WOW x-SIL said im perverted!

[sosurreal09]

my x-SIL said its disgusting that I still nurse my 8 m/o DD I said I plan to nurse her until shes 3 or whenever she wants to wean...she called me a pervert then started raving and ranting about how I "just whip out my tit and feed her in front of anyone" she said it should be illegal to nurse in front of other children and if she didn't know me and i fed DD in front of her son without covering myself up first she would beat my ass. apparently nursing in front of children is the practically the same as being a child molester! b/c you could be "getting off" showing the kids your breasts and it will traumatize them for life if they see your breast....

wow.........................i just looked at her....im not good with come backs but WTF?

btw her son is my godson and i nurse in front of him all the time...

whats your take on all of this? obvs shes very immature.....

[AFWife]

Tell her, "Go for it. I have the law backing me up. What do you have? You'd be violating TWO laws for that. One for forcing me to stop BFing and another for assault. So yeah." or something.

[rlmueller]

I can only stare

but not have time to cruz the smiley icons to give you the big bug eyed one.

Sanctioned by God
A child's right by several religions
Sanctioned by law in several states

Glad she's an x-SIL since this is the only information that I have on her. Threatening the Godmother--Really?

Oh yeah--AND BRING IT! (I say in jest)

[fruitfulmomma]

I would not continue to associate with anyone who threatened physical violence against a mother for breastfeeding.

You do not owe her an explanation at all.

[sapphire_chan]

My take? After outrage is to suggest you keep her away from intoxicants. Because that sounded like a drunken rant.

When she's sober or off the high, point out that if she wants it to be possible to feed babies from a finger or something, she should bring it up with God.

[mamadelbosque]

LOL... I think I'd laugh at her... how freaking ridiculous. And I'd like to see somene try to 'beat my ass' for nursing infront of them/their kids w/o covering... LOLOLOL

[MountainMamaGC]

I dont know if I would have been able to control my white hot rage. I would have cut all ties with her. Thats infuriating.

[*MamaJen*]

Wow, she sounds like a really classy lady.

[Tiana]

Wow!

She certainly has some... interesting.... opinions.

I'm not even sure what I would say to someone like that. I think I would be so outraged and offended that I wouldn't be able to say anything. I'm so outraged and offended for you that I'm finding it hard to even find the words now.

I agree with PPs who suggested cutting all ties with her, and suggesting she take up her displeasure of our natural milk distribution system with God/Nature/Higher Power of Choice.

I will never for the life of me understand the whole 'You can't do that in front of children' thing. What exactly is so wrong with children seeing babies/toddlers being fed? They see people of all ages eat all the time, what makes this different? I mean, I know boobs are teh evil and all, but if it's not scarring the child doing the nursing, it's certainly not going to harm the child who sees it.

[sosurreal09]

well as far as cutting ties i've decided not to only for my godson's sake. shes not the greatest mom...and he needs me. he called me last night and said he loves me and he misses me. I took care of him 6 days a week 8+ hrs a day from birth to 6 months so we have always been extremely close...shes obvs extremely immature and im not going to bother with her as much as i can...im still extremely appauled however.

i dont understand and never have understood peoples reaction to BFing in public. Everyone looks at me like im committing some crime and ive heard the whole dont do it in front of kids speil before. then i have some friends who want me to nurse in front of their children so they know thats how to feed the baby. it depends alot on culture and where you are from/family was from. To my Polish friends and fam formula is unheard of. you would never give your baby that. nursing is just what you do...to my Americanized family and friends formula is "natural" and BFing is "weird". idk all i know is i love to nurse my DD and whoever doesnt like it can go screw.

[butterfly_mommy]

Like a child wouldn't be traumatized for life from watching their mother beat the ass of a nursing women.

I have always been so confused at how the site of a breast makes some people become so violent. My theory is that they were not nursed or they were weaned to early as babies and so they have this unmet need and when they see a nursing mother or even just a breast they are triggered. Anger comes from fear. This was really highlighted with the whole Janet Jackson boob pop out. People became enraged and they were fine with their children witness violent threats but nit ok with a nipple

I am sorry this was said to you. I would stay far away from this person if possible.

[KristyDi]

To me it sounds like she's looking for a reaction from you, so the less you react the better. A, "hmm, ok." in a flat emotionless voice will drive people like that nuts.

[isabchi]

You can show her this
http://www.facebook.com/#!/album.php...0882508&ref=pb

[Smokering]

Wow. I'm not sure I could have come up with an intelligible response to that either. I'd probably have yelped a nervous giggle and then went away and shouted at a wall for an hour.

[Shanny2032]

My response - "I have absolutely no room in my life for such negative, aggressive, immature and unreasonable people. I hope you find whatever is so lacking in your life that this is so disturbing to you but I will not be waiting around for your next rant."

[Happiestever]

I can't imagine someone saying that to me. I hope that I could keep myself in check and just say something like "that is the dumbest thing I've ever heard" and laugh. People are ridiculous. This is very similar to the bf'ing mom in maryland. I would go nutso if I heard someone say such moronic statements.

[sosurreal09]

oooh what happened in maryland?

[kawa kamuri]

I always wonder what people like this think about other mammals feeding their babies. Do they kick a cat for openly nursing her litter? Would they want to beat the ass of a mama gorilla? Why are human babies being fed from mothers breast so offensive? I honestly don't understand the thought process.

[ewe+lamb]

Wow - she sounds really angry - I would probably cut off all ties with someone like that - you don't need any toxic elements surrounding your babies, I'm not good at comebacks either and as someone else mentioned thank goodness she's an ex-SIL, if she asks why you don't want to see her any more - if that's what you decide tell her that you didn't appreciate her uneducated and ignorant comments - then that's it, cut the ties, put up all the blocks.

One thing that struck me - because her response to you was violent in itself, could she have gone through some sort of abuse as a child - it almost seems too violent to be within the 'normal' ranges of disgust about bfing, but then I'm in Europe and we have a completely different view of breasts here - just a shot in the dark really.

[sosurreal09]

she wasnt abused but her family is pretty messed up...

she was bf till 3 m/o when she apparently weaned herself......

shes always had a love hate relationship with me and i think its just personal. she always thinks im competeing with her- but im not- and she only BF her son until he was 2 m/o and she kept telling me i would fail and i would do formula by 6 m/o and i was crazy thinking i will bf her till shes 3 or so...and i think shes jealous that DD is 8 m/o and im still bfing...

shes been like this about everything. when her and her brother got engaged all of a sudden her and her bf ran out to town hall and got married...

i got pregnant (miscarriage) and she got pregnant (had a son)

shes always trying to beat me or be better than me in some way and i just live my life lol...

she even beat me to divorce lol