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post #121 of 496
I did acupuncture for really bad cramps and infertility. It definitely helped with the cramps. They were noticeably diminished after just the first session and haven't come back nearly as bad even though I haven't had acupuncture in years. I think it helped with my fertility. I'd love to keep doing it but don't have the money or the time right now.

I see a counselor regularly, a woman. Right now I'm seeing a marriage and family therapist but I've seen licensed clinical social workers (LCSW) in the past. The person who helped me the most with my negative thinking was a LCSW. I think she did what is called cognitive behavioral therapy. Rather than getting into in-depth, long term psychoanalysis, she focused on changing the way I think in the moment. It has helped me immensely.
post #122 of 496
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I used to be afraid of needles, until my first (of 2) tattoos As for it hurting, usually not. There's often a little pinprick and then that's it; sometimes there is a little more than that, but it usually goes away quickly. There are some points that hurt more than others, but if they know you are afraid, they will work around that. I always leave there in such a state of relaxation and no stress; it's awesome!



I was in therapy/counseling after college when my boyfriend from college and I broke up (that I was living with, so it bordered on divorce since we had to split up everything, including friends) and then my mother died - both events within 3 months of each other. I found a family therapy practice that was on my insurance; I saw a woman who was awesome - she was actually a Licensed Social Worker (LSW) not a psychologist. They did have me see a Psychiatrist once (required by either the practice or the insurance, not sure which) but meds weren't ever even an option for me. He told me I was situationally depressed and that talking was all I needed. You could probably find something similar and it would probably be what you are looking for.

I think if I were to go see someone now it would need to be someone with experience in marriage counseling so that if/when DH needed to join me it would make more sense/be easier.
I have two tattoos, too. Don't ask me why I'm stil afraid of needles, though. I think I'm only afraid of the ones being in my skin for a long time.

I looked under my insurance (and it wasn't helpful) and saw something called a Licensed Professional Counselor. The only thing was it didn't have descriptions of what each person specialized in, so I need to do more research. Thanks for all of your help!
post #123 of 496
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I looked under my insurance (and it wasn't helpful) and saw something called a Licensed Professional Counselor
My therapist is both a licensed MFT and PC. She said it's because different insurance companies require different certifications. BCBS requires the PC license and Tricare requires the MFT license.
post #124 of 496
I thought about acupuncture when TTC, but couldn't justify the expense. It is like $100 a session here, and not covered by insurance.

I am seriously considering going back to full fledged charting. I thought I liked the "mystery" of not knowing where I am, but I don't! This morning I had AF like cramps, and watery cm. I don't know what to make of that. It is like cd 33 I think. (which, again, means nothing, if you don't know if or when you O'd!)

DH likes knowing where I am in my cycle, but I have to tell him.

As for getting him to come to bed, what worked for a while was me asking, on my way to bed "you staying up, or coming to bed?" his response, if he was game, was "both" (haha - he thought it was funny)

We have never done w/d because of the messiness factor. and feels like a mood-killer. granted a towel would solve the messiness issue . . . I think for us, it is condoms or bust if we are avoiding.

I've thought about a tattoo, it is the permanence, rather than the needles, that concern me though. I've never been bothered by needles.

You know what is really a mood killer? this stinking heat! it is like 100 degrees already, and who wants to get hotter and sweatier? one of the rare times I am really in a "don't touch me" sort of mood . . .
post #125 of 496
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This morning I had AF like cramps, and watery cm. I don't know what to make of that. It is like cd 33 I think. (which, again, means nothing, if you don't know if or when you O'd!)
Maybe it means is coming. It's not uncommmon to get fertile seeming CF right before .
post #126 of 496
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I thought about acupuncture when TTC, but couldn't justify the expense. It is like $100 a session here, and not covered by insurance.
My friend is getting her Master's in Acupuncture and is in her clinic year; they have a student clinic where they are supervised in selecting points, etc. and it's only $55 a session. It takes a little longer than it might otherwise (1h45m instead of only 1h) but the savings is def. worth it!

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We have never done w/d because of the messiness factor. and feels like a mood-killer. granted a towel would solve the messiness issue . . . I think for us, it is condoms or bust if we are avoiding.
I guess the messiness never really bothered me, assuming it doesn't end up in places I'd rather it not (I'll just leave it at that...) For me, I guess one reason I prefer it is that it does leave open the possibility of him deciding not to WD (which I of course hope for!) Last week, he was (accidentally) a little "sloppy" about where things ended up, thus allowing a higher possibility of an oops. This is of course fine with me, and of course giving me something to obsess over (which I'm trying not to do). Of course, I can't confirm O this cycle since I don't temp (which I am debating starting, but in light of my "not going to obsess" theory right now I may stick to OPKs for now) so who knows...

