See Kristine, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I've read so many books/journals/posts lately by spouses whose marriages got to the point where they only time they interacted was when the woman was fertile, and other than that it's like "Meh... you can go sit in a corner until I need you again" And I really don't want to get like that! While I DO want to conceive, I don't want it to be the only reason for intimacy.
Originally Posted by akind1
it is so scary! I see hugely pregnant women and I think: I do NOT miss maternity jeans!
I have no clue when or if I have O'd. No clue. so I don't know if I'm waiting to O or waiting for AF . . . I figure if AF hasn't arrived by July, then I might test. Beyond that, I am like, whatever.
See and I LOVE maternity clothing!! I worked at a maternity shop for a few years, and got tons of free clothing. I love me some panel pants that don't dig into my hips.
Can you tell I move around a lot at work?
MW: That's such a hard scenario, and I don't blame you for wavering. I want lots and lots of children, but if you threw in the variable of DH not being here... all of a sudden my mind kind of goes blank.
lyterae: I saw the nice temp rise... *wiggles eyebrows* No really though... this is the sort of thing I'm talking about, because you get to that point and (I anyways...) find that I can't think of anything else. And I find as we're getting more into the whatever stage and less of the avoiding, I'm starting to find so many more 'symptoms' and wanting to test early to find out. But at the same time... I don't want to. I want that excitement of "Wait a minute! I'm LATE!" not testing every 12 hours from 7dpo onwards and freaking out about it. Sounds pretty much impossible though, doesn't it!!
Babycakes: Yeah that's true. There's a difference between being excited to DTD in a fertile time, and ONLY dtd during a fertile time, and then spending the next several days overinterpreting everything... and then once you get a negative, obsessing that your body is broken. I know my body is not broken, and that we will get pregnant when we are meant to, but I also know that in my head-- if we *don't* get pregnant right away, I'm going to be like wtf? And so I'm telling myself to, as lyterae put it- be zen, and take it as it comes, and if it takes 6 months, then it takes 6 months, and then that's what's supposed to happen. And if it happens the first month, then same thing- that is obviously how it's supposed to go.
akind1- my cousin is due with her second child on July 26th. Her first was born August 2 of last year... To say it wasn't planned is putting it lightly. She ended up back in hospital with actually severe heart complications less than a week after birth and wasn't 'back to normal' for several weeks. She attempted breastfeeding, but what with almost dying and everything... she ended up stopping. They also had quite a bit of trouble conceiving the first time, and with being so soon after birth, she didn't even think she was fertile yet. Fastforward a few months... Surprise baby! I think she was 3 months along before they found out? But- it's one of those cases where while maybe medically it was not good timing, it also is a blessing, because due to her new heart condition, they would not have tried for another... and now they get one.
Mummoth: Comments like that make me absolutely melt!