how to deal with....diaper changing kicker and veggie refuser?

[colleentara]

I'm hoping for some advice on how to handle a few situations with my DS who is 2.

Diaper changing woes: he kicks me like crazy and thinks it's funny. It's a game for him. I stop changing him, walk away-- he calls me back; i ask if he's ready, then he kicks again. Eventually he stops, but my approach obviously isn't working and it's not okay for him to kick me. It hurts and it sometimes makes a mess!

no more veggies!-- DS has stopped eating vegetables. I continue to offer and I give him greens in his smoothie each day.... is this just a phase? I'm reluctant to try elaborate methods of offering them, because they always go to waste. Any ideas?

Thanks mamas!

[LindsC]

At that age DS hated having his diaper changed too. For him, it was just a phase that he eventually grew out of before he PL'ed.

The veggie thing is probably a phase too. DS goes through them all the time with all sorts of different foods. Just keep offering them and eventually he should start eating them again.

[nukuspot]

1.) Exact same!

2.) Exact same, her only veggies are in green smoothies and everything. We could have written the same post.

And my DD is 14 months...I guess we have awhile left on these 2 issues.

[just_lily]

If my DD doesn't feel like cooperating with me for a diaper change I plunk her down in her crib and walk away. She calls me back right away, but I leave her for a minute or two and go do something for myself. Sometimes just a trip to the bathroom (by myself!) or to pour myself a cup of coffee. After a minute or two it stops being a game and she is more willing to cooperate. I think if you go back in as soon as he calls you, you are giving him control of the situation and it is all a game.

She still does it from time to time, but nowhere near as often anymore.

[EdnaMarie]

My children are one and three so I'm sort of crashing.

For the diaper- I say, don't let him have the diaper. He can go on the potty (or, more likely, on the floor). This may or may not bother him. If it bothers him, tell him just don't kick and he can have the diaper back. If it doesn't, start taking him potty. Worth a try, anyway.

For the veggies, I think that different kids hit the veggie wall at different ages but now may be your time to learn the whole "You tell them what and when, and they say whether and how much" lesson. I forget who wrote the book on that but that's what my mom did. We don't do desserts except fruit (I do have some rewards for things that I really, really need but those are treats) so that's not a question for us.

My child is going on about nine months or so (stopped eating them a lot when she turned three) not eating many veggies (she even wipes her spaghetti clean). But she goes through periods where she wants them and she does eat a ton of fruit, and berries. So I just go with it. I seriously doubt this will last forever.

So that's from a BTDT mom. Take it for what it's worth. All kids are different but at least you know yours is normal, LOL!