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I've thought about a tattoo, it is the permanence, rather than the needles, that concern me though. I've never been bothered by needles.
I got my first when I was 18 and my second a year later. I don't regret either. I did pick designs and locations that could a) be easily hidden if I so desired and b) wouldn't ever be something I would look back on and think "what was I thinking?!"

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You know what is really a mood killer? this stinking heat! it is like 100 degrees already, and who wants to get hotter and sweatier? one of the rare times I am really in a "don't touch me" sort of mood . . .
Fans and A/C are the only things that make sure we have any sex during the summer!
post #127 of 496
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I've thought about a tattoo, it is the permanence, rather than the needles, that concern me though. I've never been bothered by needles.

You know what is really a mood killer? this stinking heat! it is like 100 degrees already, and who wants to get hotter and sweatier? one of the rare times I am really in a "don't touch me" sort of mood . . .
We took our 'honeymoon' last year, and we ended up in a room in which the A/C barely barely worked. It was probably an average of 23-24 in there all day and all night. It was horrible. It was supposed to be this big romantic ocassion, and instead it was like "If you touch me, I'll kill you, I just got cooled down".

I have one tattoo, and I'll definately get more, but I promised myself I'd wait until after we had at least our first kid. Mine is the word 'fearless' in script on my lower back. It's been kind of a motto for a few years now, and I loved the connection to the 'fearlessness' pledge from the Joyful Heart Campaign. It's something that means a lot to me. I've seen people with some pretty meaningless tattoos (my sister, who is pretty much an atheist, has the chinese character for believe just inside her hipbone...), but I figure as long as it's something important to you- that's all that matters. I cherish mine, and they were worth the terror I felt at the needles. And as someone else mentioned, because it's somewhere I can cover up, that's good. I want my next one to be on my wrist I think... the word "Breathe", helpful in everyday life, and oh so applicable to birth, which is what will be my full time career after we start having children (as a doula).

In other news... the mess from withdrawal does suck... but I'd rather that (and like you guys said... the hope it brings...) over condoms. I really dislike them that much. It feels like such a teenage thing to say, but I feel like they really kill the mood, and I do notice a big lube difference, it's just not as comfortable. It's one of the reasons I love charting, because whichever method of avoiding we use, we don't have to use it all the time. What a relief!
post #128 of 496
yeah, it feels like to me, the witch is on her way. especially since I've been feeling kind of broody (as in, I think we should DTD, because it might be a week or so before we can, so we should get it on, just in case, yk?) the last few days.

I need to go back to charting next cycle, it is actually less stress, I think, because then I know where I am, and not guessing. I tried one of those fertile scope things when TTC. didn't like it all that much, tbh. who wants to squint in a microscope thingy first thing in the morning? temping at least is pretty straight forward.

I like the ideas of words - but I'd probably do characters also - it seems more artisitic or something, and keeps the slender ties I have to Japan. I do miss living on Okinawa sometimes. I miss the proximity to the beach. Funny about your sister having "believe" although I guess as an atheist, she does believe in no higher power. maybe it is a belief in a moral code or something. my sister got her tattoo at 18, a celtic sort of cross on her back. My mom now has 3, the first she got at 42 or so I think, the most recent this year, a hummingbird in memory of my grandmother. who passed away this year.
post #129 of 496
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We took our 'honeymoon' last year, and we ended up in a room in which the A/C barely barely worked. It was probably an average of 23-24 in there all day and all night. It was horrible. It was supposed to be this big romantic ocassion, and instead it was like "If you touch me, I'll kill you, I just got cooled down".
That's such a bummer! I remember barely wanting to DTD on our honeymoon, but I think it's more b/c of hormonal bc (the pill) than the heat.

I'm having trouble being zen these past few days! I'm just too excited at the possibility of being pg this cycle! I can't help it! Where's that "slap some sense into me" emoticon?!
post #130 of 496
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That's such a bummer! I remember barely wanting to DTD on our honeymoon, but I think it's more b/c of hormonal bc (the pill) than the heat.

