DS always wants "Mommy"

[nelson]

DS 2 yrs. has always preferred me over DH, but lately it's miserable. He screams if DH tries to even hold him if I'm nearby and he screams and cries for me when they try do something just the two of them. I feel bad for my DH and I also feel really tired of being the only parent who can help my DS. I stay home with him 4 days a week solo and DH is home with him 2.5 days solo, and on those days he is fine. It's the worst if we are all together as a family, which is too bad because that rarely happens. What can I do to help this situation, it's driving me crazy?

[LindsC]

My Ds has been acting like this a lot lately too. He is perfectly fine if I am not around, but if we are all home, I have to do everything for him and he will not let Dh do anything for him which can be really upseting for Dh and frustrating too. I have tried talking to Ds and telling him that daddy can help out with 'x' (getting changed, bathtime, putting him to bed) but he still cries for me. I figure it is a phase that he is going through since he has also been acting very clingy lately and not wanting me to leave for work or run any errands without him. I will just continue to suggest having daddy help him with things and see what happens.

[changingseasons]

We're having this issue lately too. DD (32mo) has always been a mommy's girl, but lately she just freaks out (like "I'm being murdered!!" screaming ) if DP tries to help her do anything. It's really frustrating. Not only does it majorly hurt his feelings, it means that I don't get ANY time to just sit down by myself and let DP take control for a while. I really hope this phase ends quickly....

[LROM]

My DD is only 18 months right now, but she's had phases of this (some longer than others) and we feel the same way you guys do.

But what we've learned we have to just do is continue to have DH do whatever he was doing, and little by little even when initially she has a fit about it, she mostly adjusts and calms down eventually.

Of course we both hate hearing her cry like that so he used ot be quick to hand her back to me and I'd be quick to run over. But we're really working hard to NOT do that, to just talk to her and say "Mommy is right over there but Daddy is going to do this" and we just do it through the tears. Usually we can get her to calm down, especially as she learns that cryign isn't going to change it.