks with my first, though I really don't remember how much earlier/later the other two were. My 2nd had an anterior placenta, and my 3rd was SUPER active (still is!!). I felt like I was on a roller coaster with him. Wondering what this one will be like!

[peaceful_mama]

Appointment today. BP NORMAL. WHOO-HOO! (just wants me to keep an eye on it...this is my hospital back-up plan provider. She said if she were doing a HB practice, she wouldn't be at all worried about me at this point. I see her b/c my 2nd was born w/her, love her, and want to guarantee who I'd get if I did have to go to plan B.)

I didn't know just how attached I was to my 2nd HB till I thought I might lose the chance...

also found super-cool doula willing to attend. a good day.

[HeatherB]

Yay for good BP and a good doula!

[MamaFern]

peaceful, amazing news!!



So last night DP and I watched Alice In Wonderland (the new one) and just before the movie began I drank a very cold glass of cranberry juice (I rarely if ever drink juice.. but I had a momentary craving). I didn't even think about it making the baby get active, I had always assumed that glass of juice thing was more for the 3rd trimester..but WOW! the baby was rocking out the whole time. Thumping and Bumping and Wriggling. it was by far the most and strongest movements I have felt this time around. It lasted till after I fell asleep. It was so Lovely! I was lying on my side on the floor with a cushion under me and I could feel it with my hand on the side. I love this stage!


Anyone else napping when they normally cannot possibly sleep in the day?

yesterday afternoon a friend and her 2 girls came over for lunch at our new house. we lit a roaring fire in the wood stove because its been rainy-cold the last week.. we ate a yummy lunch (she made home-made kamut pasta and spinach pesto from her garden and i made a stir-fry with yams and rice and miso soup as well as snacky stuff..fruit, cheese crackers, veggies..) we ate then athe kids played and she helped me plan my garden in the back and then they left a few hours later... I was going to paint trim that DP had sanded but I lay down on the couch for a bit of a rest and totally fell asleep. i woke up 2 hours later! The girls were happily playing and the house was so peaceful and cozy..but I almost never nap. If i try I usually lay awake thinking of a million things and have to jump up and do something...well, i might start. it felt so So good..

[rachwms]

Originally Posted by MamaFern

. I didn't even think about it making the baby get active, I had always assumed that glass of juice thing was more for the 3rd trimester..but WOW! the baby was rocking out the whole time. Thumping and Bumping and Wriggling. it was by far the most and strongest movements I have felt this time around. It lasted till after I fell asleep. It was so Lovely!

That is so cute!

[my kidlets and me]

I had a nap yesterday afternoon, too - I was reading the kids some stories, and I got that feeling you get when you just can't keep your eyes open a second longer. So I told the kids I needed a nap, got out the dolls and the doll clothes, put in my earplugs, and had a 2.5 hour nap! I was totally disoriented when I woke up, but I really needed it. I rarely nap during the day, even with a newborn, because it usually takes me a really long time to fall asleep. But on days like yesterday, when I get that "feeling", I have to sleep.

[Ellen Griswold]

17 weeks yesterday. Movements are getting a lot stronger. Actually got one good bump against my hand yesterday. I don't think anybody but me would have been able to feel it, but it was still exciting.

We've also decided on names. This is the first that we've ever been certain (or at least pretty much) before we knew gender. I feel weird about this. I feel like once baby has a name, then they are real. And I know (at least pretty much) that I've only got one baby in there. This is our last baby (dh will be getting a V) and I feel just a little sad that one of these babies won't exist. Does that make any sense whatsoever? Maybe it's just crazy hormones.

[karen1968]

Score!

I"m so happy right now - I stopped in a mama/baby resale shop today, looking for maternity tanks or tees. I only found one. BUT! I found a brand-new looking KKAPF in blue for $40! With the color and the sizing, DH and I should both be able to use it. I also got 3 Kissaluvs size 0 to replace the 6 I lent out and never got back. But I'm mostly pleased about the fleece pouch. I really wanted one for this winter baby, but wasn't sure I could justify the expense.

I've been napping most days, too. Usually only for 45 minutes to an hour after DH gets home from work, but some days, I've put on a video for DS and fallen asleep. I guess we all really need the extra sleep now.

[MamaFern]

Total score! I bought a KKAFP used from MDC when my 4 year old was in utero. we used it a TON when she was born in november, all the way till summer..and I think the net fall/winter as well. I used it all the time with my 3rd as well. she was born in january and again I used it till summer, then again in the fall. I have lent it out to numerous friends and plan to use it again with this bean..though its getting kind of worn out. It is absolutely my most favorite baby carrier..