I'm having trouble being zen these past few days! I'm just too excited at the possibility of being pg this cycle! I can't help it! Where's that "slap some sense into me" emoticon?!
I was thinking where is your chart so we can stalk it! If your temp continues to rise I would say either yesterday or today was O day.
post #131 of 496
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That's such a bummer! I remember barely wanting to DTD on our honeymoon, but I think it's more b/c of hormonal bc (the pill) than the heat.
Talking about honeymoon disasters, my back went out the day after we arrived at our destination. I was laid up in the bed unable to move for 3 days trying to decide if I should go to a hospital in a strange place. There was no hanky panky going on.
post #132 of 496
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Talking about honeymoon disasters, my back went out the day after we arrived at our destination. I was laid up in the bed unable to move for 3 days trying to decide if I should go to a hospital in a strange place. There was no hanky panky going on.
ooooh Ouch. I think that does take the cake. At least we were able to enjoy the rest of our vacation. If I wasn't able to leave the room I would have died.

Babycakes- I hear you on the zen. I'm like that every cycle, when it's WAY too early for me to try to be interpreting anything really. I haven't o'ed yet, so I don't have anything to obsess about yet, but in the back of my mind I know I'm in my typical fertile zone now, and that makes me feel guilty for wanting to dtd now. lol. I did tell DH that according to the "rules" I'm safe, but according to day counting, I am not. He just shrugged. We'll see what happens.
post #133 of 496
I agree with the tattoo ideas, you need to get something you want and can live with. I have a celtic 4 leaf clover on my right foot. I share it with two other people, that unfortunately I'm not even really close with anymore, but I still love it and it is my favorite tattoo. I also have one on my right wrist that my sister designed. She incorporated our first initials into it. I like it, I just wish it was a tad smaller. The next one I want is words, but I am not sure what yet. I think about them a while before I get them. Gotta be 100% with my choice!

Do all of you that chart do it with your temp? Last time I used FF I just charted with my CM type and some other stuff. I know it is more accurate with the temp, tho, but I just wondered... I saw a basal thermometer at Target not too long ago, so I might go get one and just see where I stand. I haven't talked to DP yet about w/d. That is an after-sex topic. I feel weird bringing it up randomly. HAHA
post #134 of 496
I started charting this cycle and I temp.
post #135 of 496
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Do all of you that chart do it with your temp? Last time I used FF I just charted with my CM type and some other stuff. I know it is more accurate with the temp, tho, but I just wondered...
I chart both. I really like being able to confirm that O happened. I tend to get sticky or even creamy CF when AF is on her way, which could be confusing if I went of CM alone.
post #136 of 496
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I chart CF and temp... never really got the hang of CP, so i didn't bother.
post #137 of 496
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Do all of you that chart do it with your temp?
I chart temp and CF, sometimes CP. I do it because my cycles are very irregular. If I didn't chart my temp, I'd never know when to expect .
post #138 of 496
Holy Temp Rise, Batman!

Now, let's see if I'm understanding this right. Assuming that I get the rest of the thermal shift to confirm O (nothing changed tonight to make me think this temp is inaccurate), then that means that I O'd within the last three days. I guess when based on my CF, which helps determine my peak day? Which would probably be CD14, as I had no fertile CF yesterday? Which would mean our whatevering timing was decent, and I'd have reason to actually pay attention during my LP?

I have three tattoos now. I love two of them, and like another. After we have our next baby, I want one more on my belly. I want a tree of life coming up out of my c-section scar.
post #139 of 496
What is CP? Sorry, not up to date with acronyms. I haven't been a part of a mass message board in a long time.
post #140 of 496
I typed out a whole reply earlier and MDC ate it! It's not here!

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Holy Temp Rise, Batman!

Now, let's see if I'm understanding this right. Assuming that I get the rest of the thermal shift to confirm O (nothing changed tonight to make me think this temp is inaccurate), then that means that I O'd within the last three days. I guess when based on my CF, which helps determine my peak day? Which would probably be CD14, as I had no fertile CF yesterday? Which would mean our whatevering timing was decent, and I'd have reason to actually pay attention during my LP?

I have three tattoos now. I love two of them, and like another. After we have our next baby, I want one more on my belly. I want a tree of life coming up out of my c-section scar.
Whoa! Yep, you've got it right. Crossing my fingers for 2 more high temps for you!

AFM: I wish FF had a check box for bummed b/c that's totally how I feel today.

Boo.

I think I'm going to just throw myself into cleaning the house so that I feel like I'm working toward something and not just treading water! So annoyed!

Somebody send me some effin' zen!

BTW - I think that tattoo idea is beautiful!

LCM - CP is cervical position. You can also check this and chart it to confirm where you are in your cycle.
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