Early Ovulation + NO EWCM = No Hope? Help, please?

[gummibears]

I'm a nearly 33 yo woman trying for a (late) second child nearly 8 years after my son's birth.

I've been trying for 3 months (going into month 4 in a week) and during this time I've noticed some very disturbing things.

#1: My cycles are an average of 27 days. Shortest was 24 days. Longest 29 days (with extreme stress and a week long delay in menses)

#2: I O on day 9 or 10. I've read this means your body and egg are not ready to sustain pregnancy. Is this true? My doctor at my preconception visit never advised me this was bad... but all she did was a pelvic exam, too...

#3: NO EWCM none at all. Best I get is a sticky/watery cm (this was day before I o'ed this last cycle) I'm working on making this better with more water, EPO, Grapefruit Juice and more.

#4: I am charted most months to O TWICE in the month since cycles are short.

My LP is at leas 12 days and often more... so am I okay or do I have some big obstacles to deal with when I O so early and O twice a month?

Any help is greatly appreciated as we bought Preseed and don't want to waste it if there's no chance of conception with Oing so soon.

[Tear78]

gummibears, I'm sorry you're feeling stressed about TTC and in general. It is totally possible to O with very little fertile CM. Some women never see theirs because it's up at the cervix and doesn't come out. I'm not sure about early ovulation, but I would say that 3 months is still really early to start worrying that something might be wrong. You're doing the right things: charting, paying attention to your signs, etc. That way you'll be armed with information if you find yourself needing to seek medical advice. You could try talking to your doctor now, but they would probably advise you to wait until charting/trying for at least six months before further testing. It doesn't hurt to ask, though! Hang in there, everybody's body is different and your body can do this!

[gummibears]

Thank you tear. I just want to identify and combat any issues now rather than trying 12 months and then start to remedy. By then I'll be close to 35, and things get harder then... something I desperately want to try to avoid. (not to mention there's a slight chance for one more after this one... but not if it takes too long to happen)

I check my CM at the cervix opening and still see no ewcm. The best I get is scant watery stuff that doesn't stretch more than saliva would. The day before I o'ed this month it was sticky/stretchy white/yellow cm very wet feeling. That probably was the closest I've yet to see.

Good news is that the outside factors that stressed me are GONE, and that's something to celebrate. I imagine that my cycle may extend a bit once it regulates without the stress interfering.

I figured that the doctor would send me on my way until 10-12 months of troubles. Considering that most of these 3 months trying (or at least the first two) were filled with EXTREME stress, there's probably good reason to lightly count them as trying. I've been charting all along but with stress that was at the level that I was feeling the need to medicate if it continued I'd say pregnancy was a definite no.

Crossing our fingers that it happens before my birthday in September. Hubby just had his birthday, we are waiting to see if being a dad is one of his gifts. A friend said a dream my husband had focused on the number 5. Like it'd be 5 months of trying. That's another 2 cycles, and at this point wholly possible to happen then. I'll make sure to save some preseed for that cycle, LOL

Thanks for the help and kind words, Tear. Sure is different than when I was 24. I wasn't even trying to get pregnant and conceived my son in 8 weeks. I'm spoiled by fast conceptions! LOL

In the meantime I've picked up work on my novel to distract me. I've learned that watching the signs is good. Hovering over them with a microscope is BAD. :P

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by gummibears

I've learned that watching the signs is good. Hovering over them with a microscope is BAD. :P

YES...true. I've learned that, too, though I don't always act on it. Having been in the situation of wishing we'd asked for help sooner, I think you're smart for acting now. I hope your stress reduction is just the ticket! Good luck to you!

[gummibears]

Oh, it's so hard not to look at each sign. I mean those 2 weeks might as well be two years, LOL. GAH.

Well, down to two more days for a sign. Though Fertility Friend and Medhelp say I ovulated on the 25th, TCOYF says I ovulated on the first... a week later. Hrm. So, if I miss it might be because my cycle length extended. (Which is good, but bad, LOL)

I have 2 tests that came with my pre-seed, so I'll try one of those if it doesn't show up. Then wait another few days or so (until I reach the date TCOYF predicts my period to be) and see what happens there.

I've had signs of both Af and pregnancy, so who knows. All I know is my husband perked up when I told him I was craving fries. His mom craved them pregnant with him, LOL. Oh, such wishful thinking we have!

Well, we might be smart for acting now, but at the same time it adds more anxiety looking at all the tiny things trying to add up to the big picture. I guess each side (being a bit more relaxed and scrutinzing things) has it's perks.

I pray that being done with the school is the ticket, though my mom will stress me with her VERY vocal opinion on what we do instead of that school. (Can we ever out run all stress? LOL) But, yes, it should help greatly.

I wish you the absolute best of luck, Tear. ***Babydust***