[karen1968]

We didn't have one when DS was born; I didn't find out about them in time. But every time I've seen a baby in one, they just look so COZY! Anyway, I think our baby sarriers are all sorted out now, as I bought a brand-new Moby Wrap with a coupon a month ago, and we also have a fabric pouch, a BabyHawk and an Ergo.

[3 little birds]

I haven't posted much in the weekly threads-I have just recently stopped throwing up, although the nausea is still pretty constant. I have found this pregnancy to be stressful-not that anything seems to be wrong, but I have been deciding about testing, etc. while worrying about breathing in benzene-we live near the Gulf. I have also read a lot of less than positive birth stories. I have had three water HBAC's so I theoretically shouldn't feel so nervous. Anyway, last night I watched Orgasmic Birth for the first time and it really helped me to feel more confident. I thought it was very informative and yet subtle and empowering.

Have a great week!

[HeatherB]

Hey, mamas...

Yay for a KKAFP! I have a KKACP that I got with #2, and have *loved*. Though, it got "lost" in DH's trunk for, um, a long time. I'm eager to try it again with the new babe! I really loved that both DH and I could wear it with a quick change of snaps. We lived in Santa Cruz, CA, when DS#2 was 6-12mo, and DH loved carrying him, facing out, in the KKACP down the main drag there. SO cute to see this big man with this little guy snuggled up.

Ellen, I get what you mean about names. My biggest problem has been envisioning a baby that was coming, only to find out that's not the baby that came. But there's a very real sense at times that there's a real person behind these ideas - be it a name or an imagined child. DH is also sure this is our last, and I'm just not up to committing one way or another. I'm okay if it is, and can be very happy with 4. But I don't have a strong feeling, and am NOT cool with anything permanent... which we were discussing last night.

Sleep - yes!! Yesterday, I think it was, I slept most of the day. First, I couldn't wake up. Then, when I went to lay the 2yo down, I couldn't begin to get up again. I only did so because of my dinner plans with my best friend. Thankfully, after medicating my headache (tylenol, arnica, traumeel, and a shoulder/neck rub with herbal stuff), and then getting to dinner and eating, I felt a ton better. I'm not sure if it's just the headaches making me tired, but I am super tired. I may also just not be getting enough sleep, overall.

So, because of these headaches, I went to the chiro today. I didn't get to see my usual chiro, but another I've seen in the past and really like. She did a bunch of different stuff that felt GREAT, and then I headed to the grocery where I also got a chair massage, and did a full-on grocery shop with my 2yo. So, all was well when we got home. I went to get DS out of the car, and saw a bird in the bushes, which I pointed out to him. So as we walked between my car and DH's car, I was holding DS's hand, my stuff, and looking at a bird, which flew away... and I stepped on some piece of tree branch or something - about the size of a roll of nickels, maybe - and within a moment was falling down and screaming in pain, as the ligaments in my ankle went "pop, pop, pop." Poor DS - since I was holding his hand, he went down, too, and he was really freaked by that and my screaming in pain/for help. He was inconsolable for about 20 minutes. Thankfully, DH was coming and came out to help. Unfortunately, he was clearly miffed that I was now hurt. He did take DS in, then came and helped me hobble in, where I got myself set up in the all-too-familiar setting of foot-in-the-air. I snuggled with my sweet boy until he was calm again, even though every time he moved it was excruciating. Thankfully, he had no real injuries and has been fine the rest of the night. Whew.

Anyway, I'm really frustrated. This is at least the 3rd time I've done this *while pregnant.* Ugh. I almost think the relaxin has an effect. But, I have a loooong history of ankle injuries (including two surgeries to repair a break, and one of those being delayed because I'd injured the other so badly in the meanwhile), and I know they're just not all that strong. The last time this happened was about a year and a half or more ago, when I was carrying Judah in a sling, going to the car from a little league game. What do you know, there's an uneven spot in the sidewalk, and I stepped on it just so. Not only did I tear up my ankle, but DS's head hit the sidewalk. I was sure I'd be calling 911 for that, but, amazingly, he was okay. Bruised and scraped, but no serious injury. I'm quite sure it would've been worse had he not been tied to me!

Sigh. Sorry for the blather. DH is, at least, being better now. He gets overwhelmed easily, and that's very frustrating for me when I need compassion and *help.* I'm glad he's stepped up, though. But, he's gone tomorrow to a TEDx conference, so I'm here with 2 of 3 (my mom has one), alone. Thank goodness my 8yo is so very helpful!