TTC even though it's a bad time, anyone else?

[crunchy_mommy]

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DH & I had a good talk about this last night & agreed (if it's not already too late, though I don't *think* I'm pg) that we should hold off to at least get my health under control first. I think we're both sad/frustrated that we're not able to make our family the way we always imagined but we did realize we could try to adopt etc. if things didn't work out otherwise....

[vivica2]

good luck!
and if it doesnt happen this cycle, i would take a GOOD HARD LOOK at the position you woudl be putting you and your family if if you decide to try again. only you and your family know whats best for everyone. even your son.

[crunchy_mommy]

Yeah I've been going back & forth every cycle, mostly deciding not to try but this cycle we decided to try... and maybe next cycle we shouldn't but it took us a year to conceive DS and we are not content to have an only child... *sigh* maybe I am crazy. And DH even moreso, he is more into TTC than me actually...

[lilmom]

I don't think there is ever a "perfect" time. And if you want more, I don't see the problem with it.

[MountainMamaGC]

I have a chronic illness and sometimes it feels like there is never a good time, BUT make sure your health is a little under control next time you TTC. It will make your pregnancy all the less stressful.

[gummibears]

We've been trying through some incredibly stressful times, but we knew that if we waited we'd regret it. At least now we have some of the early months you likely would not conceive behind us and we are stress-free and getting back on track for a NORMAL life... not the heck we were living that was a pitiful excuse for life.

What I'm getting at is that if you feel it's right, try. Your body will respond as it sees fit, but at least you know you are on the path to a bfp in the meantime.

[WTHamI?]

We're trying at a less than ideal time too. We are full time RVers and probably will be for at LEAST another 2 years due to my husband's job. So we are TTC with the knowledge that we will probably be RVing with an infant. I also wanted to lose quite a bit of weight before TTC but I've been trying for a long time and it's SO hard with our current lifestyle because I can't just go out and join a gym. I feel like if I wait to lose the weight it might never happen, at least not in time to have children, and I am otherwise in good health so I think I would really regret not having a child just because I was a size 16 instead of an 8. I eat very healthy, but can't seem to lose anything unless I'm really working out every day We also have no idea where DH will be working when the baby is born so we'll basically have to pick a midwife on an educated guess, and I may have to drive a crazy long way for appointments.

So it's not ideal, but if we wait until we're settled down somewhere we could be 35 and 48 by the time we have our first child, and that's certainly not ideal either. We have been TTC since March. On the plus side, financially things are good and we have health insurance. Not that ours covers midwife care.

[samy23]

I'm not in the best situation either, but who is? I go back and forth all the time, but I continue to try anyway because I know it's what I want, I'm just not sure it's the right time. Will there ever be a right time?

Before I started TTC I wanted to lose some weight, move from our apartment to a house, complete my studying/education, get into a better paid job which would mean being in a better position financially, get a car...the list could go on.

But I don't see why I can't still do those things after I've had my second child. I'm doing it while having one child, trying to get a house and studying, so why can't I continue to do it with 2 children? People are doing it that way round all the time these days.

I could put it off until I've accomplished those things, probably would be an easier situation, but I don't think that's right for my family. My dd is already 7 years old, the gap is already going to be fairly large, I'm getting older, I really don't want to wait any longer.

[Arianwen1174]

I think some people might say no time is good for us, since DH and I are both on disability. But it's not like we just up and decided, "Hey, let's see what it's like to maybe have a baby." We've thought and talked and prayed for years and feel it's the best time ever for us finally. We are pretty low income but definitely believe babies and children don't need all the trappings many folks think they need. It will be more stressful for us than for some but we honestly feel up to the challenge. I very much believe that if we're supposed to have a baby, s/he will make an appearance. For us, it's in the hands of God/the universe/whatever.

[forthekids123]

Originally Posted by lilmom

I don't think there is ever a "perfect" time. And if you want more, I don't see the problem with it.

Perfectly Said!!!