Originally Posted by AFWife
No, not yet. I keep saying I'm going to but it never works out. AND I'm a SAHM to my DS and DH works full time (military) and it would be nearly impossible for him to miss work every week to watch DS while I do therapy.
Yeah, I've made it clear in the past that we're on the same page and they just pull the "brainwashed" card and ignore me.
You should still call military one source. They'll work with you to find a therapist who will be okay with your child coming to appointments assuming your child can be quiet and well behaved. I went through them for some therapy and brought my daughter along no problems. You'll get something like 11 sessions FREE and possibly more if absolutely necessary.
On top of that, your parents definitely sound toxic. My husband's mother is extremely toxic as well and so he has finally learned to control the relationship. He doesn't answer the phone if he sees it is her if he doesn't want to talk, he doesn't respond to emails if he doesn't want to, and he doesn't talk about things he doesn't feel is okay for the two of them to discuss. Usually HE makes the phone calls or HE makes the plans to visit HER so that he can control the conversation/length around his own desires. They still aren't perfect, but he has a more relaxed relationship now that he feels more comfortable only contacting her when HE wants to and on his OWN time. Sometimes this means they don't talk for weeks/months at a time... sometimes they email back and forth many times in a week. He has the control now though and although he still doesn't particularly like her and always gets pretty emotionally upset before and after visits, it is much better than it used to be.
She also thinks I'm abusive too fyi. I am apparently controlling and just using him for his oh so much money he makes in the military and will leave him soon with everything he has
She blames ME for his being much more distant. She also blames me for his joining the military (actually, he joined to get away from her. true story.) I just bite my tongue when she is within earshot... unless she is about to do something she absolutely CAN'T to my baby... then I tell her to knock it off.