The "Whatever" Thread - Page 9

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife

Yeah, that's backward if you are TTA. This thread isn't for TTA, though, so we can do it however we want.

Originally Posted by jeninejessica

I do think some of the stress right now though is probably that it's one thing when it's an accident, but when you knowingly go into a possible situation, it's a bit of a shock, especially when you've been avoiding for so long.

Yes, Im sure this is where my fear is stemming from.
Dh would totally look at my chart, maybe ill show it to him and explain it from where Im coming from, and we can talk and make sure I'm clear nothing shady is going on, lol.

Originally Posted by lyterae

I'm starting to think, hey, 4 weeks today

That is so sweet!

[onetwoten]

So exciting!! I don't think this will be a testing cycle. Going by dates, I'm technically in a would-be fertile phase right now, but I have NO cf to speak of. And every time DH and I think we'll be dtd lately, we end up going to sleep instead. lol. It sucks, because I would really like this to be my month, but somehow it just doesn't *feel* like it right now. Of course, talk to me in a week, and I'm sure I'll have found something to be focusing on!

DH is working a TON lately, and it looks like his part time/casual paramedic position is going to shift into full time. It's beyond exciting, because this is what we've worked towards for years, but I'm also mourning our us time. It was nice having a barely employed husband for a while. hehe. On the other hand... it also makes it feel like we're that one step closer to being 'ready'.

[akind1]

exciting stuff!

same with DH and I, sleep wins out alot of the time . . . hopefully not tonight though. I am going back and forth on whether I am getting ready to O or have AF; either way, the hormones are raging.

I think I like the term CF better than CM; sounds slightly less icky, although EWCM doesn't look like egg whites so much to me, as just plain snot. LOL

[lilcrunchymama]

Originally Posted by akind1

I think I like the term CF better than CM; sounds slightly less icky, although EWCM doesn't look like egg whites so much to me, as just plain snot. LOL

I think that sometimes, too. Mostly because I would rather compare it to another gross bodily function than something I eat... Maybe we should just refer to it as "snot" instead.

[Baby_Cakes]

Re: EW looking like snot - I think it was on the TTC forum not too long ago, I can't remember, but someone posted they were testing their CF and it was EWCM, and at the exact moment their DP walked into the bathroom she was stretching it b/w her fingers and he goes, "Is that like a vag booger?!"

[lilcrunchymama]

EWWWW!!!

[javilu]

New to this thread...

I have a 15.5-month-old and my PP periods began at 13 months. I'm pretty sure I have ovulated twice since then, but my LP is super short (like a week or less). I'm having pretty short cycles altogether, it seems. I don't chart, just watch CM. Anyway, we don't have sex often, as we're usually pretty tired and we co-sleep, but when we do, we don't use anything. I would consider amping up the "efforts" (the ball seems to be in my court), but I've always planned on nursing my son until he weaned naturally - 3-4 years I always thought. I am afraid if I get pregnant, he will wean too early. My pregnancy with him was awful, nausea-wise, but I feel healthier now than when I got pregnant, which I hope might help. I'd like to lose 20 pounds, too. So, I guess, I'm borderline avoiding, but would actually like to have a 2 or 2.5 year age gap if I can manage to nurse through pregnancy. That is my number one concern. My son is pretty high needs, but also delightful, and I would love to give him a close sibling. Since we aren't avoiding, I guess it is possible, but I don't think I'm quite fertile yet. We're playing it by ear...

Anyone else in this position - kinda wanting to conceive, but also not wanting to risk losing a great toddler nursing relationship?

I should add, it took us 14 months to conceive our son, so I'm wary of actively avoiding, you know?

[lilcrunchymama]

Originally Posted by puffnstuff

New to this thread...

I have a 15.5-month-old and my PP periods began at 13 months. I'm pretty sure I have ovulated twice since then, but my LP is super short (like a week or less). I'm having pretty short cycles altogether, it seems. I don't chart, just watch CM. Anyway, we don't have sex often, as we're usually pretty tired and we co-sleep, but when we do, we don't use anything. I would consider amping up the "efforts" (the ball seems to be in my court), but I've always planned on nursing my son until he weaned naturally - 3-4 years I always thought. I am afraid if I get pregnant, he will wean too early. My pregnancy with him was awful, nausea-wise, but I feel healthier now than when I got pregnant, which I hope might help. I'd like to lose 20 pounds, too. So, I guess, I'm borderline avoiding, but would actually like to have a 2 or 2.5 year age gap if I can manage to nurse through pregnancy. That is my number one concern. My son is pretty high needs, but also delightful, and I would love to give him a close sibling. Since we aren't avoiding, I guess it is possible, but I don't think I'm quite fertile yet. We're playing it by ear...

Anyone else in this position - kinda wanting to conceive, but also not wanting to risk losing a great toddler nursing relationship?

I should add, it took us 14 months to conceive our son, so I'm wary of actively avoiding, you know?

Hello! I have no advice in the nursing department, since I haven't nursed in 2 years, but hopefully someone else has some insight.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by puffnstuff

Anyone else in this position - kinda wanting to conceive, but also not wanting to risk losing a great toddler nursing relationship?

I'm worried about this, to an extent. I wanted to nurse DD until 2, and we're on the path towards that (DD is 20 mo) and besides some gentle mama led weaning, she's still very much a boob girl. I don't want it to be sudden if I do get pg, but I also know I don't want to tandem nurse. And at this point, I'll be ok if she weans as long as it isn't traumatic for her. Right now she only nurses to sleep, if she's hurt, or sick, and I've got no other real tools in my toolbox for getting her to sleep otherwise, so unless something else works out, we'll just have to deal.

