I miss....

[ann_of_loxley]

Being pregnant!

I had a dream the other night that I was pregnant. I was HUGE! I saw myself in a mirror. My bump was more round like it was with DS1.

I know DH says no more children and I know every other day I think 'I can't possibly have any more children - I am just not cut out for that kinda thing!'...But I don't know. I just sorta feel like there is still one more child out there - waiting for me and our family.

I feel kinda sad. I miss being pregnant.

[jsh7809]

Aaaah, careful what you wish for!
I don't miss it, I was really ready to be done (42 weeks!). But I know what you mean... I don't think we're doing it again, and although my hormones seem to have ALREADY ERASED my memories of how it felt to be physically pregnant/ in labor... I both am relieved that the hard parts (ha) are over, and miss feeling her swim around and feeling special and anticipatory...

[rhiOrion]

Ha!

OMG I hated being pregnant.

I *know* that.

But I can't really remember it. I also hated labor. But I can't remember that either.

Stupid evolution.

I just keep trying to remember that I really really hated pregnancy. But there is a little bit of me that misses that special connection of her still on the inside.

[finn'smama]

I absolutely do NOT!

[emmalizz]

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[ivymae]

Before this pregnancy, I said I would like to be a surrogate after our baby days were over, because I loved being pregnant so much. Then I threw up 10 times a day for 6 months and changed my mind. As far as being 'done' with babies, we'll see. We're not sure yet, so I'm not mourning it yet, but I'm sure when we ARE done I will struggle with it. I identify so much as a mom of little kids that when that changes I will be a little lost.

[jolesh]

i am so happy to NEVER be pregnant again.. got a tubal so no chance. and it is a relief. though i did have a twinge the other day that i might have wanted a third baby at some point in the distant future. but i do NOT want to be pregnar ever again...

[Knitting Mama]

Ann, I'm with you. I desperately miss being pregnant. My husband reminds me that if we got pregnant again now (assuming we could, since I never have regular periods and haven't been checking to see if I'm ovulating), I would not be happy with a newborn and an 11 month old. But I loved being pregnant so much, and the sooner we can get pregnant again, the better!

I had a pregnancy dream recently too, and I was watching Cecilia run around while being pregnant with her baby sister. I hope it comes true! I want another girl!

[dogretro]

Aimee, having two girls is awesome! It is hot today so all three of us are in lovely long summer skirts/dresses. We look great together!

I do kinda miss being pg. I love the magical mystery of it. That said, I am much happier to be the mom of a newborn than to be largely pg. If it weren't for the v rough first tri, I could easily have 34908 more babies myself. I also do not like how tired & run-down pregnancy makes me in relation to my other kids. Like, I would play w/ them more and have more fun if I had more energy. I really really looked forward to that at the end of this pg ~ that the instant it was over, I knew I would get all of my energy back. If I were to fall pg again right away, that is the only reason I would be upset.

[Carita]

i think i felt that way after DS was born. but not this one. I feel complete with our family. while i wouldn't be devastated if i accidentally got pregnant, I woul dfeel much more stable financially and emotionally if I didn't LOL. Plus this pregnancy was prety tough physicaly - I felt like I was being pulled apart from the inside. I would do anything for my babies and endured it cheerfully, but that doesn't mean I want to experience it again!

[snoopy5386]

I feel the exact same way Ann. I totally have baby fever now. Before I never understood how people with babies could have baby fever, but now I totally get it. I say all the time, "this is it?, it can't be it, I want to do this again, I want another one". But DH is totally against it. Getting him to agree to a second was soooooo tough, a 3rd is pretty much out of the question unless we have an oops or he has huge change of heart. I was reading the insert of the minipill I am taking and it says 1 in 200 perfect users and 1 in 20 average users will end up pregnant in a year of taking it. My first thought was how badly I wanted to be one of those people.
DD2 isn't helping either - she is such a great, easy baby. Maybe if I had one of these screamer-non-sleeper babies I'd feel differently.
Sigh.....

[1stTimeMama4-4-10]

I've got a screamer non sleeper and I know getting pregnant too soon would be a bad idea because DD requires ALL of our energy and attention, I don't know how we could meet her needs and the needs of a newborn infant. That being said, I LOVED being pregnant and although my labor was very difficult, as soon as she was in my arms, I told DH I would totally do it again as soon as it was reasonable.

I think we will start trying again in about a year so they are 2 years apart, and I too am hoping for a second little girl. We haven't decided whether we will have more beyond 2, but I know we won't do any permanent birth control for a very long time. If we could swing it financially (between maternity leaves and the cost of raising multiple kids) I would probably want four.

I definitely know how you are feeling.

[Pepper44]

I also have baby fever like CRAZY! I can't wait to have more babies.

My pregnancy sucked--I felt sick the entire time and I was exhausted. My labor and her birth were the most amazing experience and I can't wait to do that again.

I want to wait until she's somewhere between 1 and 2 before we ttc again. I'm mainly concerned about my milk drying up. DD1 is still nursing at nearly 4 years old, I wouldn't want to deprive a baby under 2 of milkies. That would make me so sad.

