My mom and sister own a cake shop. So, yeah, DD gets cake occasionally, though really not as often as you would think given that circumstance.
Ice Cream-I don't usually give her her own dish, but only because I don't want to clean it up. When we have ice cream (and I am pg so having it more than usual) she gets little spoonfulls from ours.
Cookies, brownies, other baked goods, well, we just rarely have them in the house. If there's a smokin' sale and I am craving some, I might pick some up, but for example right now, the only baked goods in the house are the leftovers of DH's birthday cake and a muffin left over from a pack I bought at a charity bake sale while yard saling. Actually that was last Saturday, so I should probably pitch that.
Now, junky "meal" food, like hot dogs, processed side dishes etc, that's different. We do probably eat more of that stuff than we should. I would say she gets that stuff probably once or twice a week. We grilled for DH's birthday party, so she had a hot dog with that. And Monday, we spent the ENTIRE DAY in the car, from 8:30am, to 5pm when I headed to work, so she unfortunately got fast food that day. But other than that, this week has been mostly me cooking, fresh veggies, chicken breasts, ham etc. I am trying to improve the frequency of the fresh veggie and real meats cooking, but it's hard sometimes between costs, me working part time in the evenings over dinnner and being pg with an 18 month old running around, not to mention a teen who has several of her own commitments.
The idea that giving sugar is child abuse? Um, wow, judgemental much? Sugar and processed foods are unfortunately a part of our world. They are a part of the world that children will grow up in. Never allowing children exposure to those things does not allow them to learn how to deal with them properly. Children learn best through experience and if they never experience exposure to those foods that are a part of the world they have entered, they won't best learn how to handle those foods. It's a recipe for eating disorders and self esteem issues.
(But then again, I am one who has issues with the legal drinking age and can't help but wonder if Europe isn't onto something in that respect)