I say cross that bridge when it comes. I wouldn't rule out whatevering just b/c you don't want your LO to wean. So many mamas nurse right through pg and tandem. I'm not saying it won't be hard or uncomfortable, but since it has taken you awhile to conceive in the past, I would loosen the reigns and hope for the best.

Just my 2 cents!

[lilcrunchymama]

I think I am going to test in the morning. I will be on CD 27, so that puts me anywhere from 11-14 DPO. That's pretty good for an accurate result. I figure if I am pregnant then I will let DP know on Father's Day. If I can contain it for that long.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by puffnstuff

Anyone else in this position - kinda wanting to conceive, but also not wanting to risk losing a great toddler nursing relationship?

I was still nursing my 2nd child when I got pg with my 3rd. He was almost 3 at the time. I did end up weaning him somewhere between 2 and 3 months pg because nursing hurt too much. It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive ds2. We had planned to start TTC when he was 2 but my dh was going to deploy right before then so we started when he was only 15 months. It still took us 1 year to conceive ds3, excluding the 6 months dh was deployed. I'm currently nursing ds3, who just turned 3 years old. I had 3 miscarriages while nursing ds2 and TTC ds3 and 2 miscarriages in the last year while nursing ds3. I don't know if the nursing is related to the miscarriages or not.

[Amanda Williams]

Finally read the entire thread and I definitely belong here!
I feel right at home.

I'll post more after I get the kiddos to bed.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by lilcrunchymama

I think I am going to test in the morning. I will be on CD 27, so that puts me anywhere from 11-14 DPO. That's pretty good for an accurate result. I figure if I am pregnant then I will let DP know on Father's Day. If I can contain it for that long.

Ooh! Keep us posted!

Originally Posted by Amanda Williams

Finally read the entire thread and I definitely belong here!
I feel right at home.

I'll post more after I get the kiddos to bed.

Welcome!

AFM - I'm truly anxious to see what my temp does tomorrow am! I don't know what I'm wishing for. I won't know till I see it.

[StephandOwen]

I tested earlier today and it came out however, after taking it I read a bunch online that you aren't supposed to guzzle water and then take it since it won't read the hormone level. Doh! That's exactly what I did (tmi... I've been peeing all day so I can wipe and see if anything is there ). Then I ran out, got a test, guzzled a glass of water and took it. Still nothing is going on down there though, which is really really unusual for me (I should have started spotting yesterday and had full blown AF by this morning) Will test again in the morning if AF doesn't show...

[hilary549]

I just had to read all nine pages of this and STILL don't know if lyterae is preg! sigh. i will have to come back tomorrow. i am totally in the whatever stage- with a 16.5 mo old and on cd 14 after my first PP AF. i'm 34 and my dh is 39 so sooner rather than later is our goal. when we were ttc #1, it took 5 months which i know is not so long but it did begin to feel a bit stressful and i don't want that to happen again, so we're just seeing what happens, no bc but not exactly hopping into bed every other day, either. it was easier to not think about it before PP AF though. now that i'm charting and temping again, it is on my mind more. and strangely, my libido increased as well, after a long hibernation during pregnancy and cosleeping and nursing. i mean, i am still nursing but only once a day and at night. one person earlier (i am really bad at remembering who said what) mentioned not wanting to tandem nurse, and that is something i am not sure about- no way to decide before it happens though, i think.
anyway, hi to everyone and hope for news on lyterae tomorrow.
-hilary

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by hilary549

I just had to read all nine pages of this and STILL don't know if lyterae is preg! sigh. i will have to come back tomorrow.

I KNOW!!! That is why I keep reading this thread..........I totally enjoy all the POAS action without all the hyperventilating that goes into it when I POAS

I just have to say lyterae - if I knew you IRL, I would be knocking on your door with a freaking stick to pee on already!

[onetwoten]

Originally Posted by hilary549

I just had to read all nine pages of this and STILL don't know if lyterae is preg! sigh. i will have to come back tomorrow.

hahaha It's funny how invested we all are in this. But you're right Annie-- it's so less stressful when it's not you. The problem is we need more people in her stage, so that lyterae has someone else to freak out about. Now who's volunteering?

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica

Now who's volunteering?

NOT ME!!!! (but only because I already have a crazy handful )

[kcroto42]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen

I tested earlier today and it came out however, after taking it I read a bunch online that you aren't supposed to guzzle water and then take it since it won't read the hormone level. Doh! That's exactly what I did (tmi... I've been peeing all day so I can wipe and see if anything is there ). Then I ran out, got a test, guzzled a glass of water and took it. Still nothing is going on down there though, which is really really unusual for me (I should have started spotting yesterday and had full blown AF by this morning) Will test again in the morning if AF doesn't show...

When I got pg with Lucy, it took me a L-O-N-G time to get a positive test result. I wasn't charting at the time, so I don't have exact numbers, but if I got pg when I'm pretty sure I did, it was a full three weeks later before I got that line, but when I did, it was WHOA dark. I think I took three BFN tests beforehand. Good times.

Originally Posted by jeninejessica

hahaha It's funny how invested we all are in this. But you're right Annie-- it's so less stressful when it's not you. The problem is we need more people in her stage, so that lyterae has someone else to freak out about. Now who's volunteering?

Me Me Me. Only, my temp is doing stupid things. Not sure what this is about. The two open circle temps were from late temping over the weekend. If I didn't or don't O, this will be the first time that I've ever had a patch of CF but didn't O. So, wacky.

[BarefootScientist]

Wow, I can NOT keep up with this thread, but good luck to those who are testing! Whichever way you are currently wanting it to go....la la la.

I'm moving tomorrow so not much whatevering of any kind going on. I think DH and I will have to have a talk about it once we get settled in the new place, and decide if we're still avoiding...or whatevering...or what.