I really want to be a mom of many. DH and I haven't set any exact numbers, only discussed that we'd have as many kids as we felt we could care for and afford...which right now is not very many. Seriously though, I want at least 4 biological children and maybe more through foster care and/or adoption assuming we can one day afford a better house.

[crazyeight]

i am remiss to post this cause i have no way to see that it could ever happen but i want another as well...however i knew that when i was still pg. i always wanted 5 kids. funny thing is that with bf's kids i DO have 5 kids! with them here i am feeling like its more complete however i want another girl. i have a girl name and really thought R was a girl. however since BF is SNIPPED i guess there's no way we're going to have another besides the fact that i don't really want bf's genes (that sounds funny..i love him dearly but i don't want his genetic material! )! so the only option is donor and i know that *I* can make the decision for me but i want him to want the baby too as well as me being able to afford it in the first place, be able to completely support all my kids myself.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

Oh we're crazy over here. No job, no money, and yet we'd still like to do another. Of course whether that happens or not is another question. I do miss being pregnant despite my whining at the end. It was a shock to me how good this pregnancy was when I HATED all the other pregnancies. And then to top it off the birth was so amazing!!!! But if this is it, I don't think I'd be overly said. I do feel complete with the four but another wouldn't destroy that feeling.

[ann_of_loxley]

I have super baby fever - but I would still want at least another 4 year age gap. Though if I were lucky for DH to say yes to a third, I am thinking more like 6 years next time around. I just don't feel finished or complete yet. I don't think DH will ever understand that though. I don't think men can in general.

[ivymae]

A good book some of you may be interested in - Spirit Babies, by Walter Makichen (a man ). I read it with a few friends, around the time I got pregnant with Becky. I was hesitant to get pregnant again, but I really, really thought there was a boy waiting for us. Either i was off, or Becky was quicker and that boy is still lingering, waiting. He'll have to be sneaky and faster next time I guess.

Oh, and a link to the book would be helpful, right?
http://www.amazon.com/Spirit-Babies-...6266499&sr=8-1

Ps, yes it is just as New Age as the description sounds. Once you get over your skepticism though, it's a really interesting read.

[Laneybug]

I seriously miss being pregnant, too! It started the last day I was in the hospital. Due to an unplanned induction and c-section, I was there five days and I guess because of my vulnerability (pain, sadness about the csection and being too drugged to bond with my baby after she was born---but that's another post!) and the kindness of the nurses and LCs and my OB, I grew attached to the staff and didn't want to leave. Crazy. Follow-up visits to the OB and some baby blues the first few weeks of D's life only intensified the loss I felt after giving birth. I felt guilty even admitting that I missed being pregnant, as if I was saying that my daughter wasn't enough or wasn't fulfilling my expectations. And the beginning was scary---all my experience with young children did not prepare me completely for having a newborn of my own to take care of. Sure, diapers were easy and bf'ing went really well but the crying and neediness and lack of sleep were all new---plus trying to educate the husband (who was naturally completely clueless about babies and lacking a mother's instinct) without being overbearing and crabby...and then just plain missing my cuddly time with HIM. So yeah, pregnancy for me was relatively easy compared to the major life change that happened for us right after she was born!

But NOW I am so in love with being a mom that those first weeks are just a blur in my memories and the last uncomfortable months of pregnancy where I peed 50 times a day and couldn't sleep worth a damn (let alone the nausea of the first trimester) are an even more distant memory. And I want more, more, more babies (preferably girls, but I shouldn't say that)! A few psychics told me I'd have a girl and a boy so it's kind of cemented in my head that I won't be the baby machine I fantasize about.

I miss my pregnant body, too...even though I put on 60 pounds I felt sexier then than I do now, even though I've lost 40 of it.

It's funny (don't remember who mentioned the minipill) because I just started it yesterday and I was thinking the same thing--I hope I'm one of the women who "accidentally" get pregnant, too! That's messed up!

[rhiOrion]

Originally Posted by Laneybug

I seriously miss being pregnant, too! It started the last day I was in the hospital. Due to an unplanned induction and c-section, I was there five days and I guess because of my vulnerability (pain, sadness about the csection and being too drugged to bond with my baby after she was born---but that's another post!) and the kindness of the nurses and LCs and my OB, I grew attached to the staff and didn't want to leave. Crazy.

I'm thinking this sort of thing is pretty common. I think the main thing I miss about being pregnant is getting to go to the birth center. Luckily they're primary care, and I can go there for anything I'd go to a regular dr for. But after L's birth I felt a very strong attachment to the MWs. Of course, one of them eventually recommended Babywise to me, and I sort of lost my attachment for her.

[mrsbabycakes]

I looooved being pregnant. I miss it terribly. My SIL is about to pop and I sat with my hands on her belly for a good 10 minutes the other night, just soaking it in.

I had such a healthy, easy pregnancy and my son is so laid back and happy, we wouldn't be too upset if we got an oops. That said, grad school starts next August, so that might not be such a good idea. I try to tell myself that sticking to the plan and getting pregnant next Autumn would be better. It's not that far away, I guess.